Well, she did once text me a picture of some t-shirts she found that said "Best Bitches" and asked me if we should get them. I agreed. I guess that was our conversation.
When do you decide that you are "best friends" and not just close friends? Is it awkward like in dating where one says I love you and the other doesn't?
Because we are, on paper, complete opposites. But when we get around each other it's like our brain waves sync up and we can't stop finishing each other's thoughts.
And, we can go weeks without speaking/months without seeing each other (we live on different coasts), but one text/email will throw us right back into brain wave sync.
We definitely each have friends we're closer to than we are to each other, but we also both just know that we have something special between us.
Post by orangeglow on Nov 12, 2013 17:17:28 GMT -5
My oldest girl BFF I met almost 11 years ago. Her DH and mine worked together. After they had their daughter they started asking me to babysit her occasionally. Then it became weeknights of watching Project Runway together and swapping books. Then we were finding other people to watch her daughter so WE could go out. We live about a mile from them now. We see them several times a week and we call each other framily (friend family). We've gone on vacation together, DH's are BFF's too and their daughter is like my own. I love them so much and am so lucky we happened into each other.
My newer girl BFF I met through a former friend. We used to all go to girls' nights together. She is still friends with former friend, I am not, but her and I are still BFF's. We even went and got tattoos together! We both have a dirty sense of humor, like to drink and work out together (sometimes at the same time), are both obsessed with our animals and watch each others when we travel separately. Our DH's are super compatible and go on motorcycle rides together
Third and final girl BFF is DH's teammate and his wife (cycling). We have hung out for about 6 years now, but got closer in the past 3. We were their only attendants for their wedding that I fully planned for them in 7 weeks. We go to races on weekends together and I'm planning the wife's baby shower.
My boy BFF and I met in college. I vaguely knew him through friends and one day I was walking past his apartment on my way from class. He was sitting outside drinking and asked what I was doing. I told him I had like a 3 hour break between classes and was going home to hang out. He asked if I'd rather chill at his place since he had class the same time and it was way closer to campus. We watched movies and ended up totally clicking. We had a standing "date" and even planned our next semesters classes around each others! We are still pretty close, but he got married last year and wifey is not a huge fan of mine. So far we still hang out/call/text each other though.
Post by trafficgirl on Nov 12, 2013 17:18:32 GMT -5
We met in college, in our sorority. We were picking rooms to live in during Fall Quarter and I had planned to live with one girl (who turned out to be crazy), but BFF usurped her through our room selection process. I was ticked off at first, but then realized she was awesome and was glad.
I'm not sure when we realized we were BFFs. She grew up in a different state and had a couple BFFs from when she was little. They're still friends, but somehow over the years I've taken over the BFF spot from others. She lives in that state now but we talk pretty much every day, through email, text, or phone calls.
She's totally the person I'd call to help hide a body. Good thing she's a lawyer.
Post by EmilieMadison on Nov 12, 2013 17:21:40 GMT -5
I have a couple friends that I consider my best friends. I met 2 of them on The-Site-That-Must-Not-Be-Named. You know them. But they're MINE. Another one I'd consider to be on my "bf" list I met while we were in HS.
Post by Ohhmm(bligo) on Nov 12, 2013 17:23:04 GMT -5
Our husbands have been best friends since elementary school. They had drifted out of contact until she and I had babies 3 months apart. We started having each other over for dinner.
Now she's my fresh briend and we go on vacations together.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
Two of them I met at work. They are both pretty different, but we're all pretty good friends. They were the second and third people I told when I found out I was pregnant.
My other best friend, I met through college. She was a friend's girlfriend. She was a year younger and I didn't like her much at first, but she grew up a bunch within the first year that I knew her, and now I love her.
When do you decide that you are "best friends" and not just close friends? Is it awkward like in dating where one says I love you and the other doesn't?
I was real drunk. I tend to drunk text/call her, yelling that YR MY FRESH BRIEND, hence our super special nickname. After I admitted she was my best friend when I was drunk, we dropped pretenses.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
Two BFFs are from childhood, and two are from the beginning of college. One, we were out for coffee with mutual friends and she told a joke and I spit my mouthful of latte all over her. The other, mutual friends introduced us because we were both driving to the same city (400 miles away) that weekend, so we carpooled. Thankfully we got along!
3rd grade. I was new. I heard a voice all the way across the classroom. "Hey! Are you new here??" Turned out we lived just a block away from each other. We have been friends ever since! Even though we sometimes don't talk or see each other, when we meet up it's line we never list a day!!
I had a BFF I met in 8th grade. We lasted through HS and higher secondary and we had a spectacularly explosive breakup after I found out that she was avoiding me and lying to me about everything.
In D school, a friend introduced me to his friend through email and I LOVED her so much. She was my twin soul. After 4 years of weekly emails, she was supposed to attend my wedding in november and she was in an accident in september. She died a week after the accident. Her BF wrote to me saying that she passed away. I wept and grieved for a long time but after so many years, I wonder if she was a real person. Why did she never give me her phone number? why did she never meet me before?
Now, I have a friend who *I think* is my best friend and I am txting her now and told her what we are talking about. She txted back saying she doesn't believe in BFFs. LOL. I feel like I said "I love you" too soon.
How did your relationship develop? Tell me your story.
I have 2 friends that I consider "best friends".
