What do you do when you are down?

[fryjack2]

I'm naturally a worrier/over thinker and wish I could be more of an optimistic person.   The ridiculous elitist preschool admission process here, the weather changing, H working a lot, a condo we really wanted falling through, and feeling like I'm doing anything well is not doing good things for my mental health.  H read an article that says that people often get down post marathon completion ( I ran Chicago 2 weeks ago) and I can understand that, but I also think its not just that with me.  I need a boost.

My plan is to try to put lots of activities on the calendar to look forward to.  I want to start using the gym daycare so I can get in a workout without hiring a babysitter, and to create a winter daily routine with the twins since I will be home more now and going outside will be a bit tougher.

What do you do when you need a pick me up?  Or when the thought of fall and winter depress you?

[Deleted]

I go get a massage.

I take Lillie for a walk around the block.

I sit in the back yard in the sun and listen to nature.

Cry.

Clean and focus my sadness into energy

[Kristinmo]

I eat.

Probably don't want to copy that.

[Deleted]

Keeping busy so I don't have time to dwell on it.

I become grossly positive like Sue Sue said (I say things "brightly!").

I also do something for myself, so I think the gym daycare is a great idea. If you get into a routine of it, too (going around the same time every day/week), the boys will start making friends, too. Which will lead to YOU making friends and playdates and everything. I think that's a FABULOUS thing to start.

Oh and getting outside every day really helps us and the kids. I can tell when they've been cooped too much

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And hey, this winter we should try to get the kids together or something! It'd be a fun break in whatever. Children's museum, science museum, if you wanted to come up to the PEM they have a kids room, etc. So plan on THAT

[cinnamoncox]

I'm a mother of twin too, how old are yours?
That would help me answer.
When they were younger? Meds
Really, I was told I was depressed and all this stuf and was put on about three diff meds. I've recently come to see that most of the side effects I got from all the meds (tired always, no sex drive, like zero, slower metabolism so a little thicker around the waist) were contributing to my negativity. So, I'm off meds. And already feel better.

Now that they are three an go to preschool four days a week?

Ditto sue sue on the organized house is organized mind (although easier said than done, but true as can be)

I drink a daily vitamin mixture that is so damn healthy I feel like a million bucks after a week of drinking it
(It's cheaper than buying a million different vitamins individually and taking all those pills, plus I feel like since it's powder and I mix it and drink it, it's def getting in my system vs wondering if my pills dissolved. Shuddup I'm anxious too lol)

Exercise but only things I like, such as yoga or the elliptical. I'd die if I had to run or something more vigorous (recent car accident makes these more painful than helpful)

And I find that having something that is just mine (reading time, a weight goal, etc) is freakin awesome.
I've got a 14 year old and twin 3 year olds.
Everything I do is for someone else.
I need that only me thing, whatever it may be at the time.
It's been painting the back hall, sandin and shining the kitchen cabinets, a good book, etc. whatever u will enjoy and get a sense of accomplishment/completion out of

Good luck
I get winter SAD so I'm trying everything to head it off at the pass this year.
So I'm reading all these other tips as well

[winnied]

:drink:

Probably not the best decision. This is usually followed up by a Holocaust movie where I always think the main character is going to make it and, well, they don't - because it's the Holocaust. I then proceed to ugly cry for an hour. 

[fryjack2]

Oct 23, 2013 11:11:18 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I am challenging you right now to make a list of at least 10 great things you've done in the past year.
When you're done with that, write out ten kind things you've done in the past month. You've done them, you're just not counting them.


A book that helped me, if you're in to this sort of thing, is The Happiness Project. It's written by a well educated, well off woman with small children and how she makes her life and her family's life happy. It's a good book, though she's kind of preachy at times. (pot calling kettle black, shut up.lol)

I try to do pretty much everything you wrote   I remind myself ALL.THE.TIME. that I have a great life. I need to appreciate it and actually LIVE it.

I come from a family of overachievers and perfectionists.  It doesn't help me feel accomplished, but I know that I am!

I've read the Happiness Project. I felt the same way you did. 

I try to start each say in a positive way.  I do try to find the bright side of things, but its not my natural thought process as much as I wish it was, so sometimes it gets tough.  Like when the boys throw their lunch on the floor again.  Its hard to think,"oh how adorable, they are discovering gravity!" when I really want to leave the mess for someone else to clean up

I'll have to try the protein thing and pick up some more vitamins. 

[cinnamoncox]

Sue sue YES!

Dh said the same to me the other day.
I was in a cleaning frenzy and I said to him "see, you can tell I'm super anxious when I'm cleaning like this" and he said something to the effect of not to view it as anxiety being negative in that case because look, you are getting it DONE!

Then I switched my thinking to yeah he's right, I could go lay on the couch to try and feel less anxious but I'm not, I'm cleaning and making the house a better place for us all, how is that a bad/negative thing, no matter what is "driving" me to do it

[fryjack2]

cinnamoncox They just turned 18 months.

winnied I legit LOL'd

ninjabridemom I get outside every day that its not pouring. I plan to do the same this winter but I know our outdoor time will be shorter than now. I'm thinking we need a membership to the MOS because the Children's museum is getting a bit old. For me at least. Ha!

[pantsparty]

I find trying to sit in the sun and close my eyes helps. No really. I will find a patch of sun, like a cat, and sit in it.

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Oct 23, 2013 10:51:55 GMT -5 fryjack2 said:

I'm naturally a worrier/over thinker and wish I could be more of an optimistic person.   The ridiculous elitist preschool admission process here, the weather changing, H working a lot, a condo we really wanted falling through, and feeling like I'm doing anything well is not doing good things for my mental health.  H read an article that says that people often get down post marathon completion ( I ran Chicago 2 weeks ago) and I can understand that, but I also think its not just that with me.  I need a boost.

My plan is to try to put lots of activities on the calendar to look forward to.  I want to start using the gym daycare so I can get in a workout without hiring a babysitter, and to create a winter daily routine with the twins since I will be home more now and going outside will be a bit tougher.

What do you do when you need a pick me up?  Or when the thought of fall and winter depress you?

I could have wrote that first sentence. I'm sorry you are feeling run down, but I think filling your calendar with things you will look forward to is a great idea!


I go to my favorite coffee house, order my favorite drink, sit down on their comfy couch, and people watch.

I light all the candles in my house.

I go shopping.

I hug my animals, my Fi, baby X.

I go to the gym and listen to Britney Spears while I jog.

[Deleted]

I love the winter time. I don't get the seasonal sadness about it BUT I do get down around the holidays. Ever since my mom had her stroke I feel like I missed out on so much and that my kids are missing out. I miss the big family gatherings we had. Now no one wants to take it over and even though I try to do it all and make it happy like it used to be it never is. That bums me out.

What I do.. I exercise, I shop or I call up a few girlfriends and we go see a movie at the luxe level and eat and drink. Being with my friends really helps me out of the funk.

My dh is good and tries but there is something about commiserating with that particular group of women that really helps.

I am sorry you are feeling down. HUGS

[fryjack2]

Hahaha! During the winter, I tell myself that eating more is ok, we are meant to hibernate in cold weather and need a bit of extra insulation

I also love shopping, but am trying to curb that a bit since we have preschool x2 to pay for soon and are saving for another house.

Thanks for the suggestions, I'll definitely try some!