I need to talk about my mom

[laceylaplante]

I'm sorry that your mother is such an ass. Wrong on so many levels.

[Deleted]

I am so sorry you have gone through this. I am in a very similar situation--I haven't talked to my mom in over 3 years and we used to be super close. But my brother still keeps in touch with her reluctantly even though they have had a strained relationship and he hates how she treated me. And my mom smokes 2-3packs a day, so I am waiting for the cancer phone call any day and it will probably be real. With my brother, I know it hurts him to be in that position but I keep reminding myself that it is ultimately his choice--he may someday reach a breaking point with how she acts, or he may make it work until she is gone. And while I have bouts of guilt or wonder if it is time to re-open that door, it brings me such anxiety and anger, and I know she will never truly forgive what happened between us so it really is pointless to expect a healthy relationship with her. I keep working to find peace with how our relationship is, and try to support my brother when he indicates he needs it (whether by keeping silent or talking about things). It hasn't got much easier so far, but you're not alone when it comes to managing emotions about complicated parents.

[lime]

((mb))

I'm mentally getting myself ready for the day that my dad a/o sister try that regarding him. It's tough to be strong and stable in these situations.

[julez]

Holy shit.

I'm so sorry.

[mrsbro]

That is awful. I'm so sorry

[karmasabiotch]

I don't even know what to say other than I'm sorry. What a sucky situation.

[Deleted]

That is revolting. I am so sorry.

[sugarbear]

Oh, man. I'm so sorry.

[Deleted]

Who does that kind of shit? I'm sorry, MB. You and your brother don't deserve that. She's not well, and you don't need that in your life. loads of hugs to you

[W.T.Faulkner]

I'm sorry you have to deal with a mom like this.

[denise]

I'm so sorry 

[aussiecrush]

This kind of crazy is why we have no relationship with my in laws. You must have a very loving heart to want to figure out how to help even when your brain knew it was bullshit. I'm so sorry.