Friday love poll

[Deleted]

Poll about dating your H or SO:

1. How long have you been together?

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"?

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that?

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation?

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married?

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever?

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO?

[Pom]

Poll about dating your H or SO:

1. How long have you been together? 10.5 years

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? Him-2 days. Me-2 months.

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that?
The pipes at my house froze and the well drilling company took 3 weeks to unthaw them. H came over and moved me to his place immediately. This was after 4 months. We didn't pick, it just happened. I think Mr. Pom may have bribed them to take forever so I would stay with him, LOL.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? After 5 months.

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? 6 months How long were you engaged before being married? 6 mo.

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever? He was so kind and I could see the love when he looked at me. Thankfully, it is still there.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? Kindness, sincerity, the way he tells me I am sexy and beautiful every day and always kisses me good bye and says "I love you".

[emilyinchile]

1. How long have you been together? 8 years

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? Don't know...quite early on I accidentally said "te quiero" which translates literally as "I want you" but means "I love you". Oops.

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that? 2 years. We were long-distance for all of that except 2 months that I lived in Chile over my summer break where we did live together, so I guess yes to the second question.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? I don't know. After 3 months we said we wanted to marry each other, but since I was going back to the US with no plans to return to Chile it seemed a little ridiculous, so neither of us really let ourselves believe it.

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married? 4.5 years, 8 months

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever? Cheesy yet true answer: I just knew. Less than complete but also true answer: I didn't mind his feet. I hate feet.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? He is incredibly generous and thoughtful.

[Deleted]

1. How long have you been together?
It was 8 years on Monday. We were married 6 years on 1/5.


2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"?
Not long at all, 2-3 weeks.


3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that?
7 months. Yes.


4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation?
Not long at all, 8 weeks maybe.


5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married?
5.5 months. 18 months.


6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever?
When he endured my crazy family, lol.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? With very few exceptions, he considers my needs first. He is kind, and gracious, and a terrific partner. He is going to be an awesome dad, and I can not wait until that next chapter of our lives truly begins.

[Deleted]

1. How long have you been together?
Almost 9 years, but we knew each other for almost 3 years before that


2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"?
About 6 months(ish)?


3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that?
Almost 1.5 years, we "half" lived together for a few months before that


4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation?
Before moving in together


5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married?
1.5 years from dating to engagement, about 3/4 of a year to married


6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever?
Can't really explain


7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO?
We have the same sillyness (like the way we talk to and about our pets)

[holly116]

1. How long have you been together? About 5 1/2 years

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? Less than 2 months.

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that? I moved in around 4 months, but we were engaged already. No unofficial living together but it was crazy whirlwind quick all around.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? About 2 months in.

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married? First date was August 30th, we got engaged the Friday after Thanksgiving. Married the following August 29th.

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever? We both just knew and we're not very impulsive people. We're on the same page on all the major things (money, religion, parenting, what's important in life kind of stuff) and most importantly, he's a good, responsible person. A good friend, a good son, a good brother, a good member of our church. And I think he's smokin hot. .

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? He's thoughtful. He'll plan elaborate dates entirely for my benefit (like going to the ballet, like flying me to Ireland). He does things for our kids just to see their reactions and he's a big kid with them as well. He'll do things like transfer hours of family movies to digital format for his parents just because. He volunteers his time when he thinks he can make a difference. I'm a lucky woman and I thank God this part of my life fell into place the way it did.

[dexteroni]

1. How long have you been together?
**Married for 10 years this May! Together for over 15 years if you include dating and engagement.

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"?
**Um...a month or two? I don't remember exactly.

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that?
**One year. No; we would have overnights but that was it.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation?
**Maybe a few months? It was one of those things where we both just knew right away. But neither of us were ready for marriage, so we dated for a few years.

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married?
**Between three and four years. A year and a half.

