WWPBD, obsessive planning edition

[shevacc]

If this baby sticks, I should be due around 8/7 based on LMP. One of my best friends is getting married on 9/20 next year and he already asked me to be in the wedding. If I deliver on time, I would be ~6 weeks post partum by the time of the wedding. Would it be absolutely crazy to try to be a bridesmaid in a wedding then? I really want to do it -- he's an awesome friend. The wedding will be near San Francisco so I could get a short non-stop flight. If it's a really bad idea, when should I tell him? creamsiclechica and kdrake8, what do you think? You're both close to 6 weeks pp, right?

[TrudyCampbell]

I'd do it for a best friend.

[shevacc]

Dec 2, 2013 17:16:01 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

I would have been up for it at 6 weeks PP. Like, probably really ready. lol

I was thinking that too...I was ready to start working out again 6 weeks pp so I think it would be a fun non-baby diversion.

[muppetinma]

I'd do it in a heartbeat.

[Chrisx2+1]

I was dying to go back to work 5 weeks PP, I would do it.

[shevacc]

Dec 2, 2013 17:16:43 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

I'd do it for a best friend.

He is. I'm still trying to figure out if we should travel to Maine in June for another friend's wedding. I think I would be ~32 weeks then (I wouldn't be in it, just attending).

[shevacc]

Dec 2, 2013 17:17:53 GMT -5 muppetinma said:

I'd do it in a heartbeat.

Good to know I'm not crazy to consider it Or at least all the rest of you are equally crazy.

[Deleted]

I am less than 2wks Pp with a csection & I'm feeling great enough that is do it next week.

[rjamz]

I would do it, for sure

[muppetinma]

Dec 2, 2013 17:20:38 GMT -5 shevacc said:

Dec 2, 2013 17:16:43 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

I'd do it for a best friend.

He is. I'm still trying to figure out if we should travel to Maine in June for another friend's wedding. I think I would be ~32 weeks then (I wouldn't be in it, just attending).

I think it would depend on where in Maine the wedding is.  I wouldn't want to have to deal with the hassle of flying into Boston, renting a car, and hauling my ass up 95 with a toddler and a big belly.   

ETA - I mean, I'd do it for family or a really good friend.  But if I were on the fence, I'd skip it.  PLUS, renting cars out of Boston is stupidly expensive.  

[Deleted]

It would depend for me. I couldn't leave a baby overnight because I would be BFing, but I would go with DH and bring the baby to be in a wedding for sure.

[shevacc]

Dec 2, 2013 17:23:31 GMT -5 @vsalt31 said:

I am less than 2wks Pp with a csection & I'm feeling great enough that is do it next week.

That's really good to know. In my head I felt awesome 6 weeks PP...but I also have no memory of labor pain or early BFing nipple pain, so I wasn't sure if my reality was a little mixed up.

[kdrake8]

I'm 6 weeks pp and I'd have no problem doing it at all. Even sleep deprived, you'd be fine!
I think the hardest thing would be if you're nursing the new baby, trying to figure that out.

[shevacc]

Dec 2, 2013 17:25:36 GMT -5 muppetinma said:

Dec 2, 2013 17:20:38 GMT -5 shevacc said:

He is. I'm still trying to figure out if we should travel to Maine in June for another friend's wedding. I think I would be ~32 weeks then (I wouldn't be in it, just attending).

I think it would depend on where in Maine the wedding is.  I wouldn't want to have to deal with the hassle of flying into Boston, renting a car, and hauling my ass up 95 with a toddler and a big belly.   

ETA - I mean, I'd do it for family or a really good friend.  But if I were on the fence, I'd skip it.  PLUS, renting cars out of Boston is stupidly expensive.  

We have friends in Boston (lived there for 7 years) so at this point the idea of visiting sounds fun. We'd probably do the wedding plus stay a few extra days to see friends/family. In my head it sounds like an awesome plan. But my head is known to forget pregnancy discomfort .

