i am at a loss. my best friend's mom just passed away.

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i had been working on a letter to her, with memories of all the ways she was in my life and how much she meant to me.  but i hadn't finished.  it happened so much more quickly than anyone expected.

i've known her since i was 2.  i don't remember not knowing her.  she's a wonderful person, i can't find better or enough words to express it.  earlier today apparently 20 or so of her colleagues had all come to visit.  so many people that they'd moved her to a private room so people could talk with her.  that's the kind of person she is. 

bff and i talked and she's doing okay, but in shock.  her family is with her.  i don't know what else i could do or will do or whatever.  i don't know if i can get to the funeral because of the baby.  i don't feel like i know anything.

i don't know what this post is for.  i guess just so that you all know how great she was.

[iamali]

I'm so sorry. It sounds like she was awesome and she was clearly loved by a lot of people. I hope you're able to attend her service.

[styme46]

Oh cville. I'm so sorry.

(((HUGS)))

[DotAndBuzz]

I'm so so sorry. She sounds like a truly wonderful person. Hugs and peace for you, and your bff's family.

[cleo29]

I'm so sorry! If you do come up and need any help, let me know.

((((((((cville)))))))

[ginap]

I'm so sorry.

[celeste]

I'm so sorry, for you and your friend

[Deleted]

I'm so sorry ((big hugs))

[shostakovich]

I'm so sorry, cville.

[silva]

I'm sorry, cville. I wish you all peace.

[youbetcha]

I am so sorry to hear that. When my mom died, it bugged me how most of my friends seemed uncomfortable whenever I mentioned my mom. When she wants to remember her mom, now or later, be sure to join in and remember with her. Hugs to you and your friend.

[winelady]

I am so sorry.

[mrsgoontz]

I'm so sorry cville. She sounds like a truly wonderful woman.

[flutterfly]

Sorry for your loss

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Nov 12, 2013 17:22:14 GMT -5 @booby said:

i'm sorry cville. that really happened fast. how far away is she? I guess you can't fly with the baby yet (b/c of no vax), is that it?

it's a 2.5 hour flight (and yes, he hasn't had any vaccinations).  to drive it takes 10 hours if you don't stop at all (there's a mountain range in there), so would take me like 15+ with a newborn.

i have no idea what we'll do about the funeral.  i know they'll understand if i can't go.  my mom was very close with my best friend's mom, so she and i have been talking and crying about it too. 



suesue, that's a good idea.  my letter was still notes, so i can adapt it.

[bonquiqui]

I am so sorry  (hug) (hug2)

[wannabe]

Love and hugs, cville.

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Nov 12, 2013 17:17:05 GMT -5 youbetcha said:

I am so sorry to hear that. When my mom died, it bugged me how most of my friends seemed uncomfortable whenever I mentioned my mom. When she wants to remember her mom, now or later, be sure to join in and remember with her. Hugs to you and your friend.

i will make sure to keep that in mind.  i'm sorry you've had to deal with the loss of your mom.

[lime]

I'm so sorry. Big hugs to you and your friend.

[cleo29]

Oh, I don't know if you can do this, but my dad's company (which was a printing trade association) had books made up of my dad's service, including the music, written out. While it might seem morbid, I enjoy looking through it, reading the really wonderful things people had to say about him, the music they played, etc.

I think those things can be a blur when you are in the middle of it, so maybe they did it so that my mom would be able to remember and for us girls.


I don't know, just a thought.

[polka]

I'm so sorry, cville. Hugs.

[Jalapeñomel]

I'm so sorry for your loss. 

[youbetcha]

Nov 12, 2013 17:27:59 GMT -5 cville said:

Nov 12, 2013 17:17:05 GMT -5 youbetcha said:

I am so sorry to hear that. When my mom died, it bugged me how most of my friends seemed uncomfortable whenever I mentioned my mom. When she wants to remember her mom, now or later, be sure to join in and remember with her. Hugs to you and your friend.

i will make sure to keep that in mind.  i'm sorry you've had to deal with the loss of your mom.

Thanks. Obviously everyone is different, so my advice may be terrible after all. I'm glad your friend has you to lean on! Even far away friends are helpful at times like this.

[Deleted]

I'm so sorry.

[MWOS]

you and your friend and all families will be in my thoughts

[isabel]

I am so sorry, cville. Hugs.

[Muddled]

I'm so sorry, cville. These things are never easy.

You should still send your letter.

[fuckyourcouch]

I am so so sorry cville. Hugs

[Deleted]

I'm so sorry for your loss. ((Hugs))..

The same thing happened to me earlier this year when my uncle died. He was like a father to me and I was in the process of writing a letter to him to tell him how much he meant to me and he died before I could finish it. I finished it prior to the funeral and sent copies to my cousins and they were so very grateful. I also kept a copy and re-read it when I am missing him. (hug) (hug2)

[lilafowler]

Oh Cville I am so very sorry.