Help the etiquettely challenged.

[flamingeaux]

I have very dear long time friend getting married.  His FI's mom sent me an invitation to the bridal shower on the 9th. with a request for an RSVP, and a note on the envelope to RSVP to that address, but no card.  Can I send a note declining with the gift that should arrive on the 1st? Or should I send an RSVP separately? I don't have any nice stationary type stuff so it would likely be hand written on lined or computer paper. 

[flamingeaux]

I received the invitation about 3 days ago.

[speckledfrog]

You can pick up blank note cards at Michael's for about a buck. Probably most craft stores. Target sometimes has them in their dollar bins. I would send them separately, unless you make it clear that the hostess can open the package to get the note.

[AmeliaBedelia]

Back in the day people were expected to RSVP using their own stationery, so perhaps that's what she's expecting.

Sending your RSVP along with the gift is fine.

[sara76]

I agree with specialk. I would send then seperately