When do you decide that you are "best friends" and not just close friends? Is it awkward like in dating where one says I love you and the other doesn't?
The older I get the less I like the term "best friends." When you click with someone usually you both just know, and both want to keep in touch and continue to hang out/talk/spend free time together. Why do you have to define whether you are "best friends" or "close friends?"
Someone just dropped the term "best friend" on me recently and I am still trying to decide if I even like her. Ugh. *-)
7th grade English class. We HATED each other. Then somehow the summer between 7th and 8th we became best friends. We don't remember how, but by the beginning of 8th we were inseparable.
My BFF and I aren't close anymore. We met the first day of college (we were roommates) and hit it off. As we got older, I realized that her life style wasn't really one I wanted to be a part off. I miss the sweet person I met when I was 18
All my current friends are great but I don't have a group that is like the Golden Girls or SATC.
Post by underwaterrhymes on Nov 12, 2013 20:58:46 GMT -5
H is my best friend. We met at speed dating 8 and 1/2 years ago.
I have a few other female best friends. One is my college roommate. We've been friends almost 20 years. I love her. Three others I met at a bar through friends (two of whom also became roommates). And another I met through work. They are universally fabulous and all very different. I'm so lucky.
I transferred to a new school sophomore year and joined the volleyball team. Practice started before school and I didnt know anyone. We were running laps and she ran up and smacked my ass and said "hey I'm [first name]" lol. My other best friend is her cousin who was also joining the team. I guess I must have met her the same day. Not as memorable though!
When do you decide that you are "best friends" and not just close friends? Is it awkward like in dating where one says I love you and the other doesn't?
I'm not really sure. I feel like we've always loved and appreciated each other but it was really after high school when we lived together. Were maid of honor for each other. Rushed to the hospital for the arrival of babies and sick parents for each other that it really cemented that we are family to each other in a way thay niether of us had with blood relatives . If that makes sense. We know we are lucky and don't hesitate to express it.
She was friends with a friend of mine, and roommates with one of my good friends. We were friendly and would get together a few times a year. Then about 3 years ago her boyfriend of 5 years cheated on her. She lives about 15 minutes from me, so we started getting together at least once a week. (My sister was going through a divorce across the country so I was acutely aware of how much my friend might just want some company). We had been friends for years but spending almost a year hanging out once or twice a week made us closer. And now we still get together almost every other week, and we each know we can call the other for anything. We can be totally honest and there's absolutely no judgement.
Well, I don't really have that ONE best friend. I have three really close friends though.
My first friend was in nursery school with me. Hers was the first slumber party I went to. It wasn't until 6th grade that we truly became best friends, in the sense that we did everything together and told each other everything. By high school, she was super popular and I was not, so we didn't see as much of each other. We have remained close over all these years despite illnesses, divorces, triplets, extreme religious/political differences, and always living many states apart.
My second two close friends I met in college. My guy friend lived one floor above me my freshman year of college. One day we sat next to each other at a big, group lunch and he made me laugh. He is gay; I never had feelings for him either. We find each other highly amusing, though.
My third friend I met and became roommates with junior year, through another girl. The other girl became sort of the odd man out, while BFF and I really clicked. We ended up rooming together for 3 years until I got married. She's probably the person I admire and respect most in the world, besides my H and my parents. She also became very close with my BFF male friend. The three of us live thousands of miles from each other, but we try to have reunions/adventures as often as possible. Sadly, mostly we just chat on Facebook.
We met in second grade when I transferred to her school. But we didn't seal our BFF-ship until I invited her to see Mötley Crüe with me in 5th grade.
We kind of drifted in and out of bffdom throughout junior high/high school but re solidified in college when our sororities shared a parking lot.
My other BFF and I met in college (same sorority). Honestly, I don't know if she'd call me the same, but she and other BFF are my people. I call them when I can't call anyone else and love them so much.
Post by BunnyMacDougal on Nov 12, 2013 23:34:32 GMT -5
Best friend: grad school. Met through a mutual friend. Lived all together (6 of us). We have been through lots of separations (different cities, different phases in life) but we're always the first priority when I go where she lives or vice versa. She pretty much has to drive or fly to me these days. But it has been the reverse of that.
Local best friend: preschool - our daughters are in the same class and we go to the same church. We started chatting in preschool pick-up line. We discovered our mutual interests and scheduled playdates. Now we dump kids on Daddy and make time for ourselves.