It's been rough for me lately and its affecting life in general. Sucks.
I'm projecting irrational stuff on to pup guy and he finally talked last night about how it makes him feel. We're getting together tomorrow so I hope we can talk it out and move forward with a better game plan for when I get over-emotional. And what he needs as well.
I'm isolating a bit more and don't talk to irl friends as much, stopped working out... just blah. I know it will pass and things will get better, but being in it is no fun at all. And I don't want to sabotage myself.
Post by dixienormous on Oct 29, 2013 12:26:34 GMT -5
((((hugs)))) Fight through the "I don't wannas." Force yourself to talk to one IRL friend a day. Make yourself go for a walk to get some exercise. You can do this.
Post by starrieskies on Oct 29, 2013 12:29:33 GMT -5
Big Hugs gault!! I know deep down you know this, but you are an amazing woman too. You've fought through so much and have emerged stronger on the other side. That being said, no one can be strong all the time. Sometimes you just have to have that break down.
I agree with Dixie. Fake it til you make it. Go for a walk, even if you won't go to the gym. Text someone, even if you don't call them. Start small.
You've mentioned projecting things on pup guy before... Have you thought about finding a therapist to help you threw this?
I have a counseling appointment tomorrow. I'm going to bring it up.
He usually lets things roll off his back, but I know he gets frustrated/uncomfortable and doesn't know how to help, and I think after this weekend his frustration tank was maxed out and something had to come out, you know? I'm glad he spoke up and communicated, but I'm also sad.
Post by partiallysunny on Oct 29, 2013 12:52:20 GMT -5
I'm glad he's able to communicate, too. Don't be sad. Be happy he appears to be a mature adult who can talk about difficult topics. You'll get there, gault. Just don't be afraid to ask for help.
Are you sure the AD you are on is the correct dose or even med for you? I know you recently upped it, but maybe at that dosage, it's just not the right one for you anymore.
It's ok to be sad that your issues are affecting your relationship, but PS is right. It's a good thing that he can talk about this and is not ignoring it or shutting down on you.
From experience, I can say that you need to be as open as you possibly can with him regarding what you are going through. Let him know if there is any little thing that he can do to help you, but also make sure he is clear that this is your issue and he can't fix it, nor did he cause it. It's hard for someone who cares about you to watch you hurt and not be able to help.
Are you sure the AD you are on is the correct dose or even med for you? I know you recently upped it, but maybe at that dosage, it's just not the right one for you anymore.
Either way - I'm sending lots of hugs.
I upped my bupropian dose about a month ago. I want to give it another few months before reevaluating. I also skipped placebos on my bc last month (doc's orders) to see if it would curb my mood swings a bit. Honestly, this week was better for me than other weeks so it may have helped some. But obviously I still gave into them.
It's ok to be sad that your issues are affecting your relationship, but PS is right. It's a good thing that he can talk about this and is not ignoring it or shutting down on you.
From experience, I can say that you need to be as open as you possibly can with him regarding what you are going through. Let him know if there is any little thing that he can do to help you, but also make sure he is clear that this is your issue and he can't fix it, nor did he cause it. It's hard for someone who cares about you to watch you hurt and not be able to help.
True, all of it. I've been talking about what I need from him and I overreact to things in the conversation and it ends up being me asking too much of him or asking stupid things. This weekend I said it's jarring to spend all weekend together and not hear from you much during the week and you should text me more often. lol. So it's also putting my own issues on our relationship and he said I overanalyze his words when he tries to share and then I start crying and it's a mess.
So yeah. It's my fault and I feel terrible. And he's naturally more reserved in communication so this stuff is hard for him.
Big huge ((((((hugs)))))) Gault. I wish you lived near me. I would be that annoying friend who would be all up in your shit making you do fun things with me until you actually enjoyed them.
It's not like I'm sulking and not going out with people full stop, but I feel more withdrawn and moodier and don't actually initiate a lot of interactions. And overreact.
It's not like I'm sulking and not going out with people full stop, but I feel more withdrawn and moodier and don't actually initiate a lot of interactions. And overreact.
Girls night was good. Nice to catch up and laugh a bit. We had to cut it short because one of my friend's cars died and we had problems getting it started. Boo to that. But I got to tinker with my Leela costume afterwards, which was fun. After work I'm going to a craft store to make her eye.
Tonight pup guy and I are carving pumpkins and going to have a talk about my emotional stuff. I'm going to have to explain how down I feel about some things and how I project it onto the relationship when I'm moody, and I'm nervous about it. It's humbling and vulnerable.