I usually hate all people and everything they do, but this is the second time today on here that I've wanted to cut someone some slack. Is it possible that she doesn't think you look bad at all? I think pictures of people at that time can be beautiful in a way other pictures cannot be. But you'll never think you look good in them. I don't think she should have sent it, but maybe she wasn't trying to cut you.
No.
And even if this wasn't an immediately post partum picture, I would be at least mildly annoyed if my MIL sent out a Christmas card with a picture of just me and half of my baby's head. I don't care if it's the best picture I've ever taken, I want to be the one in charge of distributions photos of myself.
I usually hate all people and everything they do, but this is the second time today on here that I've wanted to cut someone some slack. Is it possible that she doesn't think you look bad at all? I think pictures of people at that time can be beautiful in a way other pictures cannot be. But you'll never think you look good in them. I don't think she should have sent it, but maybe she wasn't trying to cut you.
Have you given birth? Because no sane woman wants a postpartum picture of herself sent around. No one!
I have given birth. I think it broke me. Normally I would be leading the charge to burn her house down even though I have no skin in the game. I don't have a monsterinlaw though so maybe that's what the problem is? I don't know, I have become soft in ways I never was before. I used to be all 'benefit of what doubt? fuck that'. It is really strange that people send pictures of other people on cards though. We don't even include ourselves - we just send a picture of our son. LOL
ETA - I think it is really weird to use someone's picture for your card no matter what they look like. I just thought maybe she didn't think it was a bad picture of you. And I think I have lost my mind somewhere because this whole thing is strange and I never should have thought aw, maybe she's beautiful in the pic because while it's probably true it is SOOOOO not the point. Carry on I will disappear again.
Post by lostmonkeyatikea on Dec 10, 2013 21:21:14 GMT -5
Mushmouse, I think she probably thinks I don't look terrible. I'm my own worst critic and I look at that picture and just remember how out of it I felt and look. But don't we all want to look decent in a Christmas card photo?!
She definitely needs therapy. She is the most bitter, negative person I know....I don't think she is vindictive, I just don't get what she is thinking in this case.
I was just talking to my husband about it, and I said other issue aside, it is odd that there is not a photo of her on her Christmas card. He said well we sent a picture of our baby out, she sent out a picture of her baby, me! Oh lord.
I usually hate all people and everything they do, but this is the second time today on here that I've wanted to cut someone some slack. Is it possible that she doesn't think you look bad at all? I think pictures of people at that time can be beautiful in a way other pictures cannot be. But you'll never think you look good in them. I don't think she should have sent it, but maybe she wasn't trying to cut you.
You should up your coconut oil intake.
Lol, maybe my MIL doesn't get enough protein and it's making her cranky?
Post by missmaddie on Dec 10, 2013 21:24:54 GMT -5
I think it's really weird - mean intentions or not. Who wants to put a pic of their DIL on THEIR Christmas card?
I adore MIL, and I still wouldn't send out the most flattering picture of just her and DS on our cards, because they are OUR cards. For OUR friends. Opening cards from US. So friggin' weird.
I don't have kids but I can say I would be livid. I wouldn't want MIL including a picture of me in her Christmas card without clearing it with me even if it was the best picture ever taken of me. This is why I have already told H and IF we ever have kids no one will be allowed in the hospital room. NO ONE.
Yes. Except the photo was 15 minutes after I'd given birth. And it was Facebook. And he doesn't understand the privacy settings so it was shared globally.
Kill.him.dead.
He took it down eventually. I had about 18 strokes in the interim.
lostmonkeyatikea I love your screenname! I read the article today about how the monkey is safe in a primate sanctuary and being socialized with other monkeys. Love it!
Just remember, the duchess had to face the global press while still looking pregnant hours after giving birth. You are in good company. Though, you know, I guess you don't get a duchy for your efforts.
Just remember, the duchess had to face the global press while still looking pregnant hours after giving birth. You are in good company. Though, you know, I guess you don't get a duchy for your efforts.
Yes, but at least she knew the public would be seeing her and had a team of stylists. I'm sure the duchess would have been mortified if a photo of her in pjs right after having the baby was released, lol.
Post by yourmother on Dec 10, 2013 22:12:14 GMT -5
Sorry if I missed it, but have you talked to her directly and let her know you are upset? I would be LIVID, irate, like completely losing my mind with real tears in her face, yelling about how she crossed a major boundary. But, I can be dramatic, do there's that.
I thought I had it bad. My in laws make us do matchy matchy pictures as their Christmas cards and always pick the photo that I look fug in.
Post by lostmonkeyatikea on Dec 10, 2013 22:45:43 GMT -5
My own mother knows better!
We really don't even have a ton of contact with her, which is why it's even more odd. She has kind of kept her distance since the baby was born and has been very awkward, doing things like posting, "I got to change baby lost monkey's diaper today!" on Facebook. Okay weirdo, no one cares, and that's creepy.
There were some dramatics prior to the baby being born (refusing to sit near FIL at the hospital, pitching a fit that my sister invited his girlfriend to my shower, etc) so I distanced myself from her quite a bit. We used to be closer, but after 8 years of listening to her bitch about the divorce and how unfair her life is, I had to cut off some contact for my own sanity.
She is definitely a one upper, too. She probably hopes people will see the card as think she is a super involved Grandma, which is not the case.
My husband is going to talk to her. Ugh. What a long day. This should be a fun holiday season, whoopee!