Well, there goes my Christmas

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Looks like I be spending the holidays alone.

I have a crack in my rim that is going to cost me $160 to fix. This means I can't go home for Christmas. I'm in tears. Full on crocodile size tears. I'm completely devastated.

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[countthestars]

I'm so sorry.

[CloudBee]

I'm sorry. Can you take a bus?

[audry80]

Dec 16, 2013 23:28:09 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Were you planning on driving home? Any chance you could take the bus or fly? (I know both those options cost money but maybe not so much more than gas would).

I am really sorry. I would cry too.

I actually did cry recently because I ripped my driver's side mirror right off. It will cost $600 to fix (WTF), so it is currently attached to my car door with tape.

The same happened to our car and we were able to replace it super cheap. We bought it online and my non handy husband was able to install it. 
You would never know it's been replaced. 

Bliss.. Sorry, that sucks. I hate car issues. 

[audry80]

Dec 17, 2013 1:22:59 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

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Oooooh...I am intrigued! DH is reasonable handy so we may have a shot. Do you happen to have any links to how-tos? Where did you get the parts?

And I really should post a picture of my car. It's a 10+ year old civic that has seen better days. DH told me that with the taped on mirror it has reached hoopty status.
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We bought the part on go-parts.com and here is a video. m.youtube.com/watch?v=sxmfmhvlh1A&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3Dsxmfmhvlh1A

[gogreengowhite]

Jenny- we did the same fix at home for $50.

Bliss- I'm sorry this happened. I hope you can find a way to get home. I know I would be devastated if I couldn't spend the holidays with my family.

[rubytue]

The first year I didn't go home for Christmas I has myself a big, ugly cry, too. It hit me driving home from work Christmas Eve. DC beltway + ruby's ugly cry. Bad combo.

*hugs*

[hulley]

I'm sorry, Bliss. That must be a terrible blow to your holiday spirits. I hope you are able to find a way home.

[lishie]

jenny1980 someone knocked our mirror off when it was parked in front of our house. My DH is fairly handy, but he was able to reattah the electrical and screw it back in with deck screws we happened to have. Everything works perfectly. It doesn't fold in anymore, but other than that it's fine. You can definitely DIY this.

[takeonyou]

Dec 17, 2013 8:20:36 GMT -5 pennypenny said:

I'm so sorry Bliss. I would be devastated if I couldn't see my family for the holidays and they are local. I know it would be worse if they were out of state.

I know you deactivated but if you want to PM your email I will PayPal you the money if $160 means you get to see your family. This is not me being an AW. I would have PMed you if you didn't deactivate. You can call it a Christmas miracle that I even read the post and me being thankful that my car was not totaled from the accident I was recently in.

And some of you must have no clue what it is to not have money. If she spends that money to take the bus or fly home (ha) she will still have a broken car when she comes back to Cali. Then how is she supposed to get to work, etc?

You are so sweet.

[Deleted]

Dec 17, 2013 8:20:36 GMT -5 pennypenny said:

I'm so sorry Bliss. I would be devastated if I couldn't see my family for the holidays and they are local. I know it would be worse if they were out of state.

I know you deactivated but if you want to PM your email I will PayPal you the money if $160 means you get to see your family. This is not me being an AW. I would have PMed you if you didn't deactivate. You can call it a Christmas miracle that I even read the post and me being thankful that my car was not totaled from the accident I was recently in.

And some of you must have no clue what it is to not have money. If she spends that money to take the bus or fly home (ha) she will still have a broken car when she comes back to Cali. Then how is she supposed to get to work, etc?

I thought someone offered to pay for her to come home for Xmas. Now she's using a gift meant for something else to fix her car? I think someone just likes drama--waiting to see who will help them out next. Wait...is this really my brother?
Get another job, stop spending money on clothes (your black on black) and start being responsible for yourself. Stop looking for the easy way out all the time.

-Signed--I have been poor and have taken the Greyhound many times

[badgergrl]

Dec 16, 2013 23:28:09 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Were you planning on driving home? Any chance you could take the bus or fly? (I know both those options cost money but maybe not so much more than gas would).

I am really sorry. I would cry too.

I actually did cry recently because I ripped my driver's side mirror right off. It will cost $600 to fix (WTF), so it is currentlyto attached to my car door with tape.

Random-- if the cost is due in part to needing a new mirror, call around to scrap/junk yards.  Dh has replaced mirrors a few times, and with an older common car you can often get a perfectly fine "new" mirror from a car that was junked for another reason.

