She was diagnosed w cancer last year. They thought they got it. Then they diagnosed a neurological disease (I can't remember the name, but it's debilitating & incurable) so they were working on treating that/trying to minimize impact on her daily life.
Then the cancer returned.
She was diagnosed just about a year ago, just before Christmas 2012. It's just been so fast and so painful for them.
My friend has a son c's age and is pg w another. Her mom has gotten so bad, she's in hospice. She probably won't meet her coming grandkid.
My heart hurts for them so much. This has all happened so very quickly. They went from so hopeful that all was good to hospice.
My friend is a fair amount younger than me, and her mom is a lot younger than my parents. In her 50s I think. It's just way too young, and so sad overall.
I know a lot of you are dealing with sad more directly related. I just wanted to talk about it a little because I'm just so sad for her. We're all being there as much for her as possible, it just sucks that there is so little you can really do and that I can't fix it or something. :*(
Post by aprilsails on Jan 13, 2014 17:57:51 GMT -5
Ask her if there's anything you can do to help out around the house. My best friend's Dad's health is plummeting (Fuck you cancer) and her Mom died of lung cancer 8 years ago. She's finding that visiting him consistently and being his primary caretaker is taking a toll. I went over last week and cleaned her house. It's the least I can do and I will do anything to lighten her load.
My friend has been toying with the option of moving up her wedding but her dad doesn't want her to. She's distraught. I'm so sorry for your friend and I know she obviously doesn't have that option with a baby on the way.
april- I want to, but she just moved at least a 45 min drive away (1.5 hr round trip) and w dh's work hours, I'm barely getting by ea day w 2 kids. I've been out of the house once since New Years which kind of blows.
I'm still going to try to make her some meals again. I have at some points through the year when she had a lot going on. I would usually be right on that, but in all honesty, we are barely getting anything done around here at all.
I'm actually feeling really guilty that I'm not doing anything to lighten her load.
I feel like I should but I'm also still in overwhelmed stage.