Pregnancy-related confessions

[hokiegirl82]

Anyone have any good pregnancy-related confessions on this Monday morning?

Mine is that even though I am so excited to meet our son later this year and 99.99% of the time I am ok with the changes in lifestyle that we will especially have this year, I still feel disappointment over one change for this year. H and I are huge into international motorcycle racing (H has been riding sport bikes for years, I just have my license because I'm too chicken shit to ride with the cars around here). We watch every motorcycle race on the weekends they are on, and we basically plan all of our vacations around motorcycle races. In 2013 we went to 3 US races and one international race in Spain, and the entire year was amazing with these race experiences because we always pay top notch for the best VIP experience possible and I couldn't have asked for a better year of traveling.

Because of the timing of the baby's due date, we won't be going to any races this year, and I sometimes feel pangs of disappointment over this. We thought about going to the race in Austin TX this April, I'll be 31 weeks and I thought I could handle it, but after H and I talked about it we decided not to go since it will be really expensive (money we could use for the baby) and he thinks I'll just be too uncomfortable being at a race track for 3 straight days. So no races this year. We'll start going to the races again in 2015 (can't wait to show our son this world!) I just feel a little sad that we won't be going to any races this year. (This is all very silly I know!)

I wouldn't change anything about having our son in June though!

[bk1]

I'm disappointed in my EDD. I'm hoping as I progress it will change enough to make it better. 

[shelbyann]

Jan 13, 2014 9:52:46 GMT -5 MNH2013 said:

Jan 13, 2014 9:46:15 GMT -5 @kirkette said:

We timed this baby around our trip to Scotland (summer 2015). 
I didn't want to be pregnant or chubby in pictures. So, delivering in early 2014 made the most sense. 

Scotland has been one of mine and H's favorite places to visit! Where all are y'all going? I know it's a little ways away but I can;t get enough of hearing about people getting to discover it.

We just took our second trip to Scotland in October! It is one of my favorite places to travel too. Even though I definitely look pregnant/chubby in most of our pictures (and had to settle for very small sips of scotch this time around).

[narockshard]

I had a craving for fresh strawberry pie so I made one on Saturday and had eaten half of it by myself in about a 12 hour span--some Saturday evening, and some Sunday morning for breakfast I don't think it's the worst pie in the world but still...

[mannah]

Jan 13, 2014 10:58:19 GMT -5 narockshard said:

I had a craving for fresh strawberry pie so I made one on Saturday and had eaten half of it by myself in about a 12 hour span--some Saturday evening, and some Sunday morning for breakfast I don't think it's the worst pie in the world but still...

Uhmmmm can you post/link to the recipe please? That sounds amazing. I cannot get enough fruit/especially berries of any kind.

[narockshard]

Jan 13, 2014 11:12:40 GMT -5 mannah said:

Jan 13, 2014 10:58:19 GMT -5 narockshard said:

I had a craving for fresh strawberry pie so I made one on Saturday and had eaten half of it by myself in about a 12 hour span--some Saturday evening, and some Sunday morning for breakfast I don't think it's the worst pie in the world but still...

Uhmmmm can you post/link to the recipe please? That sounds amazing. I cannot get enough fruit/especially berries of any kind.

I just got it from my MIL over the phone but it is:
a baked pie crust (or make your own, which I did)
1 c. sugar
1 c. water
1 Tablespoon cornstarch
1 qt. of strawberries, cleaned hulled, and sliced (or enough to fill a pie crust, I probably used more than enough)
1 package or strawberry jello

Mix sugar and cornstarch, then add water and cook in a saucepan until smooth and clear (most likely it'll come to a boil to get to that point). Remove from heat and add jello. Let cool for a bit (but make sure jello doesn't start to harden) then stir together with strawberries in a separate bowl. Pour entire mixture into pie crust then refrigerate until jello is set! It's SO easy and so stinking good. I make my pie crust with canola oil and a 50/50 mix of white and whole wheat flour to make it a bit healthier.

[winemaker]

Jan 13, 2014 10:58:19 GMT -5 narockshard said:

I had a craving for fresh strawberry pie so I made one on Saturday and had eaten half of it by myself in about a 12 hour span--some Saturday evening, and some Sunday morning for breakfast I don't think it's the worst pie in the world but still...

Drool!

[winemaker]

I am so thrilled to be pregnant, but I don't feel a bond towards this baby yet. I know I will once I can feel it moving. I feel like this makes me a bad mom already.

[theatre4life]

Jan 13, 2014 11:28:49 GMT -5 narockshard said:

Jan 13, 2014 11:12:40 GMT -5 mannah said:

Uhmmmm can you post/link to the recipe please? That sounds amazing. I cannot get enough fruit/especially berries of any kind.

