I'm feeling very blah today.

[bananapancakes]

Today should have been the EDD for the baby that we lost back in April.

My SIL just gave birth yesterday.

I am thrilled for her and about the baby we have on the way but I can't help but be sad today for the baby that couldn't be. I should be close to giving birth but instead I'm less than half way there. I know I am fortunate to have gotten pregnant so soon after my loss and having a baby in April will be great but I'm just a bit sad. 

[cleo29]

I felt the same way when I came up on my edd for my first pregnancy while I was pregnant with C. I think it's normal to feel a bit sad for what might have been no matter being pregnant or already having kids.

Sorry you're having a blue day.

[rugbywife]

I felt the same way mid-October, that would have been our EDD too. And I am stressed out about our anatomy scan in a couple of weeks too. I wish all of this were easier. I don't know how I will react if there is something wrong at this point.

[bania]

((Bananapancakes))

[Jalapeñomel]

Big hugs

[bananapancakes]

Nov 11, 2013 19:49:08 GMT -5 rugbywife said:

I felt the same way mid-October, that would have been our EDD too. And I am stressed out about our anatomy scan in a couple of weeks too. I wish all of this were easier. I don't know how I will react if there is something wrong at this point.

That's stressing me out too! 2 more weeks to wait and it's killing me. I just heard the heartbeat again last Tuesday and the last ultrasound was fine but I can't help but worry. 

[rugbywife]

Nov 11, 2013 19:54:50 GMT -5 bananapancakes said:

Nov 11, 2013 19:49:08 GMT -5 rugbywife said:

I felt the same way mid-October, that would have been our EDD too. And I am stressed out about our anatomy scan in a couple of weeks too. I wish all of this were easier. I don't know how I will react if there is something wrong at this point.

That's stressing me out too! 2 more weeks to wait and it's killing me. I just heard the heartbeat again last Tuesday and the last ultrasound was fine but I can't help but worry. 

Ours is the 26th...we kind of heard the heart beat about 2 weeks ago on the doppler (the doc could hear it, which is all that matters, didn't sound like much to me, lol), when we had our first OB appointment, but no U/S.  And I can't feel it yet. And, and, and.  I keep telling myself there isn't anything I can do anyways. 

[trafficgirl]

I'm sorry banana. Big hugs.

[kaybee85]

((bananapancakes))

[bananapancakes]

Nov 11, 2013 19:57:01 GMT -5 rugbywife said:

Nov 11, 2013 19:54:50 GMT -5 bananapancakes said:

That's stressing me out too! 2 more weeks to wait and it's killing me. I just heard the heartbeat again last Tuesday and the last ultrasound was fine but I can't help but worry. 

Ours is the 26th...we kind of heard the heart beat about 2 weeks ago on the doppler (the doc could hear it, which is all that matters, didn't sound like much to me, lol), when we had our first OB appointment, but no U/S.  And I can't feel it yet. And, and, and.  I keep telling myself there isn't anything I can do anyways. 

Ours is the 26th too. It was supposed to be the 22nd but we had to move it because my H couldn't leave work early that day. The wait is killing me. My anxiety about this pregnancy has lessened in the past few weeks but it still comes back every once and awhile. Especially just before appointments where I have freak outs that my MW won't be able to find the heartbeat. 

[awick14]

((Hugs))

Dec 14 will be like this for me, I'll be about 15 weeks at that point and I should have been holding a baby by then.

Take care of yourself today.

[bananapancakes]

Thanks for understanding. It's comforting to know that I'm not totally crazy.

[beans20]

My sister in law and I were due around the same time and I had a miscarriage I gave birth to my son 7 months after my niece was born. For a while I saw my niece as a reminder of how old my child should be or would've been. One day it dawned on me that if things didn't work out the way they did, I wouldn't have my son and I definitely love him more than anything in this world. The pain of my miscarriage has lessened over time but it still sucks! I say all of that to say that your feelings are normal and your not the only one.

[urbancowgirl]

Lots of hugs to you.

[snickers]

Hugs.
That must be very hard.

[papie]

I am sorry. I was OOT for work on my EDD in May and cried in my hotel room. MIL told me she still remembers the EDD of the baby she lost and is still sad about it.
(((Hugs)))

[missmaddie]

You're not alone in feeling and reacting this way. Our nephew was born when I would have been 6 months pregnant, we first met him a week after a second m/c, and then I was suffering from HG and 8 weeks pregnant when our first EDD past. I have an amazing 2 year old DS, and I have still given thought to November being the anniversary of our original EDD. Hugs.

[Booze Raccoon]

I know how you feel.  My cousin and I were EDD twins TWICE and both times I lost the baby.  It was difficult at first, but now over 2 years have passed and I'm okay.

You will be too.  hugs.

[tdk2]

Nov 11, 2013 19:47:47 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

I felt the same way when I came up on my edd for my first pregnancy while I was pregnant with C. I think it's normal to feel a bit sad for what might have been no matter being pregnant or already having kids.

Sorry you're having a blue day.

Cleo put it well. I felt the same. And Cleo reassured me back then as well.

It's ok to still mourn the loss even though you're happy about current pg.