[shevacc]

Dec 2, 2013 17:29:15 GMT -5 kdrake8 said:

I'm 6 weeks pp and I'd have no problem doing it at all. Even sleep deprived, you'd be fine!
I think the hardest thing would be if you're nursing the new baby, trying to figure that out.

Yeah, nursing is definitely the plan. DH, G, and new baby would definitely be coming with me. I would probably have to bring a pump? And possibly try to nurse right before the ceremony. Luckily it's not a church wedding so I don't expect the ceremony to be super long/formal. So it sounds somewhat complicated, but hopefully doable.

[bigapple]

Do it!! We flew cross country for a wedding at seven weeks. It was the easiest flight with C because he just napped on me and nursed the whole time. We left C with a family member during the wedding and had the best time. It was an outdoor reception with no outlets, so I pumped in the car.

My husband flew to SC for a wedding 16 days after C was born, and I was upset we hadn't booked a ticket for me because I felt great enough to go, but that's a bit earlier than I would be comfortable flying with C. We also went to a Cinco de Mayo/Kentucky Derby party four days PP because I was so antsy to get out. I was a bit exhausted but had an excellent time.

We also traveled a lot later in pregnancy, including a trip to Maine!

[bigapple]

Whoa, congratulations! I just noticed who the original poster was. I missed your announcement!

[shevacc]

Dec 2, 2013 20:02:12 GMT -5 bigapple said:

Whoa, congratulations! I just noticed who the original poster was. I missed your announcement!

Thanks! I just posted squinty pee-stick photos last night and today . Thanks for all your traveling experience too. I think I'm going to plan on going to both weddings if we can swing it vacation-wise.

[dixeedeluxe]

My 2nd delivery was nothing. And having two kids was...woof...rough. I was FF so that was easy.

I'd do it!

[jaime183]

we had family weddings to go to across country at 7 weeks (NYC then we went to FL afterwards) and 11 weeks (VT) and we went to both

it was easy to fly with him then because he slept a ton and the bucket seat is so easy. It's just a lot of stuff but if your DH would be going too it shouldn't be bad.

Would a baby be invited to the reception or would you have to bring a family member to stay with the baby?

[shevacc]

Dec 3, 2013 0:08:31 GMT -5 jaime183 said:

we had family weddings to go to across country at 7 weeks (NYC then we went to FL afterwards) and 11 weeks (VT) and we went to both

it was easy to fly with him then because he slept a ton and the bucket seat is so easy. It's just a lot of stuff but if your DH would be going too it shouldn't be bad.

Would a baby be invited to the reception or would you have to bring a family member to stay with the baby?

I suspect both baby and G would technically be invited to the reception but we'd probably try to figure out other plans for G. Especially since my friend doesn't have kids and hasn't really been around them. I don't think he really knows what inviting a toddler to a reception entails .

[Deleted]

Dec 2, 2013 17:27:00 GMT -5 shevacc said:

Dec 2, 2013 17:23:31 GMT -5 @vsalt31 said:

I am less than 2wks Pp with a csection & I'm feeling great enough that is do it next week.

That's really good to know. In my head I felt awesome 6 weeks PP...but I also have no memory of labor pain or early BFing nipple pain, so I wasn't sure if my reality was a little mixed up.

My only suggestion would be to invest in some major under eye conceiler. The up all night is equal or worse then I remember. Ugh, I'm so tired!

[shevacc]

Dec 3, 2013 2:39:31 GMT -5 @vsalt31 said:

Dec 2, 2013 17:27:00 GMT -5 shevacc said:

That's really good to know. In my head I felt awesome 6 weeks PP...but I also have no memory of labor pain or early BFing nipple pain, so I wasn't sure if my reality was a little mixed up.

My only suggestion would be to invest in some major under eye conceiler. The up all night is equal or worse then I remember. Ugh, I'm so tired!

I hope it gets better soon! I don't remember when I started to sleep more again...but I do know that now I complain about lack of sleep even though it's nothing like newborn lack of sleep!

[PatBenatar]

I flew 5 hours to be in my BFF's wedding at 9 weeks PP. 6 weeks PP with a short flight definitely sounds doable!