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever?
**I loved how even-keeled he was, how modest he was, and how he didn't have that male ego BS. That was part of why I wanted to date for a long time, because he seemed to good to be true and I wanted to make sure there was no horrible dark side that would come out in a year or so. lol. But also, there's only so much of it I can articulate. Some of it was "I just know." It just felt right. I felt completely comfortable with him, and all these years later, I still do.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO?
**I have a couple. (1) How respectful he is with other people's feelings. It's probably the main thing that makes him an awesome husband, but he's like that with everyone, not just me. He jokes and teases with his buddies, but it's not mean-spirited. If he thinks he may have crossed a line, he makes sure that the other person knows his intent wasn't malicious. And (2) how reasonable he is. We rarely have to actually argue because I can talk to him about almost anything and he's either "oh ok" or "I need to do that for X reason" and then we can usually hash out a way for him to do what he needs to do without doing the thing I'm asking him not to do. I'm not as good at being that way in return (thank you Mediterranean family) but I've come a loooong way, for which I give him credit.

[dbsk8dance]

1. How long have you been together? 10 years

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? 6 months

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that? 2.5 years. I would spend the night at his house sometimes, but other than that, no.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? no idea

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married? 2 years, 3 years

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever? I couldn't imagine life without him.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? sense of humor, honesty.

[mrshandy]

Jan 17, 2014 10:54:28 GMT -5 @buckybells said:

1. How long have you been together?It will be 8 years in March (holy moly)

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? Lol, not very long. I think it was first said in an e-mail and was what kind of prompted us deciding us making a go of it. We were long distance at that point and I wasn't willing to really commit unless he moved to be with me, which he did.

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that? 5 months, he moved from FL to be with me.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? Don't remember exactly but a few months after moving in together

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married? 13 months, A little over a year

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever? Eep! I'm not sure, but I just know we had a lot of fun together no matter what we did. We loved experiencing new things together. He was always supportive of me no matter what.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? He is a nice guy, so easy going and flexible. He loves me and is never critical. 

[Deleted]

Poll about dating your H or SO:

1. How long have you been together?
7.5 years
2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? Dh said it after 2 months. It took me 3 months

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that? 3.5 years; 1.5 years

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? At the 2 year mark

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married? 3 years. 17 stupid months (we would have gone to the courthouse the next day but succumbed to family pressure to throw a wedding, where we waited an extra year so people could have time to plan for travel--our families were on opposite sides of the country, so this applied to someone.)

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever? I looked at him one day and just knew. We were in my truck at a stoplight. I still smile every time I'm at that corner.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? His kindness and generosity

[ddi741]

. How long have you been together?  11+ years

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"?  A month

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that?  we didn't live together until we got married (5 years ago today).  We lived in different states so we were long distance until right before the wedding

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? We didn't really have a conversation it just sort of became evident the longer we were together.

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married?  dated 4 1/2 years before getting engaged (started dating aug 2002, engaged April 2007).  Married January 2009

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever?  I really think I new the minute I met him.  It was just a feeling. 

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO?  Everything.  He's funny, smart, goodlooking and he just compliments me.  We work well together.

[Deleted]

1. How long have you been together? 11.5 years

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? 8 months.  I remember this because he was taking forever and I refused to say it first. 

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that? 1.5 years.  We didn't move in together until after we were married.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? I don't know if we did. 

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married?  1 year dating, 6 months engaged.

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever?  I don't know.  I guess it all just fell into place and I don't recall not knowing.  We just fit.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? He is a really hard worker and cares a great deal about family.

[Deleted]

1. How long have you been together?

9.5 years


2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"?

6 weeks


3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that?

We unofficially lived together after 2-3 months, officially moved in together after 9 months.


4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation?

We had probably been dating 2 months when we began discussing this.


5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married?

9 months before getting engaged, 14 month long engagement.


6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever?

I don't know. I just knew. I analyze everything in my life and make pro and con lists for every decision and wanting to be with my H forever is truthfully the easiest "big" decision I have ever made. I knew it fully and completely and without doubt and I still do.



7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO?

