WWYD family drama

[hungrycaterpillar]

I think that if you aunt is really serious about never speaking to your mother again that it won't matter if you invite her - she probably won't come. Is there any way that you could see her after the holiday?

[speckledfrog]

No, don't invite your aunt.

[MWOS]

CAGE MATCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[hungrycaterpillar]

Dec 9, 2013 20:26:40 GMT -5 @evelynrichards said:

Dec 9, 2013 20:24:42 GMT -5 hungrycaterpillar said:

I think that if you aunt is really serious about never speaking to your mother again that it won't matter if you invite her - she probably won't come. Is there any way that you could see her after the holiday?

No, probably not until at least February.

I think that I would plan on spending the holiday with only your mother then. Perhaps this drama will get sorted out before then, but I don't think having it all go down at your house on Christmas would be a good idea. Who wants that added stress/tension on a holiday?

I'm sorry your whole family can't be together on the holiday because they can't work out their issues.

[agnes]

I think that if you don't extend the invitation, she might get butthurt that she didn't have the option to turn it down.

[speckledfrog]

Dec 9, 2013 20:32:07 GMT -5 @evelynrichards said:

Dec 9, 2013 20:30:43 GMT -5 agnes said:

I think that if you don't extend the invitation, she might get butthurt that she didn't have the option to turn it down.

This is what I'm afraid of.

Tough titties.

[pixelpassion]

I feel like I would invite aunt anyway, so that if she turns it down it's on her.

[Booze Raccoon]

IMO, its your house, you can invite anyone you want.  It will make things so easy if your Aunt just declines I'm sure.  

I'm in this situation.  My brother doesn't speak to me.  My mother says she can't bear to be around the two of us together. She invited my brother to Christmas day at her house but not me.

My brother and I don't fight and there is no tension, we just don't acknowledge each other so it's not like we turn holidays into drama fests.  I think it's fair of my mom to invite who she wants to her house but I think it's beyond shitty of her to exclude her daughter and worse yet, her granddaughter from Christmas.  But whatever.

I think if if you mom is okay with it, you should invite your Aunt.  I can speak from experience, I'm hurt that my own mother is excluding me.

[Booze Raccoon]

Dec 9, 2013 20:41:48 GMT -5 @evelynrichards said:

Dec 9, 2013 20:37:27 GMT -5 Booze Raccoon said:

IMO, its your house, you can invite anyone you want.  It will make things so easy if your Aunt just declines I'm sure.  

I'm in this situation.  My brother doesn't speak to me.  My mother says she can't bear to be around the two of us together. She invited my brother to Christmas day at her house but not me.

My brother and I don't fight and there is no tension, we just don't acknowledge each other so it's not like we turn holidays into drama fests.  I think it's fair of my mom to invite who she wants to her house but I think it's beyond shitty of her to exclude her daughter and worse yet, her granddaughter from Christmas.  But whatever.

I think if if you mom is okay with it, you should invite your Aunt.  I can speak from experience, I'm hurt that my own mother is excluding me.

I'm sorry things are like that for Christmas this year. That sounds difficult, and I would be upset if my mom felt she had to choose children to invite.

Thanks.  I'll get over it.  I have a memory like a goldfish.  :-P

[lime]

I wouldn't invite your aunt.

Can I be so crass as to ask what the fight is over?

[kirra]

Family drama is rarely sensible. Your aunt might declid the invitation , but she might not , and your holiday could be hell.

I wouldn't invite her, because if you do and she accepts, you're stuck.

[lime]

Oh geez, you poor thing. I want to make you a mug of hot rum and and wrap you in a warm blanket.