I just got it from my MIL over the phone but it is:
a baked pie crust (or make your own, which I did)
1 c. sugar
1 c. water
1 Tablespoon cornstarch
1 qt. of strawberries, cleaned hulled, and sliced (or enough to fill a pie crust, I probably used more than enough)
1 package or strawberry jello

Mix sugar and cornstarch, then add water and cook in a saucepan until smooth and clear (most likely it'll come to a boil to get to that point). Remove from heat and add jello. Let cool for a bit (but make sure jello doesn't start to harden) then stir together with strawberries in a separate bowl. Pour entire mixture into pie crust then refrigerate until jello is set! It's SO easy and so stinking good. I make my pie crust with canola oil and a 50/50 mix of white and whole wheat flour to make it a bit healthier.

I think you have just given my the dessert I am bringing to a dinner party on Friday night!

[chickadee77]

Jan 13, 2014 12:02:19 GMT -5 winemaker said:

I am so thrilled to be pregnant, but I don't feel a bond towards this baby yet. I know I will once I can feel it moving. I feel like this makes me a bad mom already.

I'm here, too. We went through so much with our two losses, and my symptoms so far have been almost non-existant, that I forget I'm pregnant and almost don't really believe it sometimes. I agree that once I'm showing more, and feeling her move, maybe it'll be more real to me.

[bowies]

I don't know how successful I'm going to be at balancing work and baby.

Our photographer friend posted a picture of us to her blog and I look 500 pounds in it. I'm a bit upset.

I plan to keep drinking Diet Coke all the way through the pregnancy. ::shrugs::

There's a very real chance that the baby will be born on MIL's birthday. She'll make that into a big deal, like we personally timed it that way for her. Otherwise she's been very ambivalent about it all which is fine by me. She wasn't a very active mother to H so I'm not expecting her to suddenly get the urge to be a grandma.

[robyn]

DH and I have been together for a long time (12 years, married 7) and have always just told people we didn't want or plan to have kids because we were kind of on the fence about it. Now that we are slowly telling people it's so funny to watch their face and reaction. We have had so many people say they never expected this from us!!!

I've enjoyed spending the morning researching newborn photographers in my area. The baby pictures are so fun to look at. I just want to snuggle all of them!

We went to visit some friends who have a 5 week old on Saturday night and took dinner. The husband and DH have been friends for many many years, and it was so cute to watch these two burly bearded guys exchange baby tips and reviews on baby gear. DH's friend is a great guy, but I love him a little more watching him be so supportive and excited for us. He's not typically a demonstrative type of guy.

[SJ]

Jan 13, 2014 10:33:55 GMT -5 jjwritergirl said:

My confession is that last night I asked my H how old the baby needs to be before we go for a night or two away by ourselves. He was like "How can you already be sick of a kid that isn't even here yet?" (teasing, of course) Mostly, we had such a great weekend together and the thought of not having these times for just us anymore made me sad, so I wanted assurance that it would still happen.

Don't feel bad!! We are both looking forward to little getaways without the baby

We hope to be able to have a night away by the time the baby is a few months old, but of course will wait & see how everything goes once baby is here. It helps that we have young, close, and very willing grandparents nearby who assume that they will help with such things.

[loira]

I'm not super maternal, and other people's children annoy me. I genuinely worry that I won't love my own baby the way I'm supposed to.

[rbp]

Jan 13, 2014 14:22:19 GMT -5 loira said:

I'm not super maternal, and other people's children annoy me. I genuinely worry that I won't love my own baby the way I'm supposed to.

I have this fear too. Everyone tells me that it's different when it's your own kid, so I choose to believe that.

My friend asked me to hold his little girl (my goddaughter) for a minute after church yesterday. She immediately started screaming and wouldn't stop until I gave her back. Comfort fail.  :?

[mellimel19]

Jan 13, 2014 10:08:04 GMT -5 bk1 said:

Sucks to be due in August because
1. H, BIL, and SIL birthdays are all in August and we already do one big party for all three. My brother's birthday is also in August.

I am due at the end of February and feel the same way. 2 of our nieces have bdays within a week of each other, plus BIL and SIL's anniversary is around the same time as is my bday, so we always have one big combo party. But our IL's all have several kids, who are all older, so they've had years of bday parties, christenings/communions/confirmations (which we don't plan on doing). I (probably somewhat irrationally) feel that our baby deserves at least a party or two just for them before they get lumped in to these combo family parties.

[pinotgrig]

Jan 13, 2014 14:30:21 GMT -5 rbp said:

Jan 13, 2014 14:22:19 GMT -5 loira said:

I'm not super maternal, and other people's children annoy me. I genuinely worry that I won't love my own baby the way I'm supposed to.

I have this fear too. Everyone tells me that it's different when it's your own kid, so I choose to believe that.

