All this talk of best friends makes me a little sad.

[cleo29]

I had a friend I knew since first grade, we remained great friends all the way through high school, even though we went to different schools.

Well, when we were in our early 20s she told me that her boyfriend beat the crap out of her one night.  It started in the car after a night out with friends (he was intoxicated and driving, don't ask), continued on the way up to their apartment where he dragged her out of it and into their place and then just beat her up.  afterwards he said he was sorry, cried and I think he still worked it in that she made him do it. 

So, I visited them maybe five months later and I noticed not only some small bruises on her arms (think the type if someone grabbed a person really hard on their upper arms)  and just basically him being really controlling.  After the trip they said I owed them some money, which I got to them, but then any time  I tried to call her, she was never home. Never returned my messages. That was it.

 I wish now that I had just told her family. Since she was already not talking to me anymore, why not just tell them. I ran into her mom about 5-6 years ago to learn that they had married and had two boys.

It just makes me sad. sad that I never said anything because I am sure she never did and I am sure that it still goes on. Sad that she was able to just cut me out of her life. It just stinks.

[LeggsBenedict]

I've between there and in my case, her family wouldn't have given a shit. it sucks.

[berbles]

[cleo29]

Nov 12, 2013 17:30:59 GMT -5 LeggsBenedict said:

I've between there and in my case, her family wouldn't have given a shit. it sucks.

I'm so sorry

[flutterfly]

What a sad story....Situations like this are so difficult, don't blame yourself. It's obvious that you really cared for her.

[Deleted]

There really is no clear and easy answer. I has a friend in an abuse situation. You can't really "step in". All you can do is let them know you're there.

[lauralala]

I'm sorry. That's a really sad situation.

[vaportrail]

My MOH recently de-friended me on FB. I'm more amused than hurt cause she was always kind of a B, but still. HARSH.

[DotAndBuzz]

I'm sorry.

[cleo29]

Nov 12, 2013 19:10:54 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I'm sorry cleo. that really sucks.

I had a friend,a great friend, who just DROPPED me one day. Wouldn't call me back, wouldn't answer my calls. Nothing. I have no idea why, or what I did, or what the matter was. We were great friends, and then we were not.

That is awful!  It's them not saying why that really sucks. I mean, in my case, I pretty much know why; I'm the only person she told and I think she just didn't want me around, asking after things.

I'm sorry that you never got any answers.

[alzi]

I had a friend drop me out of the blue. I was so sad for a long time. She literally didn't call back one day and that was it. Years later we reconnected and she explained herself, but it's just a keep up via Facebook thing now.

It's sad bc she was one of those "going to be each other's bridesmaids" friendships.

I miss her.

[elleblue]

Nov 12, 2013 20:15:59 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

Nov 12, 2013 19:10:54 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I'm sorry cleo. that really sucks.

I had a friend,a great friend, who just DROPPED me one day. Wouldn't call me back, wouldn't answer my calls. Nothing. I have no idea why, or what I did, or what the matter was. We were great friends, and then we were not.

That is awful!  It's them not saying why that really sucks. I mean, in my case, I pretty much know why; I'm the only person she told and I think she just didn't want me around, asking after things.

I'm sorry that you never got any answers.

Given the abuse it's likely he made her cut you out. Isolation from family and friends is typical, sadly.

[IrishBelle]

Ah, I'm sorry you lost your friend and I feel sad for your friend too. I hope she's ok.