He is so passionate. He doesn't do anything in his life halfway. He throws every bit of himself into the things and people he loves. That makes him an incredible employee, boss, husband, father. We also balance each other out well. We fill out each other's weaknesses and we make a really amazing team.

[lasagnasshole]

1. Almost 10 years. Married 6.

2. Um, the first day we met IRL.   That was 2 weeks after our first phone call and 1 month after our first email. 

3. 3.5 years, and nope. I only moved in 5 months before the wedding. We were long distance until that point. 

4. Not sure, but probably within a year because I was in law school and applying for summer positions in his city. 

5. Dated 2 years. Engaged just under 2 years. 

6. I don't know. I just knew. He was visiting me about 6 weeks after we met, and I just knew I could see myself marrying him. 

7. He's so nerdy. 

[shortstax]

Jan 17, 2014 10:54:28 GMT -5 @buckybells said:

Poll about dating your H or SO:

1. How long have you been together?  Since 2002

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"?  About 2 months

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that? It was 3-4 years before we lived together. 2 of those were my last two years of college.
 
4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation?  We hadn't discussed that yet after I'd graduated college, and so in a bold move after moving to a city to be with H, I took a promotion 5 months later that relocated me to Baltimore, MD.  We did long distance for about a year, but about it was pretty apparent very quickly that we didn't want to be apart. We decided we wanted to be a team for life, so after a year I moved back to "our" city

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married?  We were married just shy of our 5 year dating anniversary.  07/07/07!

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever?  I knew he was going to be an amazing teammate and a kind father. That's all I needed (and, he's hot--so there's that.)

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO?  His ability to find a way to make me smile no matter what situation we're facing.

[jerseyjaybird]

1. How long have you been together?
16 months and 6 days

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"?
2-3 weeks?

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that?
10 months and yes, but it happened gradually

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation?
We were pretty clear that it was going to be serious from the beginning, but I can't remember when we began voicing that.

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married?
8.5 months, and our wedding will be about 51 weeks after that

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever?
it's just the most natural, supportive relationship I've ever known; we balance each other really well

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO?
she's very kind and loving, and she finds so much joy in everything


@mrsspunky, I'm so excited for you!

@buckybells, do you have something to share with the class?

[mbcdefg]

1. How long have you been together?
13 years - we started dating in college at age 18

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"?
about a month

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that?
I moved in with him when we got engaged in 2009. Before that I lived alone and he lived with his father, but he spent practically every night at my place.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation?
There was never a formal conversation but we were talking about marriage within a few months of dating (but we were 18 and it was a "someday" thing). We were making more serious plans about a year or two before our engagement.

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married?
7 years (age 25). Our engagement was a year long and we were married at age 26.

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever?
When I'm around other people, even great family and friends, I inevitably get to a point where I want to go home or just end the visit. With him, I don't get that.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO?
I guess the way he takes care of things, for want of a better term? He works hard so that we have a comfortable, clean home; he does things around the house to make it nicer (cleans and organizes, decorates, fixes things); he works two jobs so that we can put more money in savings. He has a lot of good qualities - he's honest, cares deeply about the people he loves, he fits in well with my family, he does a lot of things to make me happy - but I really admire and appreciate the way he tries hard to make our lives better and more comfortable.

[sillygoosegirl]

Poll about dating your H or SO:

1. How long have you been together? 13 years

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? 9 months

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that? We moved in together for a college summer program at 15 months. It was official, but temporary. We do not live together unofficially before that, but we did live next door to each other in the same dorm.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? 2 years and 4 months. We had many, "if we get married" and "if we stay together" conversations before that, starting at 9 months. We also agreed early not to say we wanted to stay together or get married until/unless we really meant it.

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married? 2 years and 4 months before we got engaged (same conversation as above), it was a 2 year engagement

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever? It was more a decision than something I one day knew. I'm sure there are plenty of other people I could be very happily married to, but this is the one I chose.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? There are so many things I love about him, I don't know how to choose one. Probably that he is so supportive of me following my dreams and pursuing the things that are important to me, even when they are unconventional.