The first one M, I met as a college freshman. We lived in the same dorm complex. She and I dated roommates for a short time. I stayed with that guy for 3 years, she was more like 3 weeks. But after that, we hung out often that year. Our sophomore year, we lived together, and chose the same major. We scheduled all our classes together, so we could study together. We were close. She liked to party and I was in a serious relationship, so I liked to stay in. Our Junior year, I moved in with said boyfriend, and she moved in with some girls she hung out with at parties/ the bar. We continued to schedule our classes together and go out together often my junior year and even more when boyfriend and I broke up the summer before Senior year. I started dating H middle of senior year. They got along really well when we were all at the bar, and then they became friends also.
After graduation, I moved to the same city as H and she moved back to her home town, about an hour and a half away. She came to visit often, b/c her boyfriend lived in our city as well. Her and her boyfriend broke up, but she stayed here because of me, and a few other friends and a good job. lol. We still talk a few times a week and hang out a couple times a month. G will call her Aunt M.
My other best friend is T. Her H and My H lived together in college, before we knew our H's. But she and her H had graduated before I met my H. We met at a wedding. Both of our husbands were in the wedding party, so we sat together. We had a lot in common. Sense of humor, profession, we even had some mutual friends from college. We started hanging out often, and the next year I got a job at the school she worked at. That basically solidified our "best friend status". During that year we were in each other's weddings. When I got pregnant her and her H were going through infertility issues. That kind of made us have a little bit of a rift in friendship. But she got pregnant right when I was about to have G. So then we got close again. She and I talk often. We dont' see each other as much as we used to, b/c she lives about an hour away now. She had her baby month a go, so we have seen each other more now that she's on Mat Leave.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
Were you BFFs with Manti Te'o's girlfriend by chance?
And yes, it was fake. You know that, right? The person you were communicating with was almost certainly the person who "introduced" you to this imaginary person. Is it possible that the the guy had feelings for you but knew it would never go anywhere so he made this person up to connect with you on an emotional level? I'm sorry that happened to you. What a shitty thing for someone to do.
Nupe. But I think that's where we consummated our relationship.
It was when I took a part-time job at Dillards. 1990 or '91, I do believe. I think it was after we moved the store into the new mall that you and I actually met, gazed into each other's eyes, and said, "Beer me, wench!" The rest is history.
Lawd, we are old. And I could go for one of those $.75 long necks about now.
Were you BFFs with Manti Te'o's girlfriend by chance?
And yes, it was fake. You know that, right? The person you were communicating with was almost certainly the person who "introduced" you to this imaginary person. Is it possible that the the guy had feelings for you but knew it would never go anywhere so he made this person up to connect with you on an emotional level? I'm sorry that happened to you. What a shitty thing for someone to do.
He was interested in me but I wasn't into it, so we were just friends.
FUCK THAT GUY. Last month was her four year death anniversary and I texted that guy. I told him, dude, I KNOW that she is not a real person. Why did you make her up? And he promised like a million times that she was a real person and that I was a terrible person to doubt someone especially after their death. Fucking asshole.
It's just so unreal though. Like, who has the patience to write weekly emails for four fucking years?
He had the patience because he got something out of it. He got to be "your bff", which he obviously accepted in lieu of being in a romantic relationship with you.
When do you decide that you are "best friends" and not just close friends? Is it awkward like in dating where one says I love you and the other doesn't?
For us, it wasn't really a decision, it just happened. We just clicked. Even when our lives went down very different paths, and we didn't have much in common on paper, we kept in touch and stayed close. She's engaged with a child of her own now, and we're closer than ever. I know she'll always be in my life. I guess that's how we know we're best friends.
Post by wrathofkuus on Nov 12, 2013 18:13:06 GMT -5
She accosted me in seventh grade because she saw me talking to a boy she liked. We got to talking, and have been best friends ever since, and we're in our mid-thirties now.
#1 & #2 - We met in first grade and have been friends ever since. We went thru Brownies, girl scouts, dances, boyfriends, marriages and kids together. One lives close to me and the other one a state away. We still talk, text and email every day.
#3- I hired right out of college to come work for me. She and I kept in contact after I had to lay her off and when I moved closer to her side of town we started hanging out more. Now we get together almost every weekend and I am a god mother to her kids. She is 5 years younger than me but my BFF in every way.
When do you decide that you are "best friends" and not just close friends? Is it awkward like in dating where one says I love you and the other doesn't?
BFF#1 gave birth to me BFF #2 we met the first day of high school and we are those friends who won't talk for months on end and pick up where we left off. She moved to California a year and half ago. BFF #3 I met at church ten years ago, it took us several years to become BFFs. I called her BF before she called me BF. I told her I knew she was my BF but that she had a college BF and didn't feel comfortable calling me BF.
Post by themoneytree on Nov 12, 2013 18:28:37 GMT -5
I met my BFF at a job I did when I was in college. She's 8 years older than me and her H had left her. She went through a huge transition - lost tons of weight, went around and gave huge wads of cash to homeless people (her H makes mega bucks), dyed her hair blonde, bought a sports car and we had a lot of fun partying for a year until she and her H got back together. We stayed very close and she was my MOH - we've been friends for almost 20 years.
I have other very close friends, but she's my BFF.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
We met at a wedding of people we are no longer friends with. I stood up on the bride's side, and she stood up on the groom's side. We hit it off at the bridal shower, and fell in love with each other at the wedding, where we discovered a mutual love for Kids In The Hall and Raising Arizona. We also bonded over making fun of the bride's dry wedding and numerous Meatloaf songs at the reception. That was 18 years ago.
And also your other bf that you met on the interwebz who miraculously only lived a few blocks from you. Right?