Mama drama

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My mom has been watching O the past two days because she's sick. Yesterday when I got home, she kept pushing me to try pears with her, and I told her multiple times that we weren't introducing any foods until 5 1/2 to 6 months (which is like three weeks from now, and she's sick as shit right now so no way I'm I introducing anything new at this point) 

Highlight Reel:

1. I offer to take her to dinner as a thank you.

2. The whole ride over to the restaurant she grows increasingly irritated that I wouldn't succumb to her pear pressure. Even managed to throw out some bashes at my doctor and said she would consult the Internet. Yeah lady, you do that. Also, I don't care - I'm all la la la Christmas Mariah Carey is the best kind. LAAAAAAA

3. She says her feelings are hurt at dinner because I'm not listening to her and she doesn't feel appreciated. I pointed out that this dinner is a sign of my appreciation, and yes I heard her, but that doesn't mean I will agree. 

4. SHE LOST HER SHIT IN THE RESTAURANT AND WALKED OUT. 

5. I finished my margarita and fish tacos. Paid.

6. She pitched a grade A fit in my back seat about how SHE IS LEAVING and THIS IS WHY WE HAVE A BAD RELATIONSHIP and YOU WERE A TERRIBLE TEENAGER and I THINK YOU'VE CAUGHT THE POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION. THE BABY IS STARVING! STARVING!! 

7. We got back to the apartment, and she proceeds to go on and on and on and ON about how she's just going to walk out and leave. This goes on for about thirty minutes until I finally just turned to her and said "Well, I guess I'm bidding you motherfucking adieu then, get out."

8. She went speechless, and then finally left.

9. Then I watched Shahs of Sunset. WTF, Reza? 

[vanillacourage]

I think your mom has caught the PPD by proxy.  JFC.

[MWOS]

PEAR PRESSURE

[idoinjuly]

She doesn't sound like she's emotionally stable. I bet she gave O pears while you were at work.

[wambam]

Holy. Shit.

I never thought I'd say this, but your mother sounds bat shit crazier than MY mother.

((betty))

[CurlyQ284]

Holy shit.

[LauraMoser]

Omg, do we have the same mother?! Seriously, this sounds like something my mom would do. She has done parts of number six before, especially telling me I had PPD. Is she always like this?

I'm so sorry betty. Good job in kicking her out though. I know that takes some balls.

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Dec 4, 2013 8:51:54 GMT -5 idoinjuly said:

She doesn't sound like she's emotionally stable. I bet she gave O pears while you were at work.

There's no baby food in the house and she didn't leave all day because she doesn't have a gate code or the car seat adapter. She called me as I was leaving work asking me to pick some up to try. 

But she totally would have if there were pears in the house. 

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Damn. All of that over pears!

I think it's awesome you put your foot down. If you hadn't she would grow into a monster!

[poppyseed]

Lol at pear pressure.

Holy shit betty's mom. My mom pushed the solids thing, too, and we argued about it a lot. I didn't start M until 7 months and my mom was all "zomg, she's going to hate food and have food issues because of you!". M literally eats everything I put in front of her.

Moms, man.

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Dec 4, 2013 8:53:46 GMT -5 LauraMoser said:

Omg, do we have the same mother?! Seriously, this sounds like something my mom would do. She has done parts of number six before, especially telling me I had PPD. Is she always like this?

I'm so sorry betty. Good job in kicking her out though. I know that takes some balls.

Yes, she's always been like this when she's confronted with a differing opinion. It just escalated because I wouldn't fold, and then it pissed her off that I was completely indifferent to her self imposed meltdown. 

Don't care, lady. Can't guilt trip me. 

[speckledfrog]

[vanillacourage]

Dec 4, 2013 8:54:46 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

Dec 4, 2013 8:51:54 GMT -5 idoinjuly said:

She doesn't sound like she's emotionally stable. I bet she gave O pears while you were at work.

There's no baby food in the house and she didn't leave all day because she doesn't have a gate code or the car seat adapter. She called me as I was leaving work asking me to pick some up to try. 

But she totally would have if there were pears in the house. 

She's totally going to buy some the next time she's at the grocery store/Target. 

If you feel strongly about the baby food thing I would probably not let her babysit for a while. 