[SJ]

1. How long have you been together? Since February 2006

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? December 2007, so 22 months!

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that? We spent lots of nights together, but did not live together until we got married, which was 3.5 years after we started dating

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? I knew I wanted to marry him in the spring of 2008 so 2 years in?

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married?  We got engaged in August 2008, about 2.5 years of dating. We were engaged for 9 months

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever? I don't even know how to begin to answer this. He is nothing like what I thought I wanted, but he is everything I need.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO?  His creativity & drive.

[Deleted]

Jan 17, 2014 11:33:04 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

This thread gives me the warm fuzzies.

Me too! I love that this board has so many happy marriages

[Deleted]

1. How long have you been together? About 10-11 months

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? He said it before me and I don't exactly remember when he said it, but I said it around 3 months I think

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that? We moved in together around 4 months

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? We had our most serious conversation about our future with timelines for him moving to the US about 2 months ago

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married? NA

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever? Well that's still a little up for debate if it's actually going to be a forever thing mostly due to the logistical challenges, but I've never felt so connected to someone including my ex who I had a great relationship with for 90% of our marriage

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? 1. He's very hardworking & committed 2. And to be superficial, he's very sexy. On a daily basis, I'm in awe of his sexiness lol.

And I wonder why you're asking this poll??

[Deleted]

Forget the poll, I have nothing to add anyway, but is there any particular reason for this post?!?

[bostonmichelle]

1. How long have you been together?  8.5 years

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? Around the 1 year mark, but we were high school kids

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that? Well I moved into his apartment during the summer for a job during college and that was 3 years into the relationship. We got our first apartment together at the 5 year mark when I graduated college.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? Probably around the 4-5 year mark

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married? 6 years before engagement, 18 months from engagement to being married

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever? Probably during my junior/senior years of college and knew that the obstacles we overcame staying together during all of college that we could make it

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? He is super smart and laid back. He is also pretty chill and easy going with plans.

[pinkdutchtulips]

i'll play even though it'll be about my stbxh, its a cautionary tale

1. How long have you been together? when i left, just shy of 13 years

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? cautionary tale #1 i said it first 6 wks into the relationship at a friend's wedding, he didn't say it back until 6 wks later

3. How long were you together before you lived together? i officially moved in w him in 5/02 just after a year of dating Did you "unofficially" live together before that? cautionary tale #2 unofficially we had been living together since Julyish 01

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? cautionary tale #3 8/01

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? cautionary tale #4 just shy of 4 years (we started dating when i was 26 and he was 31) How long were you engaged before being married? cautionary tale #5 just over 2 LONG years

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever? i hate saying this but we 'slid' into marriage .... it just seemed like the next step for 2 people who had been together as long as we had been. looking back we married out of convenience not bc we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together (cautionary tale #6)

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? we're now separated ....

[oswin]

1. How long have you been together? 7.5 years

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? About 3 months.

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that? 3 years officially, but I basically lived in his dorm room after dating for 5 months. College doesn't really count though, so our first real apartment together was around 3 years.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? I think the first serious time was about 5 years in. I think we'd basically both realized it a while before that though and probably mentioned things to that effect. We're on the younger side so we weren't in any rush to talk marriage.

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married? 6 years, engaged just over a year.

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever? We loved each other and I couldn't imagine my life without him.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? He's just as silly as I am.

[h]

1. How long have you been together?

19 years

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"?

9 months-ish, but the first few months were really just a series of hook ups. I was a freshman in college. Love was not the first thing on my mind.

3. How long were you together before you lived together?

5 years. We moved in together after we got engaged, and I started law school.

4. Did you "unofficially" live together before that?

We slept at each other's places a ton, if that's what you mean.

5. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation?

I have no memory of ever having this conversation. We started hooking up when we were 18 and 19 years old. We tried to be casual about it and see other people, but we just kept coming back to each other. Eventually we had been dating for 4 years and clearly had no desire to end it, so he followed me when I graduated. By the time we decided he would move with me for law school, it was clear we were eventually going to get married, so we just went for it. So I guess 4-5 years in when I asked him to visit law schools and look for housing with me was our "let's spend the rest of our life together" point.