[Deleted]

Dec 17, 2013 8:20:36 GMT -5 pennypenny said:

I'm so sorry Bliss. I would be devastated if I couldn't see my family for the holidays and they are local. I know it would be worse if they were out of state.

I know you deactivated but if you want to PM your email I will PayPal you the money if $160 means you get to see your family. This is not me being an AW. I would have PMed you if you didn't deactivate. You can call it a Christmas miracle that I even read the post and me being thankful that my car was not totaled from the accident I was recently in.

And some of you must have no clue what it is to not have money. If she spends that money to take the bus or fly home (ha) she will still have a broken car when she comes back to Cali. Then how is she supposed to get to work, etc?

This is so nice of you

[mellymel]

Dec 17, 2013 8:20:36 GMT -5 pennypenny said:

I'm so sorry Bliss. I would be devastated if I couldn't see my family for the holidays and they are local. I know it would be worse if they were out of state.

I know you deactivated but if you want to PM your email I will PayPal you the money if $160 means you get to see your family. This is not me being an AW. I would have PMed you if you didn't deactivate. You can call it a Christmas miracle that I even read the post and me being thankful that my car was not totaled from the accident I was recently in.

And some of you must have no clue what it is to not have money. If she spends that money to take the bus or fly home (ha) she will still have a broken car when she comes back to Cali. Then how is she supposed to get to work, etc?

You are so sweet and kind.

[womet]

pennypenny, you are so incredibly kind. I hope bliss sees your offer and takes you up on it. And I hope she then realizes that people here aren't wishing ill will on her.

Anyone know why she deactivated again?

[spindle92]

Dec 17, 2013 12:11:53 GMT -5 womet said:

pennypenny, you are so incredibly kind. I hope bliss sees your offer and takes you up on it. And I hope she then realizes that people here aren't wishing ill will on her.

Anyone know why she deactivated again?

she deactivates more than some people ovulate.

[womet]

Dec 17, 2013 12:20:20 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Dec 17, 2013 12:11:53 GMT -5 womet said:

pennypenny, you are so incredibly kind. I hope bliss sees your offer and takes you up on it. And I hope she then realizes that people here aren't wishing ill will on her.

Anyone know why she deactivated again?

pandce.proboards.com/thread/266631/guys-help-decide-career-related?page=2&scrollTo=4921549

Oh gosh, I thought she was getting good advice/input from people. I wish she would stop being so know-it-all and take the advice that people here are giving her. I think she is smart and driven and could benefit from the advice of people several years ahead of her in her chosen career path.

[Susie]

Dec 16, 2013 21:22:02 GMT -5 blissanity said:

Looks like I be spending the holidays alone.

I have a crack in my rim that is going to cost me $160 to fix. This means I can't go home for Christmas. I'm in tears. Full on crocodile size tears. I'm completely devastated.

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I had something similar happen in college, and missed my great grandmother's funeral.  I got a flat at like 8pm the night before the morning funeral, and my car had a donut (not a full sized spare).  I couldn't make the 4-5 hour trip on a donut, and couldn't get it fixed in time.  It sucks, I understand.

[womet]

Dec 17, 2013 12:39:03 GMT -5 @songforyou said:

Dec 17, 2013 12:11:53 GMT -5 womet said:

pennypenny, you are so incredibly kind. I hope bliss sees your offer and takes you up on it. And I hope she then realizes that people here aren't wishing ill will on her.

Anyone know why she deactivated again?

Because of the thread above and because I told her many people here wish ill will on her.

You're a doll, pennypenny.  I told her about this thread.

I think people here are tired of attitude and know-it-all behavior. Yes, I think there are some who wish her ill, but I think most people are just tired of the same stuff over and over again from her. I'm glad that you've reached out and have contact with her off of the board. You're an awesome woman and she could use a friend like you.

[womet]

Dec 17, 2013 13:20:28 GMT -5 @songforyou said:

Dec 17, 2013 13:09:56 GMT -5 womet said:

I think people here are tired of attitude and know-it-all behavior. Yes, I think there are some who wish her ill, but I think most people are just tired of the same stuff over and over again from her. I'm glad that you've reached out and have contact with her off of the board. You're an awesome woman and she could use a friend like you.