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Dec 4, 2013 8:58:11 GMT -5 vanillacourage said:

Dec 4, 2013 8:54:46 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

There's no baby food in the house and she didn't leave all day because she doesn't have a gate code or the car seat adapter. She called me as I was leaving work asking me to pick some up to try. 

But she totally would have if there were pears in the house. 

She's totally going to buy some the next time she's at the grocery store/Target. 

If you feel strongly about the baby food thing I would probably not let her babysit for a while. 

I agree 110%.

[Jalapeñomel]

You need a new sitter. She sounds insufferable and definitely not to be trusted.

[mrssandro]

My mom and I used to have fights like this. It is a lot less frequent. My mom likes to play the victim card and usually it's one of her children who are being mean and unappreciative to her. I try to consider my moms past and where she is in life and attempt to be humble. Distance helps a ton.

[meggers5]

Oof that's crazy.

On the flip side, I'm now going to start bidding everyone motherfucking adieu.

[LauraMoser]

I agree with vanilla for sure.

Does she turn on the water works for full effect? That's what my mom did the last couple of times I talked to her. And she wonders why I don't want to talk to her.

[anlo]

I lol'd at pear pressure, too. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

[thebreakfastclub]

Ugh what a story. I have a "Pear-Gate" too, of a slightly different variety.

Last month, my mom had DS for an overnight and was really gung ho about trying pear juice. I said, "I am not giving juice at home, the pedi does not want juice, etc." You would have thought juice was a magical elixir that will guarantee Mensa membership someday.

Anyway, I finally said do whatever you want. So she gave him 4 oz of pear juice, which he guzzled down in 5 minutes flat. Less than 2 hours later, the projectile diarrhea began in full force, and it didn't subside until 3 outfit changes later. Luckily, she washed all of his clothes, so I had nothing left to do but laugh.

So juice is officially back on her banned list. The worst part was, she told me when I was expecting to avoid juice because it causes tummy upset. The one time I actually tried to take her parenting advice...

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Dec 4, 2013 9:02:50 GMT -5 LauraMoser said:

I agree with vanilla for sure.

Does she turn on the water works for full effect? That's what my mom did the last couple of times I talked to her. And she wonders why I don't want to talk to her.

She's not a crier, but she's definitely got a heavy case of martyr syndrome. She's basically the overbearing Italian mother stereotype. 

She really doesn't get to me anymore. If she can't play nice, she can just take her ball and go home. BRIGHTLY. 

[bananapancakes]

Holy crap! Your mom sounds nuts and good for you for standing up to her! I totally did lol at "pear pressure" though. Nicely done!

[candreco]

OMG pear pressure!

Seriously though, good for you for pushing back. She got to raise her kids, and needs to understand that she's not the decision maker here.

[saucyc]

Holy shit, your mom is worse than my 4 year old!

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Dec 4, 2013 9:04:52 GMT -5 Que? said:

Holy shit. Is your Mom always so irrational or is it the menopause lately or what?

Eh, she's just accustomed to be the boss hog, and she's so brash because she's really sensitive, insecure and overbearing. 90% of the time she's totally cool. Sometimes she regresses into this weirdo emotional spiral, and there's a long back story of why it is there.

Basically, I'm not making excuses for her, but I know why she is the way she is. That doesn't mean she gets a free pass and I don't placate her. Her damage doesn't have to be my damage. She was a nutjob during my wedding planning, and after that, I basically came to terms that I could either cut her out completely or just see her for who she is and modify my expectations. I've been a lot happier since then. 

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Dec 4, 2013 9:26:32 GMT -5 Que? said:

You are very wise. As long as you know what your boundaries are and are able to enforce them, you'll be fine.

I'm zen as shit, man. 

[isabel]

"Motherfucking adieu." Yes!

Sorry your mom is crazy, but it sounds like you handled things just fine.

[Booze Raccoon]

Blah.  Tell her she doesn't have to babysit anymore because it is clearly taking a toll on her.

I love Shahs!!  I didn't watch the entire episode yet but I LOLd for real over "Burt Reynolds looking mother fucker"    

[mcsangel2]

PEAR PRESSURE is now officially a thing!

[snickers]

I am so sorry, that would be so stressful. My mom and I don't have a strained relationship, but she is also annoying the fuck out of me when it come stop her baby advice. Things are different now mom, get off of my back! My mom also gets her ass up in the air when I don't listen to her. Your mom sounds a little less stable though, and I really think you did the right thing. Big hugs to you.