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[partiallysunny]

My reunion was okay.

It started at 6pm, dinner at 6:30pm. It was great. An old teacher showed up and all my old gang. We sat around, had some drinks and just talked and talked. It was wonderful.

The 8pm rolls around and the place that we had the party realizes we'd fallen far short of our RSVPs. We had a waiter and a waitress. Me and another girl, K, planned the party, but the waiter singled me out to grill me about "why didn't every one show up? What am I suppose to tell my boss? We are taken a huge loss on this."

We had 60 people RSVP and 30 show up. I felt terrible, but there was nothing I could do about it. Some people didn't bring their plus one like they said they would and others just didn't plain show up. I apologized a million times, because I truly felt bad, but I told them what I knew last week when I called to firm up all the plans.

People start to leave around 8:30/9pm. There is a lot of left over food. I ask what happens to it (some people were asking), the waiter informs me it can be taken. I get some "to go" containers and place them at the buffet.

Momments later, the waitress comes up to me. "We are already taking a huge loss on this and people are taking food and they didn't pay!".

I ask who it is and the waitress refuses to tell me who. I asked if she wanted me to talk to them, she says she didn't want to point them out and cause a scene. I told her I wanted to fix the issue, but if she's not going to tell me who, I didn't know what I could do"

She walks away.

She comes back momments later while I'm talking to K and says pretty much the same thing. "we are taking a huge loss on this and people who didn't pay for the buffet are taking food!". I ask who again, but K jumps in and starts getting angry and load. K is also drunk off her ass and isn't helping. But K does gets the waitress to admit who the people taking food are. People no one at the reunion can identify. We think they are with someone we do know, but no one is sure. The waitress ends up just walking away because K starts to rant about party crashers.

Not too long after that, the waiter comes up to me AGAIN. Says the same thing as the waitress. DOESN'T WANT ME TO TALK TO THE PEOPLE, but wants me to keep on eye out for people who haven't paid taking food. I point out that they (the waiter and waitress) are keeping the tabs. How would I know who has paid and who hasn't? Then the waiter tells me the people who took food and are refusing to pay because they took "left over" food and I said it was okay. I said no such thing, of course. I put out the to go boxes and that's it.

I remind him that he told me that if anyone is in our area, they pay for the buffet. Doesn't matter if they eat a whole pizza or a chicken wing. That was what was stated when we told everyone about the reunion. Everyone knows. So shouldn't those people have been charged regardless? Give them a bill! He gets uncomfortable and sort of sneaks away when someone else gets my attention to say goodbye.

AND THEN (9:30pm ish)the waitress starts yelling a last name out, asking for the person. I check outside for that person, don't see them. Then someone else says, "they left half an hour ago".

She pissed. Looks at me, waves the check in my face and says "we're already taking a loss on this and now this is coming out of my paycheck".

Fucking fuck. I mumble sorry but the angry waitress is already power walking away. I bitch to a friend then take a momment and decide to pay for that persons check. So I pay mine and the dumbasses check.

I start packing up, getting ready to leave. A couple close friend from high school decide to pay for those people who didn't pay for the buffet. We didn't want to leave it with a "that school can never come back here" feeling. The waiter refuses the money.

Now, I'm 100% sure it's because they never rang those people up. Never showed them a bill. So my friend leaves a tip for the amount of the people who didn't pay and said he could do what he wanted with it. I hope the waiter at least split it with the waitress.

I ran away at 10pm before anything else went wrong.

[partiallysunny]

Holy crap is that long. Sorry.

[captainmel]

That seems all sorts of weird PS. Why were the wait staff being so rude and still not giving people their tabs? Did people assume the reunion was paying for everything?

I would have drunkenly yelled at her too.

My complaint: my bed is comfy and warm and I want River to get up and make me coffee and then bring it back to me in bed. This won't happen because he doesn't have thumbs.

[partiallysunny]

No. Everyone knew the cost of the reunion and that booze was going to be extra. I assume the people who didn't pay were friends of someone there and did a "we're not with them" thing. But when the boxes were put down, they took advantage and grabbed food. They should have never been allowed to stay without opening a tab.

And somehow that's my fault.

[Deleted]

Why wouldn't they secure the payment for the 60 people BEFORE the dinner of such a large party? We had to secure X amount at our wedding - our final count, even though we ended up having 10 no shows from that final number, we still paid for them.

It's kind of stupid for them to blame you when they are the ones who should have been on top of this.

[partiallysunny]

captainmel he doesn't need thumbs! Tell that cat to use his nose and claws!

[cuddlyevil]

None of that is your fault PS. I am sorry people were jerkfaces.

[partiallysunny]

I'm not sure doglove. It was a buffet and they didn't want a deposit or anything when I set it up. It certainty made it easier on me, but obviously causes issues for them. That eventually trickled down on me.

I guess it's was too easy to hit the "rsvp" button when you don't have to pay for anything in advanced.

Which could have been my fault, but I had no idea that it would happen.

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Nov 18, 2013 11:15:17 GMT -5 partiallysunny said:

I'm not sure doglove. It was a buffet and they didn't want a deposit or anything when I set it up. It certainty made it easier on me, but obviously causes issues for them. That eventually trickled down on me.

