Family Name Drama

[mscatra]

My cousin, whom I have posted about previously as being an annoying know-it-all, one-upper, and front-facer of a ten month old, had her twin boys nearly two weeks ago.  Their names are Ca.rs.on and E.th.an.  The drama, you ask?  My other cousin (we are all first cousins who live within 20 minutes of each other) had a baby in July.  His name - Ca.rs.en (big brother is La.nd.en).  The family speculation is that twin mom cousin had her names already picked out when Ca.rs.en was born (his name wasn't public knowledge before birth) and basically said eff that, that's my name and I'm not changing.  I'm thinking I'm going to call him 2 (or too, lol) just to see what she does.  What do Probies think?  Should she have changed to a different name?

[charlielove]

I don't think it's a big deal.

[carawestt]

I don't think it's that big of a deal.

[muppetinma]

I would have changed it if it was somebody that I saw frequently, but I agree that it's not really a big deal.

[eav2c]

My H and his cousin have the same name (so, MIL and her brother both have sons with the same name). They are several years apart. No drama in their family about it but I would be irked if Colin's name was so closely used in our family, I admit it!

[mscatra]

Dec 3, 2013 14:22:56 GMT -5 muppetinma said:

I would have changed it if it was somebody that I saw frequently, but I agree that it's not really a big deal.

The family (it's my stepfamily) is very close and does functions frequently.

[skwcm80]

Not a big deal in my opinion.

[mscatra]

Dec 3, 2013 14:23:41 GMT -5 eav2c said:

My H and his cousin have the same name (so, MIL and her brother both have sons with the same name). They are several years apart. No drama in their family about it but I would be irked if Colin's name was so closely used in our family, I admit it!

I think it's the close age that really makes it drama, plus that she's not always the most likeable person.  Also, she previously stated that she was never having another kid, as they're too much work (also, she doesn't breastfeed because she's not a "cow", said to other cousin who was breastfeeding).  Cousin with July baby got pregnant, PRESTO! she gets pregnant, too, which we all called.  She can't stand for anyone else to have the attention.  When her brother announced that his GF was expecting at the same time she was for #1, she literally threw him out of her house.

[tuck]

The children are second cousins. Not a big deal unless someone makes it a big deal.

[carawestt]

I will admit that I personally would've changed it because I wouldn't want Lincoln to have to share "his" name.

[shevacc]

Dec 3, 2013 14:35:11 GMT -5 carawestt said:

I will admit that I personally would've changed it because I wouldn't want Lincoln to have to share "his" name.

This. Also I think as a generation we want our kids to have different names, even though when we grew up there were tons of duplicate names around.

It rubs me the wrong way given all her other attention-grabby stunts, though.

[mscatra]

Dec 3, 2013 14:34:44 GMT -5 tuck said:

The children are second cousins. Not a big deal unless someone makes it a big deal.

Pretend I'm not new on the mobile site and envision a one eyebrow raised smiley here.

[tuck]

Dec 3, 2013 14:51:54 GMT -5 mscatra said:

Dec 3, 2013 14:34:44 GMT -5 tuck said:

The children are second cousins. Not a big deal unless someone makes it a big deal.

Pretend I'm not new on the mobile site and envision a one eyebrow raised smiley here.

I don't know, it kind of seems like manufactured drama, especially if you were serious about calling the twin something other than their given name. I don't mean to offend you, but it seems like a silly thing to get worked up over. 

[lolaburns]

If they are second cousins or even first cousins its no big deal for me. I think it would be different if siblings chose the same name for their children. If she had previously selected it before the twins' birth then why should she change it?

[sunshineluv]

I would be annoyed if I was the mom who used the name first. Probably just annoyed enough to talk about it behind her back a little bit, then get over it.

[katie]

Dec 3, 2013 15:08:27 GMT -5 sunshineluv said:

I would be annoyed if I was the mom who used the name first. Probably just annoyed enough to talk about it behind her back a little bit, then get over it.

This is where I am at but I also would have likely changed the name.

[Beener]

Before we decided on Lucas for this baby, we were considering Evan. DH's cousin has a 3-yr-old named Evan so we decided against it, even though they would have different last names.

It isn't a huge deal since they are second cousins but I personally felt bad "stealing" another family member's name.

[jsillyfun]

If I really loved the name, I wouldn't change it. She sounds annoying though...

[mscatra]

Dec 3, 2013 14:57:06 GMT -5 tuck said:

I don't know, it kind of seems like manufactured drama, especially if you were serious about calling the twin something other than their given name. I don't mean to offend you, but it seems like a silly thing to get worked up over. 

You didn't mean to offend me, but you think I'm manufacturing drama and I and others in my family are silly to be discussing it?  ^o) (I'm not mobile now, lol.)  I'm not trying to start drama either within my family or on here, and I think it's a stretch to say I'm "worked up over" it in either case.  I was curious about the Probie opinion, definitely surprised that so many think it's NBD, and even more suprised to see a remark that seemed to be personally negative towards me for having a differing opinion.

[tuck]

I'm sorry you took it as a personal attack. I really don't see how my comments (especially my first comment) could be construed as such, but I am sorry I offended you. I don't think it's silly to discuss it, but I do think it's silly to be upset about it. And I do think you would be in the wrong- and creating drama- if you were to call the new baby "Two" just to see what the mom would say. I get that she's really annoying, but there's no reason to poke the bear.

Again, I'm sorry. I genuinely didn't mean it as a personal attack.

[mumegs]

I wouldn't change a name I had already planned on just bc someone else used it first....but I made my name choice common knowledge as soon as we knew she was a girl. I think I've said it before but my sister has the same name as one of our first cousins that we see all the time. My aunt actually picked the name because she liked my sisters name so much. They are big Katie and little Katie or Katie last name. It's a minor annoyance sometimes but not really a big deal.

[jaime183]

I wouldn't do it but I don't think it's that big of a deal. I also would let the moms be petty about it and not get into it by making comments.

[rxbeth]

I don't think she should have changed the name. She obviously doesn't have a problem with him having the same name as a second cousin. If the other family member does, maybe she should have made the name public knowledge ahead of time knowing a family member was also pregnant.

[Deleted]

Dec 3, 2013 22:47:49 GMT -5 rxbeth said:

I don't think she should have changed the name. She obviously doesn't have a problem with him having the same name as a second cousin. If the other family member does, maybe she should have made the name public knowledge ahead of time knowing a family member was also pregnant.

This.

They aren't the same name either, really close but I would pronounce them different.

I probably wouldn't do it but it wouldn't bother me if somebody in my family did. I have a cousin Ali and her cousin has a daughter named Allie, pronounced exactly the same.

[juliamastro]

She sounds just like my SIL! I would probably change the name and if I was the cousin who had the baby first I would probably be pretty annoyed.