Sex, or lack thereof

[redpenmama]

Umm, what is sex?

[greencrayon]

I couldn't care less about sex. I haven't the whole pregnancy. We've had sex maybe 6 times in the last 7 months. Sorry, DH.

[lulu21]

Dec 6, 2013 21:01:17 GMT -5 greencrayon said:

I couldn't care less about sex. I haven't the whole pregnancy. We've had sex maybe 6 times in the last 7 months. Sorry, DH.

This! DH keeps trying. He's sweet about it. I just don't know how to work around this bump...

[marie3246]

I couldn't care less, but H starts to give me a massage and it always leads to sex. I just wish he would give me more massages lol

[natablue]

I couldn't care less about sex to begin with, but would oblige DH from time to time pre-pregnancy. That's how we ended up this way, lol. We did a few times in first tri, maybe once in 2nd, and now I am blissfully sex-free. You can feel sorry for him

I actually think he's a little afraid to even try right now.

[vmars]

We like fooling around in other ways lol but I have no desire for intercourse....I will try for the sake of getting this baby to get a move on though.

[bananapancakes]

Our sex life has slowed down a bit but we're still doing it 2-3 times a week and I'm still enjoying it. I thought H would be a bit freaked out but he's not. His drive is probably higher right now than normal. I am definitely enjoying the 2nd tri orgasms. I had my very first ever orgasm from sex alone a few weeks ago and it was amazing! We're starting to have trouble finding comfortable positions though as I really don't like having any of his weight on my belly. I find it so uncomfortable.

[speckledfrog]

Dec 6, 2013 22:11:19 GMT -5 bananapancakes said:

Our sex life has slowed down a bit but we're still doing it 2-3 times a week and I'm still enjoying it. I thought H would be a bit freaked out but he's not. His drive is probably higher right now than normal. I am definitely enjoying the 2nd tri orgasms. I had my very first ever orgasm from sex alone a few weeks ago and it was amazing! We're starting to have trouble finding comfortable positions though as I really don't like having any of his weight on my belly. I find it so uncomfortable.

I don't think you belong in this thread! 

Yes, things have been very dry around here.  It's been much less frequent this pregnancy than last time.  I have zero desire.

[bananapancakes]

Dec 6, 2013 22:22:49 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

Dec 6, 2013 22:11:19 GMT -5 bananapancakes said:

Our sex life has slowed down a bit but we're still doing it 2-3 times a week and I'm still enjoying it. I thought H would be a bit freaked out but he's not. His drive is probably higher right now than normal. I am definitely enjoying the 2nd tri orgasms. I had my very first ever orgasm from sex alone a few weeks ago and it was amazing! We're starting to have trouble finding comfortable positions though as I really don't like having any of his weight on my belly. I find it so uncomfortable.

I don't think you belong in this thread! 

Yes, things have been very dry around here.  It's been much less frequent this pregnancy than last time.  I have zero desire.

I'm just enjoying it while it lasts. I'm sure it will slow down soon enough! I've been feeling great the last couple of weeks which certainly helps.

[chicago]

Pancakes, good for you guys! I wish I wanted it 2-3x/week! I get absolutely zero enjoyment even when we have. No second tri orgasms for me, and I was definitely looking forward to seeing what the hype was about! I guess I'll accept it as a trade-off for the easy pregnancy so far - it can't all be good, right?

[VillainV]

We're having sex about once every two weeks or so. Funny enough, now that we're in the second trimester it seems like H's sex drive has taken the biggest nosedive. He's been sick a lot, and hasn't really felt like it when he's not sick. It's not helped by the fact that I go to bed a good hour earlier than him most nights, so we're mostly limited to weekends.

[Stingyshark]

Newp. We tried a few weeks ago & it was so uncomfortable. Poor H. I feel awful, but I'm so uncomfortable. My bump is hard and unforgiving.

[Deleted]

We are down to probably once or twice a week (which ends up only on the weekends). *sigh* If I had more time during the day, I wouldn't be against it at all!

[chickadee77]

Glad I'm not alone here, lol. With our loss history, I think H is scared, and since my desire is zero (I don't even want to be touched, much less doing the deed right now), I'm letting it ride in hopes that my drive will come back in the second tri. I hope.

[speckledfrog]

Well, I broke the dry spell this afternoon. My new answer is we've been doing it once a week since 20 weeks.

[bugandbibs]

I'm on pelvic rest, but even if I weren't I am totally uninterested. 3 years of pregnancy and breast feeding have taken a toll on my drive.

[bowies]

The pukey stage of first tri seems to be easing off so I don't have to worry about, uh, sea sickness anymore. I woke H up in the middle of the night for sex which he thought was awesome. Not so awesome was the light spotting immediately after. Damn cervix.

[speckledfrog]

Dec 7, 2013 18:10:29 GMT -5 bricco said:

Dec 7, 2013 16:50:58 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

Well, I broke the dry spell this afternoon. My new answer is we've been doing it once a week since 20 weeks.

LOL, or at this point every day since about halfway through 20 weeks.     

Ha!  I'm on a hot streak now!

[chicago]

Dec 7, 2013 12:12:25 GMT -5 MNH2013 said:

I think I am broken. My sex drive has been in overtime since getting a positive test. It takes nothing for H to turn me on and I'm ready to go.

I would hardly call this 'broken'!  I'd say functioning at an optimal level!

[purplecow0206]

In second tri, I was able to get into it probably 2 times a week on average, but since hitting about 28 weeks or so, I've been having a difficult time feeling in the mood. We wound up breaking out the lube this week, because I mentally WANTED to be there but I just wasn't getting there physically. DH has been completely understanding about the entire thing, but I feel bad for him. I'm usually so much more into it, it just is tough when I'm tired and uncomfortable.

[simpsongal]

Yeah, it hasn't happened for a long while. DH can't get past the bump (makes him think of the baby) and it's hard to camouflage these days.

[Wonderwall]

Dec 7, 2013 16:50:58 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

Well, I broke the dry spell this afternoon. My new answer is we've been doing it once a week since 20 weeks.

Bravo!

[papie]

We did it once this entire pregnancy and I am 22 weeks. I am tired and sick and not interested at all.

[shaynaatl]

Gone for us too. In our case, it's mainly DH as he suffers from low testosterone and has little libido. He was previously on some low T gel but had to get off of it when we found out it lowers sperm count. I told him to get back on it but he's been lazy about it.

[formerlyak]

For a while it was never because of spotting and nausea, but now we are at about once per week (maybe twice if we are really lucky). That's the same as pre-pg except when we were ttc. We are both really busy and honestly don't have the energy for more. The closer to 40 we get, the less we seem to care about the frequency as long as it is good when it happens. We have talked about it and are on the same page so I am not going to worry about it.

[annabear07]

We had been relatively consistent with one a week since the beginning of the second tri. Now it's hit or miss as I go to bed before him and wake up nauseated every morning! Hoping we can fit in a few more times before baby gets here!