How far do you buy Xmas gifts for family?

[niq]

Even if it's something small, like a $10 starbucks GC or a DVD.

* cousins?
* aunts/uncles?
* nieces/nephews?
* step-nieces/nephews? (is it flammable to give to nieces but not step-nieces?)
* serious but not live-together BFs/GFs of siblings?
* live-together BFs/GFs of siblings?
* children of live-together BFs/GFs of sibligs?
* other (?!?!)

Signed, ifidontbuythegiftsbymidNovemberitsnothappening

* edited to clarify that "BFs/GFs" means SOs of your siblings, not yours

[Deleted]

We buy for parents, grandparents, siblings/spouses, nieces/nephews, and an uncle on my side. There are no "live together"s, "step", or "children of live together"s at this time. I guess we will cross that bridge when/if we get there.

[mbcdefg]

My side: mom and two siblings. Maybe my aunt, uncle, and three cousins, and two other adults, if we visit them for the holidays.

MH's side: four aunts and uncles, five adult cousins, and nine second cousins (this year we're doing a Secret Santa with the adults though)

If we'll see my brother's GF I'll buy her a little something. They don't live together.

BFF and I swap gifts.

We may do a Secret Santa with two other couples, and I'll definitely buy something for the one kid in the group.

[Deleted]

We do parents/in-laws, nieces and nephews, and we did grandparents when ours were living. I sometimes buy for my aunts but DH is not as close to his...

[bostonmichelle]

For DH's side of the family just his parents and sister. If SIL ever had a bf and he was attending festivities I would get him something as well. We usually bring a plate of cookies/candies from a bakery to both grandparents as well.

My mom's side I just buy for my aunt and uncle, my aunt has 8(?) kids/SO's and 10 grandkids so we don't get them anything and we aren't terribly close as they got married within the last few years. My dad's side we buy for my uncle, my aunt & uncle, and my two cousins and their SO's. We also buy for my dad and my sister and usually something for my sister's SO.

[dexteroni]

* cousins? - only if I'm going to see them on or around Christmas
* aunts/uncles? - only if I'm going to see them on or around Christmas
* nieces/nephews? - Yes
* step-nieces/nephews? - n/a but yes, I would. It does seem kind of unfair to not gift the steps but I have no direct experience with this.
* serious but not live-together BFs/GFs of siblings? - I did when we had this. (Now they're all married) If they're serious enough to come to Christmas, then IMO that warrants a gift. For the most part, anyone I'm going to see on actual Christmas day gets a gift.
* live-together BFs/GFs of siblings? - Yes
* children of live-together BFs/GFs of sibligs? - n/a but yes, I would. When it comes to kids, I prefer to err on the side of buying a gift.

[msmerymac]

Parents, step-parents, siblings, SOs of siblings, and my step niece. That's it, I think. It comes to about a dozen people. Lots of joint/group gifts, though.

[rachelgreen]

I'll preface this by saying both of my sides are relatively small and have complicated relationships.

* cousins? depends on the relationship. My side, only a couple second cousins but we're really close. On DHs side, a couple but only if we will for sure be in town to see them.
* aunts/uncles? not generally
* nieces/nephews? I don't have any except for your next question
* step-nieces/nephews? (is it flammable to give to nieces but not step-nieces?) Yes. I have 3 in total. I am an only but I would never, ever single them out. I've been the step in this equation and trust me, it stings.
* serious but not live-together BFs/GFs of siblings? yes
* live-together BFs/GFs of siblings? yes
* children of live-together BFs/GFs of sibligs? if this means basically a step-niece/nephew minus the technical official "step" part, yes but would probably be something smaller.
* other (?!?!) for me: BFF friends, BFF friends' kids, a couple great-aunts that I'm close to as well, couple of co-workers. Plus the obvious parents/step-parents, grandparents/step-grandparents, siblings

[Deleted]

My parents
My aunt/godmother (mom's only sister)
2 of my cousins
DH's parents
DH's aunt and uncle
DH's 3 cousins
DH's BFF
My BFF

My parents and I also go in on an edible gift, like fruit or fancy popcorn, for one of my aunts and cousins on my dad's side.

[lindyanne]

Immediate family and our parents. We also buy for our 'surrogate family' - a family friends family - their parents and the kids and we exchange with one couple

[shellbear09]

I wish it was scaled down with regards to adults but this is what we do:

Only immediate family ie parents and siblings plus spouses and their kid.

My brother has a g/f this year and I will get her something small or a together gift.

Also any kids that we will see at a gift giving party. This is only a few for us and it's only like a $5 something. I think Xmas is for kids really so I would always include them, related or not.

[Deleted]

We haven't even done parents and siblings the last couple years. Just nephew and step-niece (and yes it is flammable to not buy for the steps, especially if they come to family Christmas and would know that everyone but them got something).

[Deleted]

Parents and nieces and nephews. We will participate in a gift exchange if there is one among cousins/siblings.

[lilibet]

We buy for our parents, grandmothers (we both have 1 remaining), and then cousins and their kids on our moms' sides. Neither of our families are close to our dads' families and now that those grandparents are gone we don't buy for them.