I guess it's was too easy to hit the "rsvp" button when you don't have to pay for anything in advanced.

Which could have been my fault, but I had no idea that it would happen.

I would have just told them that it was not your fault they required no money up front.

Also yes - people probably RSVP'ed thinking they might want to go, but since they didn't have to pay there was no consequence if they backed out day of KWIM? 

[partiallysunny]

Nov 18, 2013 11:18:21 GMT -5 doglove said:

Nov 18, 2013 11:15:17 GMT -5 partiallysunny said:

I'm not sure doglove. It was a buffet and they didn't want a deposit or anything when I set it up. It certainty made it easier on me, but obviously causes issues for them. That eventually trickled down on me.

I guess it's was too easy to hit the "rsvp" button when you don't have to pay for anything in advanced.

Which could have been my fault, but I had no idea that it would happen.

I would have just told them that it was not your fault they required no money up front.

Also yes - people probably RSVP'ed thinking they might want to go, but since they didn't have to pay there was no consequence if they backed out day of KWIM? 

I do now, lol!

[cuddlyevil]

My printer was repeatedly jamming last week, so we're working on getting me a new one. Of course NOW it's working fine. Stupid printer.

[partiallysunny]

Does that mean you don't get a new one cuddlyevil?!

[cuddlyevil]

I should be getting a new one because the IT guy thinks my is not fixable.

[starrieskies]

I know I'm super late to check in today. It's been a little nuts...

I wrote out a long post over the weekend about how my mother is driving me nuts, but as I was putting the finishing touches on it my kindle froze. I don't really want to retype the whole thing from memory, so I'll just say that my mother is driving me insane and I wish I had the money to get my own place right now. I spent most of the weekend holed up in my room so I could avoid her... She treats me like I'm still in high school.

[partiallysunny]

I think a lot of parents trend to do that starrieskies. sorry you're not getting along.

[cuddlyevil]

Starries how long will you be staying with her?

[starrieskies]

At least until summer.

It's not just the treating me like a child. She's also a bit of a gossip and I'm very private. She's taken it upon herself to start spreading the word about my divorce, and I don't feel like that's her place. If I wanted the whole town to know I am getting a divorce I would make a big deal of it myself. But I don't see how it's anyone's business. I'm tired of being surprised in the store by people I don't know who know about my divorce.

She just has no concept of how it feels... she even tried to tell me that she thinks that it would be best if DS saw me dating other men sooner rather than later... again, that's none of her business, and no, even if I was ready to date, I am not going to parade my kid around a bunch of strange men.i don't see how that would benefit anyone.

[partiallysunny]

starrieskies have you asked her to stop talking to people about your divorce? What did she say?

[starrieskies]

I have. At the time, she said she understands, but it still hasn't stopped. When people she knows ask how her kids are, she takes that as a free pass to tell them because, you know, they asked. It's frustrating.

I know it's really not a big deal, but it's embarrassing for me. Stbx's family is pretty well known around here and it's a small town. The rumor mill runs rampant.

[partiallysunny]

Nov 19, 2013 8:03:58 GMT -5 starrieskies said:

I have. At the time, she said she understands, but it still hasn't stopped. When people she knows ask how her kids are, she takes that as a free pass to tell them because, you know, they asked. It's frustrating.

I know it's really not a big deal, but it's embarrassing for me. Stbx's family is pretty well known around here and it's a small town. The rumor mill runs rampant.

I think it's a big deal she's not respecting your privacy. The rest of it (her suggesting you date) isn't and can be ignored, but you asking her to stop gossiping and her continuing crosses a line.

[starrieskies]

That's I think what bothers me most.

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[partiallysunny]

that sucks starries. I hope she'll see the light, so to speak.

[starrieskies]

I really think that she just is incapable of really understanding how I'm feeling and as thus she doesn't see how her telling her friends is making me feel. I can tell her till I'm blue in the face but I cant make understand. I feel like if she understood would stop.

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[cuddlyevil]

I'm sorry Starries

[margarita]

Nov 19, 2013 8:14:02 GMT -5 starrieskies said:

That's I think what bothers me most.

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I would feel the same way. She should be respecting your privacy. I'm sorry.

[cuddlyevil]

I hate how my shirt feels. I need to work out because it's bunchy in all of the wrong places.

[starrieskies]

I know that it comes from a good place, she's just trying to be supportive and she thinks that her friends will be supportive as well. I feel a little ungrateful complaining about her with everything that she's done for me and DS, she's just a little overbearing sometimes. She has a vision in her mind of what's ok and what's not, and it's hard to make her see other sides of the argument. She truly believes that she's done nothing wrong.

[Deleted]

Have you told her to MYOB?

[starrieskies]

Nov 19, 2013 9:35:48 GMT -5 doglove said:

Have you told her to MYOB?

Yes, on more than one occasion. She just doesn't.

She's always been like this, and I knew it would probably be an issue when I agreed to go there. I was pretty hesitant to go back there, but it made the most sense. I'm just mentally ready to have my own space. Financially? Well that's going to take a little bit longer.

[captainmel]

That would drive me mental starrieskies. I hope she starts listening to you more and that you get to move out sooner because something awesome happens in your life.

If not, you can move into my sewing room.