I think MIL thinks David is gay or something because he loves dolls and pink. They were facetiming a couple of weeks ago and she kept asking him "do you have a girlfriend. What about a girlfriend in your class??" He said "well, I have a boyfriend, his name is Daniel..." I was totally stifling my laughter. David has no clue what a boyrfriend/girlfriend is and I was totally WTF'ing her even asking him. He just turned fucking 5 for christsakes.
I think MIL thinks David is gay or something because he loves dolls and pink. They were facetiming a couple of weeks ago and she kept asking him "do you have a girlfriend. What about a girlfriend in your class??" He said "well, I have a boyfriend, his name is Daniel..." I was totally stifling my laughter. David has no clue what a boyrfriend/girlfriend is and I was totally WTF'ing her even asking him. He just turned fucking 5 for christsakes.
Wha...? I totally had a "boyfriend" at 5!
lol, really? David has no idea what that even means!
I'm far too worked up about this- or so my H tells me, but she bought her Disney princesses for Christmas. She's six months old! Let's start the brainwashing super early! Henry plays with my makeup brushes and she doesnt approve, so I guess she wants to make extra sure there's nothing sexually ambiguous about clares early playthings.
Post by rupertpenny on Dec 8, 2013 20:25:21 GMT -5
That would drive me crazy.
Bea doesn't even really do toys yet so luckily I don't have this problem, but my mil has said before that she doesn't think baby girls should wear pants. Ok crazy lady. I purposely dress Bea in the most gender neutral outfits she has when we are around MIL for this reason.
I hate that genderist crap. I don't like toys that are pink for no reason, loathe princess crap, and I dressed Edith in overalls most of her babyhood because she was too skinny for pants that fit lengthwise.
Although Freddie has a pink toddler stroller because he wants to push his baby when Edith pushes hers. LOL
I hate that genderist crap. I don't like toys that are pink for no reason, loathe princess crap, and I dressed Edith in overalls most of her babyhood because she was too skinny for pants that fit lengthwise.
Although Freddie has a pink toddler stroller because he wants to push his baby when Edith pushes hers. LOL
I hate that genderist crap. I don't like toys that are pink for no reason, loathe princess crap, and I dressed Edith in overalls most of her babyhood because she was too skinny for pants that fit lengthwise.
Although Freddie has a pink toddler stroller because he wants to push his baby when Edith pushes hers. LOL
It's interesting. Given the choice, David equally likes both girl and boy things. I LOVE that he can play with dolls and be so sweet and nurturing, but he also likes to Star Wars fights with his lightsabers and building spaceships with Legos. Like.....who wouldn't want their kid to be well-rounded? I just don't get it.
If this baby is a girl, she'll probably be wearing most of Ollie's old clothes for quite a while. A onesie is a onesie- who cares what color it is? They'll just poop in it anyway.
I hate that genderist crap. I don't like toys that are pink for no reason, loathe princess crap, and I dressed Edith in overalls most of her babyhood because she was too skinny for pants that fit lengthwise.
Although Freddie has a pink toddler stroller because he wants to push his baby when Edith pushes hers. LOL
It's interesting. Given the choice, David equally likes both girl and boy things. I LOVE that he can play with dolls and be so sweet and nurturing, but he also likes to Star Wars fights with his lightsabers and building spaceships with Legos. Like.....who wouldn't want their kid to be well-rounded? I just don't get it.
I had a parent once ask me to ban her child from the kitchen area at school because he was being too motherly and she wanted him to man up.
I think MIL thinks David is gay or something because he loves dolls and pink. They were facetiming a couple of weeks ago and she kept asking him "do you have a girlfriend. What about a girlfriend in your class??" He said "well, I have a boyfriend, his name is Daniel..." I was totally stifling my laughter. David has no clue what a boyrfriend/girlfriend is and I was totally WTF'ing her even asking him. He just turned fucking 5 for christsakes.
Wha...? I totally had a "boyfriend" at 5!
I had one at four - the little red-haired boy across the street.
It's annoying but I don't think it's rage worthy. She'll probably have fun with the doll eventually.
Dd didn't really play with many girly toys until she was 18 months old or so, but people showered us with "my first baby doll" and pink rattles etc. when she was born. She liked them, just like she liked Payne's old car shaped rattle and his plush hammer. (Shrug)
Both kids now have access to toys intended for both sexes, and it's bizarre how they gravitate to the stereotypical stuff. I will say blocks and marble works are the great equalizers in this house.
It's interesting. Given the choice, David equally likes both girl and boy things. I LOVE that he can play with dolls and be so sweet and nurturing, but he also likes to Star Wars fights with his lightsabers and building spaceships with Legos. Like.....who wouldn't want their kid to be well-rounded? I just don't get it.