On my mom's side I usually do a family gifts - 2 sets of aunt and uncle, 2 sets of cousin and wife, and then cousin and GF. Then there are 2 kids from my cousins who get their own gifts

On dh's mom's side we don't buy for his aunt and uncle just his cousin & her husband & their 4 kids, and then his younger cousin. A couple years ago mil decided that we'd basically buy by age groups (we buy for cousin/husband & they buy for us, mil/fil buy for aunt/uncle and vice versa) and then everyone buys for grandma and now the little kids

Last year I brought up just buying for grandmas & kids and mil took that to mean I hate her family so I'm never mentioning that again.

[heygrey]

we buy for our parents every year.

siblings depend on if we'll see them at christmas (which sadly is mostly a no).

no one else. we like keeping it simple up in here.

[chikastuff]

Immediate family and kids HS and younger.

[pierogigirl]

nieces and nephews
my mom
my dad
DH's parents

[macmars45]

My parents, sisters & BILs draw names. Every name/couple gets drawn twice. You can get each couple a separate gift or a couple gift. Everyone buys for the niece and 2 nephews.

H and I buy for his sister and our 2 nieces as well. His parents never want anything. Ever. So we don't buy them anything. Plus they live on a 31' houseboat so they have no room for anything.

None of our grandparents, aunts/uncles or cousins get anything. We just recently stopped drawing names with cousins. I'm sad only because that means I get less presents. I'm almost 28 so I need to get over it.

[EllieArroway]

My side: The adults - my siblings, cousins, parents, aunts, and uncles (and all of their SOs) draw names for a gift exchange. We buy for all of the kids (nieces, nephews, and cousins' kids).

DH's siblings do a white elephant exchange and we buy for his nieces and nephews and parents.

[M]

My side: Just my parents and my little sister. My brother and I mutually agree not to waste money on each other. My parents asks us not to waste money every year, but we do it anyways.

His side: Parents, Grandparents (use to be 3 sets until his grandma died recently ), brother, 1 aunt.

His side use to be everyone...i.e. cousins, 2nd cousins, aunts, uncles, yadda yadda yadda. We finally put our foot down one year and said don't buy us crap and we won't buy you crap. It's been awesome Christmas's ever since. We do white elephant now and set the value at $50.

[pugz]

parents, siblings, nieces and nephews.

grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, they just get a card. But we never usually see them on Christmas.

[Deleted]

We buy for:
Each other
DD
Parents (usually group gifts)
Sibling Pollyanna (Sister's SO included)
DD is involved in a cousin book exchange with other nieces/nephews
Grandfather
One aunt (I'm closest to her)

[FrozenSunshine]

We buy for:
My Step-daughter
Nieces on my side
The family/families/grandparent we adopt

Adults agreed not to do anything for each other on my side. His side of the family generally only buys for those there on Christmas. Sometimes his parents send us a gift card. Usually we try to meet up once a year in Las Vegas, with my parents and call that our Christmas to each other. We do not give gifts to each other, we adopt a family/grandparent and do our shopping together for them.

[jennistarr1]

We don't have any complicated situations...some oh at this hour I can't wrap my head around step nieces but if they are in the same family as nieces then you should buy for the both...does it help to separate out who you will see when

[zacksbride]

DH side- just for mom and his sister.

My side- mom, 3 siblings, and a few aunts that get presents for my kid.

When our siblings had SOS, we buy for them.

Growing up, I know my mom/dad would always stop buying gifts for their siblings once said sibling had kids. I feel that's fair and limits the craziness of gifts. I never expect my SIL or siblings to get me a gift. They have fun buying toys for my boys, and that can "replace" my gift.

[giantsgirl]

On my side we buy for my parents and 2 cousins (I dont have any siblings).
On Hs side we buy for his daughter, mother, and 2 nephews (his siblings dont exchange gifts).

[my4girls]

Our family does godparents/ godchildren, rather than all nieces/ nephews.

So we buy for grandparents, parents, my sister and I exchange (we don't with our brothers) none of our siblings are married or have kids or have serious girlfriends/ boyfriends. I buy for my goddaughter, my godfather (uncle) has passed away but i would buy for him.

My kids- my brothers and sister and one cousin are their godparents so we buy for them from the girls.

However since my girls are the only kids so far I the next generation everyone buys something for them.

[SusanBAnthony]

Actual gifts:

parents
kids

Small gift exchange:

siblings

Bake something:

grandparents
teachers at school
neighbors
etc.

[sa]

My mom's side:

Parents, sister, aunts and uncles, first cousins, grandparents (or grandparent this year )
My sister has a serious boyfriend this year, so we'll buy for him too.
We also have a Christmas party with the extended family that has a yankee swap.
No nieces/nephews on this side.

Total: 12 gifts

My dad's side:

Buy for all the little kids, grandmother, and secret santa gift both for H and me.

Total: 6

H's side:

Buy for all the little kids, grandfather, and secret santa gift for both H and me, parents, brother and his wife and their daughter.

We don't see most of his dad's side, except for one uncle and his family and they join his mom's side for Christmas.

Total: 13


Family Grand Total: 31

(And if we go beyond family, I've got to buy gifts for friends, other Christmas party/exchanges, hostess gifts, building staff, etc)

[Deleted]

Not until December. Doesn't matter the relationship.

But we only buy for our parents, our sisters and their significant others, niece, nephew, my godson, and two of my husband's uncles and his mom's best friend from high school (the last three we only buy for because they're there on Christmas, and I really wish we didn't have to)