ILs took the kids to see Santa without me.

[katfco]

Posting and running but I'm not happy. We were at the mall and I went ahead to the food court to get a table while they came up with the kids. It took longer than I thought it should have, when FIL and kids come up to say they had stopped to see Santa on the way because there was no line.  I was sitting waiting for them just upstairs and they were seeing Santa! 

I had even debated suggesting we go after lunch because I knew MIL would like to be there, but I didn't expect them to leave me out of it! I think my face and reaction showed FIL that I wanted to be there and was disappointed, and when MIL showed me the picture I barely glanced at it, but I haven't had a single word of apology from them at all.

I'm still taking them out for the "good" pictures.

[mala]

I'd be mad.

[muppetinma]

RAGE!!! Not cool. Not cool at all. I would be pissed and wouldn't be afraid to tell them.

[unclejesse]

What makes people think this is ok??? I'd be so pissed.

[kkfeb04]

I would be pissed PISSED!!!!

I'm so sorry!

[thedahliharpa]

That was rude. I'm sorry you have to go out of your way for a second visit.

[raynes]

No. No no no no no. When we were waiting for Owen's pictures some grandpa type came up with his grandkids "just to see him, not for pictures, because they're parents would kill me". Yeah, I'd kill you anyway.

[Deleted]

Oooooh I would be ragey. And I wouldn't have held back either. HELL. TO. THE. NO.

[bean47]

Not okay! I'm sorry they were so inconsiderate.

[laurack]

WHAT??? this is NOT ok? why would anybody think this is ok!

aaaaah I'm so annoyed on your behalf.

[lydiasings28]

Definitely not cool. They could have at least called or texted. My MIL is like that where she wants to take E and do all of her firsts without us (buying first Christmas dress, birthday outfit, etc...) and we firmly tell her no. She got pissed when we vaguely discussed possible future plans of going to Disney World with our friends because she wasn't invited and wanted to be there for E's first trip there.

[ruby412]

Hello overstepping grandparents, and how are you today?

[eav2c]

I would absolutely be furious. I am sorry.

[katfco]

Yeah, it's been 3 hours and I'm still mad about it, but I feel like I can't really tell them. It's done and there's nothing I can do about it. They're not a very confrontational family, but I know they know how I feel. When my MIL showed me the picture, I barely looked at it and told her it was hers, because I'm going to take them myself. It even came with extra copies and I won't take those either.

Most of the time they're great, but sometimes she gets so focused on what she wants to do with them, she forgets that maybe I want to do that myself. If she would only apologize or acknowledge that it's kind of a big deal, I wouldn't be so mad, but nothing.

And maybe I'm also a bit madder than I normally would be because this happened while I was waiting for them. They were on their way to come to where I was holding a table for us.

[cat19]

What the actual eff? Not cool at all. Not at all.

[Deleted]

That is so so wrong. I'm so sorry.

[lolaburns]

That is really weird. I would be cool with walking by and seeing Santa but taking photos is strange. I'm sorry that happened.

[joyhart02]

I would be super duper pissed. I am sorry. As said awhile ago, it doesn't count unless mommy see's it.

I would be really pissed though

[christidee]

I'm so sorry. That is not okay. I would also be very upset. 

[kdrake8]

I'm sorry - this was totally overstepping and not ok. Wtf?! I hope your refusal of the pics makes her realize what she did.

[mscatra]

Omg! Just doing it is terrible but its twice as bad since you were at the mall the whole time! It honestly makes no sense.

[carawestt]

Why did they ever think that was okay? I'm sorry, I would be mad.

[Beener]

I want to punch these people in the face for you. I'm sorry.

[lindsaymg]

I never post here but saw this on the front page and am feeling super ragey for you! Totally out of bounds grandparents!

[katfco]

Nov 29, 2013 17:45:43 GMT -5 mscatra said:

Omg! Just doing it is terrible but its twice as bad since you were at the mall the whole time! It honestly makes no sense.

Yeah, I was about 40 feet away. The food court is on the second floor and opens up to look down on the first floor where Santa was.

ETA: thank you everyone for justifying my anger. DH isn't outraged (it takes a lot to outrage him) but he agrees I have a reason to be bothered. Sadly, it's probably just going to have to be something I get over, because it's not big enough of a deal to make a fuss over.