I get that.  It's a bit of a vicious cycle.  I think some people will be snarky and rude to her for saying it's cold outside and then some people are rude to her because they've been kind to her before and she was in turn rude to them (I think this tends to happen a fair amount not necessarily because she is inherently rude, but because she doesn't always get that not everyone here does wish her ill will and she sometimes reacts defensively when it's unnecessary).  Overall, I think she needs to just focus on her career and getting herself together right now.  MM is not good for her, for a number of reasons.  She is looking for the kind of support she will never get here.  From my own observation, it seems like she also comes here when she is unhappy at times and that's when things tend to get their worst.  I hope she can stay away, but like many, she has tried before without success, so we'll see. 

Thank you, that's kind of you to say, but I don't know that we'll be in regular contact (although I'd be happy to help however possible), I just wanted to offer some advice with regard to the career thread.

I agree with everything you just said. I hope she can find a support network that gives her what she needs and allows her to be less defensive.

[Deleted]

Dec 17, 2013 12:08:12 GMT -5 pennypenny said:

Dec 17, 2013 10:01:10 GMT -5 flygirl said:

I thought someone offered to pay for her to come home for Xmas. Now she's using a gift meant for something else to fix her car? I think someone just likes drama--waiting to see who will help them out next. Wait...is this really my brother?
Get another job, stop spending money on clothes (your black on black) and start being responsible for yourself. Stop looking for the easy way out all the time.

-Signed--I have been poor and have taken the Greyhound many times

But this isn't about you. What do you care if people want to help her out? And if you have been poor and taken Greyhound, then my comment wasn't referring to you. But if she uses the money for fixing her car on Greyhound, how is she supposed to fix her car? And how many threads have there been on here about how it isn't that easy to get a part-time job when you have a full-time job schedule to work around.

And I don't read Bliss posts, so I don't know if someone offered to pay for anything.

I think its incredibly kind of you to offer to help her Penny--I really do. But sometimes the only way to help someone is to show them that they can help themselves. Bliss seems smart--I think she's trying to do the right things--but sometimes sh^t happens and you really need to learn to deal with the consequences which is her main problem. She automatically runs to whomever will listen to her sob story-hoping someone will bail her out. It appears to always work for her...and I hope you aren't the next sucker on her list.

[Deleted]

Why does AAM2012 have such a boner for bliss?

It's mind boggling.

[vanillacourage]

Honestly, the first thing I thought when I read this post was "weren't you just saying that you didn't think you needed health insurance, and now the relatively small sum of $160 is creating a crisis?"  Maybe that makes me a bad person but I see bliss as someone who just will not learn, or accept that the sky really is blue like everyone has been saying, until reality smacks them upside the head.  Heaven knows the rest of us have tried many times to help or give advice and it's just outright rejected until she cruises back in with another life drama.

pennypenny you're very nice for volunteering to help her.  I hope she can find a better place for support, because a fresh start (both in venue and attitude) would probably do her good.

ETA - aaaaand, she's back. 

[blissanity]

pennypenny thank you for the offer. It really is a Christmas miracle.

To everyone else.... I was given $200 as a bday gift from a friend to go home for Christmas. I was planning on driving to Vegas and riding up with my friends.

I have a cracked rim that isn't safe to drive on. It could damage my car and not to mention my uninsured life. Fixing it will cost $160. I don't have that.

I do have $200 I was planning on going home with. So that $200 now gets to be used to fix my car and I can't go home for Christmas.

So yes, this is all my fault. I need to deal with the consequences of needing new black shoes (mine have holes, but I've yet to buy a new pair) or black jeans (faded and holes) and trying to get all that under $50. So yes, my frivolous spending is why I'm not insured and why I get to spend Christmas alone. Not because I'm paying my bills and slowly digging myself out of a hole.

But boot straps ya'll.



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[vaportrail]

[Deleted]

Dec 17, 2013 14:31:22 GMT -5 vaportrail said:

Exactly.

[AAM2012]

Dec 17, 2013 13:54:15 GMT -5 papiercherri said:

Why does AAM2012 have such a boner for bliss?

It's mind boggling.

I don't think I've heard the word boner in years.

Edit: I have no sympathy for bliss or any other user who continues to ask for advice, argues about the advice, refuses to take it and cries about the results. It isn't anything personal

[iamali]

Bliss - I can appreciate that you're trying to get yourself out of debt. Maybe this is a good lessom that you need to get $500 or even $1k stashed away somewhere ASAP for emergenices.

[Deleted]

There are a lot of great thrift stores in LA where you can get those clothing basics for cheap and almost new. And not Walmart clothes either, I used to get a lot of designer items at the Goodwill when I was in college for $10. Try the shops closest to affluent areas once your car is fixed.