SHould I be an awesome mom but crappy daughter?

[sonrisa]

I've been planning to forgo a 3rd birthday party for DD. She's only three (so it isn't like she knows better). I don't want to bother getting the house organized enough to host a dozen kids and their parents. It's a small house. We'd have to move furniture out of the nursery room and the living/dining room and it would still be tight. I'll be about 35/36 weeks pregnant at the time and feel lazy even thinking about it. Mid-november is too cold for an outdoor party. 

My mom's house is about twice the size of ours and has a big living room / dining room area. They have hosted parties for 50-70 people before, no problem. I am thinking of asking her if we could host there. We'd hire house cleaners before and after, plus do all the work. But it's still a big imposition. She loves parties and is a pushover for her granddaughter so she'd probably say yes if I asked. She will also be hosting Thanksgiving just two weeks later (she'll host, I'll do most of the cooking).

Should I be a bad daughter and ask?

[Deleted]

Yes.

[sonrisa]

Oct 28, 2013 12:24:28 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Have you mentioned your concerns about throwing a party to her? She might offer and then you wouldn't have to feel bad about asking. lol

That is exactly how I would phrase it. lol. She has offered to host other things for DD and her friends in the past and I've never taken her up on it. She loves her house and loves showing it off.

[thebreakfastclub]

If she loves hosting parties anyway, I bet she would really enjoy the opportunity.

[looseseal]

I would definitely ask.

[sonrisa]

Oct 28, 2013 12:26:33 GMT -5 @kirkette said:

Even if you host the party at your mom's, won't it still be exhausting to plan?

Planning is fun for me. Target and Costco runs for supplies are also fun (sort of). Lugging furniture around and squeezing too many people into a tiny space, not so much fun. 

[sneetch]

Knowing that she likes to throw parties, I'd ask.

[hopecounts]

If you are up for throwing a party talk to your Mom about it.
Make it clear that a no is totally fine and NBD when you ask and see what she says.

[Gato]

I think it sounds like a great idea.

[sonrisa]

Oct 28, 2013 12:30:10 GMT -5 @kirkette said:

Oct 28, 2013 12:28:03 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

Planning is fun for me. Target and Costco runs for supplies are fun. Lugging furniture around and squeezing too many people into a tiny space, not so much fun. 

I love planning too, just not at 36 weeks. 
At 36 weeks, I felt like I deserved a gold start for getting dressed and going to brunch. 

Denial is also fun?

[sonrisa]

Oct 28, 2013 12:28:50 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan said:

you are the worst. how can you live with yourself? go eat a big mac and don't recycle the wrapper. 

Do I have to? In-n-out is right next door. 

[niche]

If she loves everything involved, then it might be a compliment/treat for her.

[sonrisa]

Oct 28, 2013 12:48:42 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Yes.

I was waiting for your response since you are also a mom who likes parties and will be a pushover for any future grandkids :-)

[Deleted]

We hosted L's 1st bday party at my parents house. They didn't mind at all

[emsumm]

I don't think this is that big of an imposition, when it's your parent's home. At least, it wouldn't be for my family.

[sonrisa]

Oct 28, 2013 13:26:12 GMT -5 HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan said:

Oct 28, 2013 12:49:34 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Or, throw her a party at the zoo or chucky cheese or whatever.

hahahahahaah.  as if. 

I just checked and the closest one is Pinole. Or Ronhert Park. The hour drive would winnow the guest list, though.

[snipsnsnails]

As someone who also loves party planning and just hosted 40ish peeps for a 3rd birthday - don't do it! Rent out a place! 36 weeks pregnant is no joke and the exhaustion will be great!

[sonrisa]

Oct 28, 2013 13:30:45 GMT -5 snipsnsnails said:

As someone who also loves party planning and just hosted 40ish peeps for a 3rd birthday - don't do it! Rent out a place! 36 weeks pregnant is no joke and the exhaustion will be great!

See, with a rented place, I'd have to do the set up on site right before the guests arrive. At my mom's, I could set up the day before and just waltz in. Cleaning ladies could arrive an hour after the party ends. I thought it might be easier. Hmmmm.

[snipsnsnails]

Oct 28, 2013 13:34:27 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

Oct 28, 2013 13:30:45 GMT -5 snipsnsnails said:

As someone who also loves party planning and just hosted 40ish peeps for a 3rd birthday - don't do it! Rent out a place! 36 weeks pregnant is no joke and the exhaustion will be great!

See, with a rented place, I'd have to do all the set up on site right before the guests arrive. At my mom's, I could set up the day before and just waltz in. Cleaning ladies could arrive an hour after the party ends. I thought it might be easier. Hmmmm.

No, no, I mean, go to a place that hosts parties and have the party there! Bounce U, a kids' art studio, something!

[sonrisa]

Oct 28, 2013 13:35:29 GMT -5 snipsnsnails said:

Oct 28, 2013 13:34:27 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

See, with a rented place, I'd have to do all the set up on site right before the guests arrive. At my mom's, I could set up the day before and just waltz in. Cleaning ladies could arrive an hour after the party ends. I thought it might be easier. Hmmmm.

No, no, I mean, go to a place that hosts parties and have the party there! Bounce U, a kids' art studio, something!

That seems so fancy for a 3 year old. She just stopped peeing in her pants. Most days.

[snipsnsnails]

Oct 28, 2013 13:38:56 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

Oct 28, 2013 13:35:29 GMT -5 snipsnsnails said:

No, no, I mean, go to a place that hosts parties and have the party there! Bounce U, a kids' art studio, something!

That seems so fancy for a 3 year old. She just stopped peeing in her pants. Most days.

Hahaha, you must not have Bounce U. There is routinely old pizza crusts stuck in between the inflatables, I'm sure. And who knows what's in the ball pit.