Have you ever referred to yourself as

[hisno1girl]

Mrs. DHFName DHLname?

(If you're married and took DH's last name)

I've signed stuff Mr. & Mrs. DHFName DHLName, but never just Mrs. DHFName DHLName.

I just got a letter from a lady who signed it "Mrs. John Doe."

Is this a southern thing??



 

[shoeless]

Never. I have heard of people doing it, but never seen it done.

[suzyp]

Nope. My Grandma does sometimes though, so I think it's an old thing.

[iamali]

My mom does this.

It annoys the piss out of me.

[Deleted]

Technically that's every woman's married name per antiquated etiquette, even if you don't take your husbands name. So it's an old person thing. I have never done so.

[ElizabethBennet]

No, never.

Sometimes H does it if he's signing stuff from both of us and it drives me insane. Mainly because I DID NOT CHANGE MY NAME.

[Nonny]

It's an antiquated etiquette thing. Personally it pisses me off. I took his last name because we are a family, but I didn't give up my identity and become his property FFS.

[polka]

I have not.*

*I kept my maiden name and added H's last name (no hyphen).

[hisno1girl]

I thought it was an old person thing too but this lady is young.

*lightbulb!*

Wait. She's a newlywed. Maybe that's it?

[wambam]

Never.

I also never put a "mrs./ms." on anything.

[wannabe]

I haven't, but I don't get all riled up about it. Doesn't bug me.

[Deleted]

No, but any time I receive mail from one of my husband's relatives (besides his sister) to just me, it is addressed to Mrs. DHFName DHLname.

And I didn't take his last name, which I would think is something of an indication that I don't want to be addressed that way?

[papie]

Oct 28, 2013 13:42:17 GMT -5 cville said:

Technically that's every woman's married name per antiquated etiquette, even if you don't take your husbands name. So it's an old person thing. I have never done so.

Yep

and lol my friend got a letter from her OWN GRANDMA addressed to MrsFriendH'FN FriendH'LN.  

[julez]

My grandmas (both of them) address my mail this way, and sign their formal correspondence this way.

I've never done it.

[Muddled]

Heck no. I find it insulting.

[sawyerthedestroyer]

No. I did however take a note from Game of Thrones and now sign everything House Lastname when it's from all of us.

[shostakovich]

Oct 28, 2013 14:17:16 GMT -5 sawyerthedestroyer said:

No. I did however take a note from Game of Thrones and now sign everything House Lastname when it's from all of us.

This is amazing and you are my new favorite person. 

(And I am totally stealing this for my holiday cards.  Now to think of a sigil...)

[AmeliaBedelia]

No, but I've been addressed that way on some invitations. It doesn't bother me, though I would never refer to myself in that way. I think it's an older generation thing.

[adhdfashion]

Yes, when I introduce myself to children.
I sign stuff from The Last Name Family.

[adhdfashion]

Oct 28, 2013 14:17:16 GMT -5 sawyerthedestroyer said:

No. I did however take a note from Game of Thrones and now sign everything House Lastname when it's from all of us.

This is totally awesome.

[meggers]

No, but my MIL does. That's even her name on her bank account. (I only know this because that's how her checks are preprinted when she sends one as a gift.) I didn't change my last name but I'll admit I love seeing junk mail addressed to my husband but with my last name instead of his. Lol

[thatgirl2478]

no... i've never done that - I don't even know if I've signed something 'Mrs.  Lastname' EVER!

[toepick]

My mom sent me a card right after I got married that was addressed that way "Mrs. John Doe" and I absolutely freaked out on her. Talk about having no identity of your own!

[Captain Serious]

NO.  This is a HUGE pet peeve of mine, to the point that I stressed we were to be announced as "Mr. and Mrs. HFirstName and MyFirstName OurLastName" at our wedding.  I did not cease to exist just because I married.

I think this is an outdated etiquette thing, not just specific to the south, but that southerners are more likely to still do it.

[vagrrrl]

No but I did not take DH's last name. I am called Mrs. Dh's Firstname DH's Lastname though. It's mostly older people and southerners who do this, in my case (I live in the South).

[bonquiqui]

I always refer to myself as Mrs. Enrique Iglesias

[thebreakfastclub]

My college sends me fundraising letters as Mrs. DHFName DHLName and it pisses me off to no end.   Like almost irrationally so.

He didn't go there, and his name is not on the check that I wrote.   It really makes me want to not donate at all.

For the record, it is a small, private semi-religious college in Pennsylvania.

[lime]

No, never. I didn't take H's lastname, either. I'm with everyone else who views this as generational.

The only person that has ever referred to me in written correspondence as Mrs John Doe is H's grandmother who was married to Mr John Doe, Sr.

[simplyinpenguin]

My dad likes to get cute in that passive-aggressive way of his. His passive-aggressive reaction to me not changing my last name is by addressing anything to me as "Mrs. H HLastname". The first time, meh, and I talked to him. The second time, I put "return to sender-no such person lives here", and that's when he got the hint. H's parents send us stuff to "Mr. and Mrs. H HLastname", but I don't talk to them about that as they do not know (over 3 years later) that I did not change my last name (I didn't want the battle over that).

[HiC]

No, never Mrs, only Viscountess Dh's name/last name