I had a parent once ask me to ban her child from the kitchen area at school because he was being too motherly and she wanted him to man up.
He was 4.
GTFO! Omg...
David loves the play kitchen. Always has.
I've shared this story before but when we went to "meet the teacher" this past fall David was playing with the dolls and strollers and I was taking pictures. One of the moms said to me "oh, don't show that to his dad! He'll go ballistic..." lol. Ummmmmmmm. No. Thank god I didn't marry someone who wouldn't approve of that. Ugh, it really fucking annoyed me. I jusr said "oh, yeah, he likes all toys..." I hate that I didn't have some wittier response but seriously, WTF? Weirdo.
My 7 months old loves her doll. But since her 1 year old cousin also loves it I think it's less that it's a doll and more the doors and extras (rattles, crinkle dress, etc) I do need to buy her some trucks and cars though. We've acquired a lot of pink/girly toys without meaning too.
eta: not that it matters, this kid seems stubborn. If she likes princesses I won't be able to distract her. If she doesn't I won't be convincing her either. I predict her dolls will be dragged through the dirt and riding in dump trucks though, she'll love dolls but not for traditional reasons which my mom and MIL will love while being confused
My mom has given my son,E, 2 sets of Princess Duplos.
E likes pink! Plus the Mermaid Duplo set has a slide. He really likes the slide.
He also has a pink train, and he named it "Pink." (All the Thomas trains have names, and this one is from Big Jigs, so he had to name the train himself.)
I just bought him the Friends Lego High school set.
It's so true that toys are just toys. When families were very large and toys were sparce, kids shared and played with all toys. Boys even wore dresses 100 yrs ago.
My cousin's son loves a lot of things that are traditionally associated with femininity in our culture, especially babies and baby dolls. He wanted a doll stroller and they only come in pink. She has been super relaxed about his preferences (in fact, a little confrontational about being relaxed about it since people are so messed up about gender) and has no problem with having a pink stroller. But what kind of message does that send to our boys? Only girls are parents? Huh?
I found a blue baby doll stroller on Amazon. I bought it for my son.
If this baby is a girl, she'll probably be wearing most of Ollie's old clothes for quite a while. A onesie is a onesie- who cares what color it is? They'll just poop in it anyway.
One of the reasons I want to be team green for our first pg (not the main reason) is because I would prefer general neutral "big" stuff (car seat, pack n play, etc.) and my MIL would kill for the chance to buy pink ANYTHING. Last birthday and Christmas everything she gave me was pink. Honestly, I don't mind the color but I wouldn't have chose it myself and DH has told her numerous times it's not my favorite color to which she's apparently replied "But it's so pretty!"
What a weirdo. I would be sad if I got all pink stuff. It's not my favorite color either.
Yesterday I bought DS#2 a pink and purple sparkly Doc McStuffins bag because he loved it so much. He has literally not put it down. I got "the look" from a couple at Target, but screw them! If he wanted pink and purple sparkle pants I'd fucking buy them and let him rock 'em everywhere.
I bought my grandson a shopping cart and a shitton of Melissa & Doug food toys and other toys because he loved them and IDGAF if his dad thinks they aren't "boy" toys. !y grandson loved them so that's what he's getting.
Edith's doll stroller is actually navy blue (hand me down! Woo!!). Freddie refuses to push it when E takes his, he just shrieks "MY BABY TOLLER!!" at her until I get irritated and make her give it back.
And I'm glad I didn't marry someone who would freak out about stupid shit like that. Although I can't imagine me being cool with someone like that for long enough to get married to him either.
Just today, an older woman saw DD playing with a train set and said to me "nowadays, even girls play with trains!" in an incredulous, almost-proudly-feminist-yet-so-behind-the-times way. It was cute.
MIL will only buy things in pink. She had only sons so everything DD gets is pink (which I mind less now that I know this one will be a girl). In contrast, my mom makes a point of buying DD toys that are more traditionally boy's toys. To the point that when I mentioned she could get train set parts she looked at me incredulously and said "those have always been unisex toys. She needs more balance."
I only bought the blue stroller because *I* don't really like pink. H doesn't care if E has pink Duplos, Legos, or trains. My son also has a ton of play food and a kitchen.
I would also buy E a doll house, but it would be wood and made in the USA. He hasn't shown an interest in one, yet. But I'd get one in a heartbeat if he wanted it. Same thing with a Bitty Baby.
I hate this as well. While I was pregnant I went shopping with MIL and SIL, I was team green, SIL held up a shirt with a cement truck on it and asked if I would allow a girl to wear it. I replied with "Yep, sure would!" MIL rolled her eyes and made a comment about how I shouldn't do that. My DD wear's that shirt all the time now!