My friend asked me to hold his little girl (my goddaughter) for a minute after church yesterday. She immediately started screaming and wouldn't stop until I gave her back. Comfort fail.  :?

+2

H is waaay better with kids than me. I'm hoping it either kicks in during delivery or he rubs off on me.

[pinotgrig]

Also, this is way out there, but I've always been terrified of giving birth to a kid who ends being a person who does awful things (sociopath, school shooter, etc). Ever since I read "We Need to Talk About Kevin" I've worried about it. That book terrified me and it's been a good 5-6 years since I've read it.

[chickadee77]

Jan 13, 2014 14:22:19 GMT -5 loira said:

I'm not super maternal, and other people's children annoy me. I genuinely worry that I won't love my own baby the way I'm supposed to.

ME TOO!!!! My mom always said she felt the same way, but loved us so much more than she ever thought she would, so I'm hoping this resolves.

[daisycat]

Because of my cerclage this past weekend and my incompetent cervix, I have to cancel my trip to visit my sister next week in Austria and am really bummed. I want to do everything to protect this baby and I am really glad they found the problem before I went on the trip.

But I'm still sad that I won't get to see my sister any time soon.

[marie3246]

Jan 13, 2014 14:22:19 GMT -5 loira said:

I'm not super maternal, and other people's children annoy me. I genuinely worry that I won't love my own baby the way I'm supposed to.

This. I also feel like I am super unprepared for what is about to come. I still feel like I have sooo much time, but it's starting to go really fast. 

[marie3246]

oh and i pretty much just ate an entire frozen pizza. There is only one slice left. I wonder why I am gaining so much weight. ugh.

[loira]

@rpb, marie3246, chickadee77, pinotgrig, I am so glad to know I'm not alone.

[Cricket0619]

I am terrified of giving birth, I think about it constantly.  It makes me want to cry thinking about it. 

[bowies]

I'm also scared of not being the maternal type! It's been many years since I've held a baby or changed a diaper.

I'm nervous about NOT being scared about labor. My birth plan consists of one item: "have kid." I'm such a take-it-as-it-comes type person that I can't predict what I'll want or how things will progress.

[Cricket0619]

Jan 13, 2014 20:43:22 GMT -5 bricco said:

Jan 13, 2014 20:23:18 GMT -5 Cricket0619 said:

I am terrified of giving birth, I think about it constantly.  It makes me want to cry thinking about it. 

me too!

But mostly I try to avoid thinking about it like that's going to help.  kalsdjf;klasjlasdfa.

I avoided it for a while too and now that it's closer I am freaking out.  :?

[Blue Moon]

I have had several conversations with my OB while hiding in the single bathroom stall at work. I have zero privacy at my job and there's always a million nosy people around. I'm not ready for anyone to know I'm pregnant, but I can't imagine what my coworkers are thinking when I go flying into the bathroom for 10 minutes when my phone rings.

[Yankees21]

Count me among those that aren't huge kid people...even though I've always wanted my own. Also, I'm really worried about PPD.

[narockshard]

Jan 13, 2014 12:02:55 GMT -5 theatre4life said:

Jan 13, 2014 11:28:49 GMT -5 narockshard said:

I just got it from my MIL over the phone but it is:
a baked pie crust (or make your own, which I did)
1 c. sugar
1 c. water
1 Tablespoon cornstarch
1 qt. of strawberries, cleaned hulled, and sliced (or enough to fill a pie crust, I probably used more than enough)
1 package or strawberry jello

Mix sugar and cornstarch, then add water and cook in a saucepan until smooth and clear (most likely it'll come to a boil to get to that point). Remove from heat and add jello. Let cool for a bit (but make sure jello doesn't start to harden) then stir together with strawberries in a separate bowl. Pour entire mixture into pie crust then refrigerate until jello is set! It's SO easy and so stinking good. I make my pie crust with canola oil and a 50/50 mix of white and whole wheat flour to make it a bit healthier.

I think you have just given my the dessert I am bringing to a dinner party on Friday night!

Great! I just looked at the recipe and it's actually 2 Tablespoons of cornstarch. Hopefully nobody tried to make it yet! mannah, hope you see this too!

[timorousbeastie]

I'm yet another one scared of not having any maternal instincts. I like kids and all, but I love being able to hand them back to their parents when I'm bored of them!

Also I have to confess that I absolutely hate pregnancy. There isn't a single thing about it that I like. Even kicks, which everyone talks about being so great, bother me. Sure, it's reassuring to know that the baby is moving around, but a) it hurts to get kicked in the ribs over and over again, and b) it can feel really creepy! It's like there's an alien in there squirming around! I feel horrible about hating pregnancy, because I know that all things considered it hasn't been too traumatic, with no real complications to speak of. I also know full well that there are plenty of women out there who would gladly deal with all the downsides of pregnancy if it meant they could get pregnant.