5. How long did you date before getting engaged?

5 years.

How long were you engaged before being married?

1 year to the day.

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever?

After we dated for a while, it was just clear that every vision I had for my future had him in it. And even though we met really young I knew early on he was the kind of guy I wanted to be my kids' dad.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO?

At this phase of our lives, the thing I appreciate the most about him is how he parents our kids and how well we work as a team. But my overall favorite things about him are that he is super smart and wicked funny. That is what attracted me to him in the first place, and a million years from now when the kids are grown and there are no more lunches to pack and baseball practices to go to, that is, hopefully, what will make me want to spend act three with him.

[wanderlustfoodie]

1. How long have you been together?

13 years

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"?

A month or so? But we had been very close friends for a year before we started dating.

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that?

He slept in my dorm/apartment most nights after we were dating, and we moved in together "officially" after around 5.5 years.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation?

We had these periodically throughout the relationship.

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married?

7.5 years. 1.5 years.

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever?

I suddenly got very sick in 2007 and had to be hospitalized. He was more supportive than I could've ever imagined him being. We were already 99% sure we were going to spend our lives together by this point but I hadn't been dying to get engaged/married.  After seeing how amazing he was during that ordeal, a switch flipped inside me, and I knew I had to marry him asap. We were engaged shortly thereafter.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO?

Way too many: No matter how stressed or upset I am, he can make me laugh. I never grow tired of spending time with him. He is devoted to his family and mine. He is polite to others. He views me as a partner in every way.

[Deleted]

1. How long have you been together? March will be 12 years.

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? 2 weeks but we were friends for 6 months before that.

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that? 13 months, I unofficially moved in a week after we started dating.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? About 18 months in when he was applying for jobs all over the country. 

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married? Started dating March 2002, engaged November 2004, married November 2005

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever? How does anyone know - I just couldn't pucture a future void of him.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? He is the smartest, kindest and most ethical person I know.

[cajunmom]

1. How long have you been together? 12.5 years

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"? ~2 months

3. How long were you together before you lived together? Did you "unofficially" live together before that? We didn't live together until we got married but we got married only 8.5 months after we met.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation? ~2 months in, after the first "I love you's"

5. How long did you date before getting engaged? How long were you engaged before being married? Engaged after about 4 months. Engaged 4.5 months before getting married.

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever? I don't know if I can pinpoint one thing. It was just how I felt when I was with him, compared to how I felt with my previous long term boyfriend, whom I was sure I wanted to marry. Turns out I was completely wrong about that boyfriend, and luckily completely right about H. He was such a good counterpart to my personality, he's very stable and steady and helped me be the same way. He had a son already so I saw what a great father he was. Just everything about him made me feel calm and certain.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO? I love that he's affectionate. He's a hard worker and he loves me just the way I am.

[macmars45]

1. How long have you been together?
6 years; married for 4.5 years of that time.

2. How long were you together before you said "I love you"?
Almost exactly 6 months.

3. How long were you together before you lived together?
1 year, 9 months on our wedding night.
Did you "unofficially" live together before that?
Well we were LD for 1 yr, 2 months of the aforementioned time and would stay at each others' houses to visit on wknds. We didn't have sex though so no, I guess.

4. When did you first have the "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" conversation?
The day after we said I love you  for the first time, so also almost 6 months exactly.
The conversation went like this:
Me: "I don't want to date forever."
H: "Me neither."
Me: "So I guess eventually we'll get married."
H: "Yeah."
It got better and more detailed in the months afterward.

5. How long did you date before getting engaged?
1 year, 2 weeks.
How long were you engaged before being married?
8.5 of the longest months ever.

6. How did you know this was the person you wanted to be with forever?
I couldn't picture my life being half as awesome without him.

7. What's your favorite thing about your H/SO?
He's silly and makes me laugh. He tells me I'm beautiful and he's so happy he married me daily.