Whose family?

[Deleted]

I agreed to do Thanksgiving with my in-laws every year since we always do Christmas with my family (out of state). However, my in-laws are somewhat dysfunctional and my family is like something out of a Norman Rockwell painting (at least for the holidays). I'm homesick right now.

Do you celebrate with in-laws, your family, or by yourselves? Do you do the same thing every year?

[charlielove]

Thanksgiving changes every year. If we are going to my parent's cabin, like this year, we just spend it with my family. If we stay in town, we see my family and IL's. For Christmas we do Christmas Eve with the IL's and Christmas morning just the four of us, and Christmas afternoon with my family every year.

[katfco]

On the years we don't got to the ILs' for Christmas (every other year) they come for Thanksgiving. On the off years, it's just us and in the past we've gone to Cracker Barrel.

[Deleted]

It rotates every year. This year thanksgiving with my family, Christmas with in laws. Next year that will flip. Unless we are on the east coast, which could likely mean we don't travel and do our own thing. And also, whoever gets Christmas, the other family get Christmas Eve.

[kandrze1]

Thanksgiving changes every year for us too. This year we're staying home and having dinner with cousins and family from my mom's side. H's family is all out of the area and mine is all here so we tend to spend more time with my family. Christmas Eve we go to my cousin's (my dad's side) and Christmas is at my aunt's ( my mom's side). The weekend after Christmas we do Christmas with my H's family.

[fusion]

Thanksgiving is always here in town with my family. We aren't doing that tomorrow because my mom and FIL are sick, so it will just be us 4. We switch out Christmas between here and Arizona. Thankfully this is a staying home year. I love my MIL, but she goes way overboard and it can be stressful at her house.

[thedahliharpa]

Alternate. This year his family tomorrow but we will go visit my family Friday

[kkfeb04]

We used to rotate before we volunteered at the local mission. Then it got too hard to do that and travel so we skipped the travel. We haven't been able to volunteer since 2011 but we have stayed home. My mom is driving over tomorrow for dinner.

We will start volunteering again when the kids get a little older.

ILs will never be here. They are currently in laurack's neck of the woods as BIL never travels and always host dinner.

Don't ask me about the Thanksgiving from hell when we traveled the 9 hours twice in 24 hours.

[The Foozzler]

Both. At the same time. Our parents, grandparents, siblings, and sometimes some aunts and cousins all come to our house.

[carawestt]

Thanksgiving changes from year to year, this year we're on our own. Christmas Eve is with the ILs because my parents are out of state, Christmas day is by ourselves.

[jenbelle]

We're always doing the same thing- dinner at my parents, underdone turkey, drunken dad, niece and bro's girlfriend texting during dinner, little niece wanting to play barbies. We used to play badminton, but it's too cold this year.

Happy Thanksgiving!

[Deleted]

I think I'd rather start hosting the holidays myself and invite all our parents. If they come, great. If not, I still get to be in my own home with my family. Is that crazy? I feel like both our parents would not appreciate that.

[eav2c]

My IL's for all holidays. It sucks. We were supposed to host tomorrow but BIL/SIL are dickweeds and now we are going to Cracker Barrel at 11am tomorrow (fuck me). I will, hopefully, put my foot down and just do Christmas at our house this year without the drama (aka BIL/ SIL not there).

[Deleted]

Nov 27, 2013 19:19:48 GMT -5 eav2c said:

My IL's for all holidays. It sucks. We were supposed to host tomorrow but BIL/SIL are dickweeds and now we are going to Cracker Barrel at 11am tomorrow (fuck me). I will, hopefully, put my foot down and just do Christmas at our house this year without the drama (aka BIL/ SIL not there).

I support this plan. Holidays should be (but rarely are) drama free. I'm sorry about Cracker Barrel...that doesn't sound great. But at least it will be over relatively quickly?

[mumegs]

For a long time h's mom was his only family in state and she would just come to my family's house. Recently his sister and her kids moved back from CO so now there are 2 thanksgivings...I didn't know how good I had it! Now we have to fight about where to go. This year were actually going to both because I can't miss my family's...thanksgiving is really out big holiday and it's my favorite holiday.

[redmonkeystomper]

Odd years we do Thanksginvg at my parents. They live 6 hours away and my sister and her dh and 2 kids come down as well. We eat a Thanksgiving meal a weekend before with my inlaws because we live in the same town. On even years we stay in town and my parents join us with my in laws. Fr Christmas we always do Christmas Eve with my inlaws ans Chrismtas day at our house. We go to my parents after Christmas for a few days.

[joyhart02]

We alternate every year. This year thanksgiving at the IL's. Christmas with my family, next year vice versa.

[formerlyllizzyb]

Traditionally we have done Thanksgiving with mine, and Christmas Eve/morning with his, then spend the weekend before or after Christmas with mine. We're switching it up this year and doing thanksgiving here with his, and Christmas Eve/morning at my parents. My parents are coming to see us this weekend, too.

