Soo is it too soon for this?

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Before I picked out my engagement ring, DH and I talked at length about the stone I wanted. I didn't really want a diamond because I had been engaged before and I just didn't want it to FEEL like every other thing in the past. I really wanted my birth stone - an emerald, but the jeweler said no way if I was going to wear it every day. (Emeralds are too soft)

When my grandmother died, she left me a piece of jewelry. It was her engagement diamond put into a starburst necklace. It is very beautiful. She said her late husband never wanted it turned into a necklace. She did not have a great marriage and as soon as he passed, she had it changed into the necklace. She told me that when I received it - I could turn it back into a ring if I wanted to. 

DH and I had this discussion prior to buying the ring. He wanted to put the diamond in the setting and I did too - a little bit, but I kind of wanted my own stone as something fresh and new. We got a lab created sapphire and spent the bulk of the money on the ring itself. Lately I have been thinking about replacing the sapphire with her diamond. It is noticeably smaller than my sapphire stone, but I think they could make it work in the setting (my only concern). DH says he has no problem if I wanted to do this - we discussed it prior to buying this ring anyways. 

Is it bad karma to switch it? My wedding band is a mix of diamonds and sapphires that matches the engagement ring. IDK. Think on it some more? I'll PIP in a second. 

[margarita]

Wow. That is a knockout ring, DL! I love it.

Do what makes you happy. You can always think on it some more though, if you're not sure. No rush, right?

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Yeah no rush, I love the sapphire a lot. It would just be nice and meaningful to have my grandmother's stone with me every day too. I was very close to her.

[partiallysunny]

Do you have a picture of the necklace as well?

What if you made a ring from it just to wear, not as an engagement ring?

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That could be an idea partiallysunny. I don't know that I have an upclose picture. I can do a PIP tonight. Let me see if I can find one from my wedding photos real quick.

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This is probably the best I can do. I'll DD later because my Dad's in the pic. 

[margarita]

That's a really sweet picture.

I don't think it's bad karma, like you said, to switch the stone. It's about your connection to your grandmother, and if it means a lot to you, you should do it.
I do love the look of the centre stone you have already though, so I like PS's idea of putting your grandmother's diamond into a different ring as well.

I don't think you can go wrong. You have time to decide.

[Wrath0fKuus]

I too vote just get it made into a right hand ring, and be fabulous from both sides every day.

[captainmel]

Nov 21, 2013 17:36:43 GMT -5 Wrath0fKuus said:

I too vote just get it made into a right hand ring, and be fabulous from both sides every day.

I like this idea a lot. I think that starburst would look gorgeous as a ring.

Your sapphire is stunning too. You really can't go wrong with shiny stuff.

[partiallysunny]

You're so cute doglove.

[gault]

Hottie mchothot.

Another vote for right hand ring!

[sparksfly]

Add me to the list of a right hand ring votes.

Beautiful ring, beautiful necklace and beautiful picture of you and your dad.

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Thank you guys!

[neonpink]

I think your ring is beautiful as is. I think a right hand ring would be special.

[dixienormous]

Your ring is gorgeous. I agree with Kuus. Or change it into a pendant you'd wear all the time around your neck. There are so many "daily wear" options for you!

[starrieskies]

I think a right hand ring would be perfect. Thinking a bit down the road (because I'm strange like that), if you happened to have a daughter, someday maybe you could pass the ring down to her.

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Nov 22, 2013 11:37:41 GMT -5 starrieskies said:

I think a right hand ring would be perfect. Thinking a bit down the road (because I'm strange like that), if you happened to have a daughter, someday maybe you could pass the ring down to her.

I had thought of that, that's kind of why I wanted it in my engagement ring setting so she could have a piece of me and her great grandmother. Hmmmmmmmmmm. Maybe later down the road. 

[starrieskies]

That's a very good point, dl... I hadn't thought about it that way.

[gault]

Side note - I didn't know you had a non-diamond in your e-ring, and that's what I've wanted to do the second time around. TWINSIES

[neonpink]

DL. I have been thinking. Your ring is beautiful but I also think the sentiment of using your Grandmothers ring is very lovely. I am wearing a ring today that my Grandmother had made for herself from her wedding stones and my great grandmothers wedding stones. She gave it to my Mom who recently just gave it to me. I love that I have so much family history in one piece of jewelry.

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Nov 22, 2013 13:53:15 GMT -5 gault said:

Side note - I didn't know you had a non-diamond in your e-ring, and that's what I've wanted to do the second time around. TWINSIES

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