STBXH is seeing someone.

[Deleted]

Sorry for another post about this. We've been living apart for 5 weeks. Just five.

How is this so easy for him that he's already moved on? I'm proud of myself if I make it through an afternoon without tearing up.

Oh, and today my boss told me that I wasn't showing as much production lately and that I seemed distracted. She then told me that she was taking away the raise that she gave me a few months ago.

I hate everything.

[Booze Raccoon]

wow, that's unfair.

does your boss know what is going on?

I'm sorry your H is acting like an asshole.

[speckledfrog]

Of course he is. Fucking asshole.

Have you told your boss what is going on? I'm sure the appropriateness of this depends on your workplace, but sometimes it's a good for your employer to have a heads up on what's going on.

[Deleted]

I'm so sorry about both. Have you told your boss what's going on?

[Deleted]

I haven't told her what's going on. I only mentioned that there were some personal things going on.

[Deleted]

I shouldn't be, but I continue to be surprised at how many women are wiling to date a married man. I'll never understand it. Surely there are other options.

[lime]

Fuck. I'm so sorry.

Your IRL support is limited IIRC. Do you have an outlet for your emotions? Can you go to a driving range/ batting cage and smash something? Or go to yoga or weight lift? Or drinking....anything to get through tonight.

[speckledfrog]

Nov 11, 2013 21:04:26 GMT -5 05heel said:

I shouldn't be, but I continue to be surprised at how many women are wiling to date a married man. I'll never understand it. Surely there are other options.

Yes, but when you are a loser only other losers tend to want to date you. 

[tripleshot]

I'm so sorry.

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Nov 11, 2013 21:05:35 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

Nov 11, 2013 21:04:26 GMT -5 05heel said:

I shouldn't be, but I continue to be surprised at how many women are wiling to date a married man. I'll never understand it. Surely there are other options.

Yes, but when you are a loser only other losers tend to want to date you. 

This is true.

[TrickyBob]

I would like to round up every asshole of an ex or stbx of all the women here, tie them together, and dump them off a very large cliff.

[ax2]

I'm sorry. Lots of dickbag exes around here lately.

[Jalapeñomel]

Whatthefuck is up with ex husbands around here. Fuckin' cretins.

(((Hugs)))

[flex]

Many men that I know just need to be in a relationship so they can be manly and protective and all that shit. doesn't matter if the relationship isn't a deep one--they just seem to need SOME kind of relationship.

[SKP82]

I'm sorry, vaba. This sucks. Hang in there.

[janiejones]

I'm sorry.
Talk to your boss, be brief and tell her you are working through it and will make an immediate effort to improve. Hopefully she'll reconsider the raise thing.

Also your H? I'm not at all surprised by this. I bet his asshole parents approve.


You are going to be so much happier in your life without him.

[Deleted]

I would talk to HR about that raise asshattery. Then I would fast track my divorce and ask for 50% of it all, including the secret surprise house. Fucker.

[Deleted]

Fuck. I just dropped my dinner all over the floor and had a gross overreaction. I don't even want to make something else. I'm calling it quits today.

[bonquiqui]

Nov 11, 2013 21:26:56 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Whatthefuck is up with ex husbands around here. Fuckin' cretins.

(((Hugs)))

I was just going to say what is up with all of these dickwad ex husbands.  

I am sorry vaba ::hugs::  I get you

[bonquiqui]

Nov 11, 2013 21:34:58 GMT -5 @vaba said:

Fuck. I just dropped my dinner all over the floor and had a gross overreaction. I don't even want to make something else. I'm calling it quits today.

It really does make life in general hard.  I don't even feel like anything.  I am just so so shattered.  I know what you mean

[CurlyQ284]

Is it possible he didnt move on and just found someone to take care of him? Did you do 99.9% of things in the relationship? Those types can't be alone.

[isabel]

I'm sorry.

Mostly I'm kind of 'WTF' at your boss!? She couldn't have at least warned you and given you a couple of weeks to show some improvement?

[Deleted]

Nov 11, 2013 23:23:37 GMT -5 isabel said:

I'm sorry.

Mostly I'm kind of 'WTF' at your boss!? She couldn't have at least warned you and given you a couple of weeks to show some improvement?

That's how I felt as well. Completely blind sided. Again.

[polka]

I'm sorry

[bania]

Huge hugs Vaba. He sucks hard.

[angelaa73]

I'm sorry about your day. can i offer you some cereal?

[Deleted]

Some men are just assholes. FWIW, he's just probably masking the pain with another woman. Woman eat ice cream and cookie dough and men go on to other woman. Your still awesome so forget about his dumb ass.

[Deleted]

I am really sorry that you are hurting. It's better to deal with the pain and process it, and he's avoiding that. It will hit him eventually.

He is a douchebag, and I know it hurts but you are better off without him. xoxo

[flamingeaux]

I bet his mommy and daddy picked her out. Just remember, this is just more proof that you're better off without him. I know it's not really her business, but I might tell my boss that you're separating/divorcing, so she understands why you're not functioning as you normally would. And you know what, fuck that dinner for being so insensitive as to fall to the floor, after you had such a shitty day.

I'm sorry. Big Hugs.