VENT: Pain and productivity

[lulu21]

Yes!!!! We still need to get carpet and paint Baby J's room. We're still finishing other stuff around the house. Plus I'm the only one at work who cleans/organizes so when I get home I don't want to do more. H just keeps telling me it will get done! He doesn't care if he has to work through the night to get it done:)

[mannah]

Ughhhh that sounds so annoying, I'm sorry. It will get done.

We have to do the same thing--turn the guest room into the nursery but there is no other room to move the guest room to. Not sure what we are going to do with all the crap in there and it's been stressing me out just thinking about it. Anybody want a giant desk, a futon, or some old shelves?! Haha. I hope you feel better soon.

[daisycat]

I still have tons of stuff to do, but now that I've had problems, I am probably going to have to ration what I can do and just do the bare minimum

[speckledfrog]

You still have lots of time. Just keep chipping away at it.

[smock]

We are in the process of moving, and it's been hard not to push myself too much. So much needs to get done, and a lot of it involves unpacking and moving heavy shit. Even though we hired movers, it's a ton of work, and I really don't want Mr. Smock to try to do it all on his own.

I avoided any physical issues in the day-long unpacking saga yesterday, but I was so emotionally worn down that when Mr. Smock suggested buying tater tots I randomly burst into tears.

[simpsongal]

I hate to tell you, but it gets worse. Make a "must do" list, stick to it, and bang it out.

I'm sanding and painting doors this weekend and installing a backsplash on Wednesday. My feet get so swollen after an hour or so that they turn blue

Good luck!

[simpsongal]

Jan 12, 2014 15:48:17 GMT -5 bricco said:

simpsongal - That's part of the reason I feel like I need to DO DO DO now. As my pain has already picked up, I imagine it's only going to get worse and I just want to get as much done now as possible.

I did overdo it again today... BUT we made a lot of progress.. so that's something? I think we probably have an hour or two worth of work left to do between now and Tuesday night. Feeling a lot better about it.

No worries, you'll be fine.  I have good days and bad.  I made my hour commute to work this morning and I'm feeling pretty good.

Definitely give yourself a break by making different lists - the must do, should do, nice to do, etc.  "Must do" are things like install the car seat.  "Should do" are prepare freezer meals and put baby toys/items together w/batteries.

[shelbyann]

I almost don't want to reply to this thread, because talking about this raises my blood pressure, but maybe it will be therapeutic. LOL.

We are having MAJOR repairs done on our house right now. It has had water intrusion issues since the day we bought it, a year and a half ago, and we've been working on figuring out the various problems and fixing them ever since. The latest round started last September and involved replacing a portion of the roof, removing walls and rotted wood and re-framing structural stuff, mold remediation and then cleaning up/patching up/painting everything that had to be destroyed to accomplish all of that. Half of our house is taped off, encased in plastic containment walls, and filled with noisy machines. This was all supposed to be done by Christmas.

As of now, they are probably 30-40% done, which was stressing me out enough but I figured I could lean on them enough to get it done at least before the baby gets here. BUT, over the weekend, we had a heavy rain and I noticed some water coming in to the closet in the (future) nursery. The fucking roof is leaking AGAIN. Which means that all of the repair work below the roof (so everything else, basically) has to be put on hold until the asshole roof company comes out and fixes whatever it is that needs to be fixed.

I am beyond furious at this point. Dealing with all of this falls to me because I'm not really working much right now and my H is very busy at work. I seriously spend hours each day dealing with various contractors trying to figure out who needs to be doing what when and fighting with them. It is like having a full time job. And did I mention we are paying out of pocket for all of this? Tens of thousands of dollars. Zero coverage from our homeowners insurance because it's considered "flood damage" which we aren't covered for. We have been looking at our options with respect to a lawsuit against the seller and/or builder of the house, which makes me want to vomit but at this point we have spend so much money that we have to consider it.

Our savings are drained, my patience is drained, I feel constantly stressed and don't sleep well at night because my mind just cannot shut off this stuff.

TL;DR: Our house is a nightmare and we're probably going to be living in a moldy, messy, construction zone with a newborn.

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shelbyann - that sounds like a nightmare! Did you guys get an inspection? I thought that inspectors are insured for things they might have missed. Maybe that is something you can pursue.

[shelbyann]

Jan 13, 2014 10:21:29 GMT -5 @missy1 said:

shelbyann - that sounds like a nightmare! Did you guys get an inspection? I thought that inspectors are insured for things they might have missed. Maybe that is something you can pursue.

We did. The majority of the damage is/was inside the wall cavities so I don't think it would show up on a typical home inspection. It didn't become apparent until we had an exceptionally rainy summer this year and mold/water started coming through the walls. I will definitely look in to it though...I'm probably just frustrated and looking for someone else to blame, but it just feels like we should have SOME sort of recourse for this, like if you buy a car that's a "lemon" or has previously undisclosed flood/collision damage. The house is only 5 years old and the remediation workers said it looked like it was leaking since day 1, was built improperly in the first place, and there was also some evidence that someone previously had repaired it and tried to cover it up. 

I don't think I mentioned that one of the original builders is also our next door neighbor. So that would make life interesting if we decided to pursue something.