H's parents are 50 mins away, my parents are 2.5 hrs away.

I'm sorry you're homesick.

[Deleted]

Nov 27, 2013 20:56:44 GMT -5 formerlyllizzyb said:

Traditionally we have done Thanksgiving with mine, and Christmas Eve/morning with his, then spend the weekend before or after Christmas with mine. We're switching it up this year and doing thanksgiving here with his, and Christmas Eve/morning at my parents. My parents are coming to see us this weekend, too.

H's parents are 50 mins away, my parents are 2.5 hrs away.

I'm sorry you're homesick.

Thanks it's nice you're doing the holiday with both sides this year! I wish my parents lived close enough that we could just share the holiday week. I'm really close with my parents and grandfather and my H is not that way with his family. I feel like our holidays with his side are out of obligation.

Yay for wine and pumpkin pie, anyway. Happy Thanksgiving!

[vthokie]

Nov 27, 2013 18:12:04 GMT -5 @dragonmommy422 said:

It rotates every year. This year thanksgiving with my family, Christmas with in laws. Next year that will flip. Unless we are on the east coast, which could likely mean we don't travel and do our own thing. And also, whoever gets Christmas, the other family get Christmas Eve.

This is what we used to do. Now, we flip Christmas and thanksgiving each year. But, now that we have a kid, we stay here for Christmas Eve and morning, then drive to whichever family after we have opened our presents here. We still go see the other family at Christmas time, just not until closer to new year. It's all pretty exhausting.

[TrudyCampbell]

We rotate.

[nilex0102]

We are in AZ so see BIL and the ILs are in town as well. We have done Thanksgiving with them in Ohio before as well with just us and with both families.
Christmas is just us at home since I want the kids to wake up Christmas morning at their own house. Our house is not really big enough for family to stay with us.

[teamhayes]

Both! Inlaws and my family come to my houuse ffor all holidays. 1 bil too.

This year no dad - they just filedfordivorce after 40 yrs

[fryjack2]

I'm sorry teamhayes I hope you guys have a good time tomorrow even with your dad not there.

We kind of rotate a bit. Our families are in different states. Mine is a plane ride away, H's are in NYC. We would go to both places (and celebrate on different days) before the boys came along. Now we are trying to alternate but MIL has been having crying episodes about us not being with them on all holidays on the actual day.

I'm over it. H is over it and she will just have to deal. Just wait until we start having Christmas at our house without anyone else invited. Or we go away instead since we don't really care about the religious part of Christmas. She's going to flip.

[livinreality]

This year everyone is coming to our house , MIL is already complaining it is not at her house and she has to share grandkids with my parents... so let the wine flow and praying I keep my mouth shut.

We have no tradition but see both sets of parents within the week of the holiday for both Thanksgiving and Christmas since the both live within 30 mins. We do stay home for Christmas morning. My Mom and brother work rotating schedules so actual days depends on them.

[Deleted]

We always do dh bc mine is half way across the country although 1 year we went to my great uncles in Palm Springs and did thanksgiving with his family on a Saturday so everyone could come. For Christmas we do our own thing Christmas Eve and will head over after nap on Christmas Day

[formerlyllizzyb]

Nov 27, 2013 21:13:09 GMT -5 @thereigninglorelai said:

Nov 27, 2013 20:56:44 GMT -5 formerlyllizzyb said:

Traditionally we have done Thanksgiving with mine, and Christmas Eve/morning with his, then spend the weekend before or after Christmas with mine. We're switching it up this year and doing thanksgiving here with his, and Christmas Eve/morning at my parents. My parents are coming to see us this weekend, too.

H's parents are 50 mins away, my parents are 2.5 hrs away.

I'm sorry you're homesick.

Thanks it's nice you're doing the holiday with both sides this year! I wish my parents lived close enough that we could just share the holiday week. I'm really close with my parents and grandfather and my H is not that way with his family. I feel like our holidays with his side are out of obligation.

Yay for wine and pumpkin pie, anyway. Happy Thanksgiving!

we're both close to our immediate families, so it's nice to spend time with both sides. I prefer my extended family over H's, however and yes, three cheers for wine at the holidays!

[pinkpeony6210]

We have set holidays...

Thanksgiving - my family
Christmas Eve - DH's family
Christmas - my family
Easter - DH's family

[bean47]

Our plans for holidays change year to year depending if H is working or not. Christmas Eve (or the weekend before if H is working) has been at our house with his family which I hope they continue to do. Christmas day is my family. Thanksgiving and Easter are a toss up! If H is working I go to my family, if he isn't well....we usually go to my family too.

[spaghetticat]

Last year I cooked and both families came with the exception of mh who was working(remember the blw drama?). Since we don't have a place this year, my mil offered to cook and she invited my parents. They declined, which is super awkward since she knows they won't cook.