But in the spirit of keeping the support going beyond the initial month or so, what if boards on GBCN could sign up for a month sometime in 2014 to send cards, etc to Pixy? Kind of representative of GBCN across the community sending love and support?
If the business address in CO doesn't mind collecting things for longer, everyone from that month's board could just send them there and she could deliver them as a bunch? That might be asking a lot.
IDK. Just a thought.
ETA I just wanted to throw out there that I was mainly thinking of cards and maybe little things. This is not in lieu of any financial donations anyone was going to or may make.
Here's the schedule:
Feb - CEP (jenniloveselvis) March - MMM (Little_Moxie) & NNJ (sabloja) April - ML May - H&F (runaways) June - Pets FB (redheadbaker) & Geeks & Gamers (panicked) July - MM & MeMo (kelbrian) Aug - S&B (bimbi284) & International Living (wise_rita) Sept - April 2012 (mala) & LGBT (quinny) Oct - MF (meltoine) & TIP (motzie) Nov - TB Cloth Diapering (jenny1980) & SO (idahome) Dec - EFFers (redheadbaker?) Jan 2015 - CO Nasties (andrealynn)
Post by redheadbaker on Jan 18, 2014 17:06:36 GMT -5
It's not cheesy at all. We did that for a member of my Dec. '11 birth month board whose son passed away at 6 months old. Each month, we sent her a care package.
It sucks, but whenever someone has a loss, there's an initial outpouring of support, but then people move on with their lives. It really helps to know, months afterward when you're still grieving, that people still remember.
Can everyone check with their boards and check in here if you'd like to participate? Maybe have a rep that could remind everyone when the month comes and post mailing info?
I'll edit as we go, but is this okay tentatively? Let me know if any of this needs to be changed because I'm just making this up.
Feb - CEP (jenniloveselvis) March - MMM (Little_Moxie) & NNJ (sabloja) April - ML May - H&F (runaways) June - Pets FB (redheadbaker) & Geeks & Gamers (panicked) July - MM & MeMo (kelbrian) Aug - S&B (bimbi284) & International Living (wise_rita) Sept - April 2012 (mala) & LGBT (quinny) Oct - MF (meltoine) & TIP (motzie) Nov - TB Cloth Diapering (jenny1980) & SO (idahome) Dec - EFFers (redheadbaker?) Jan 2015 - CO Nasties (andrealynn)
Can everyone check with their boards and check in here if you'd like to participate? Maybe have a rep that could remind everyone when the month comes and post mailing info?
I'll edit as we go, but is this okay tentatively? Let me know if any of this needs to be changed because I'm just making this up.
Feb - CEP March - ML April - MM May - Pets FB (redheadbaker) June - H&F July - MMM (me if no one from there cares otherwise) Aug - S&B
What about splitting up the big boards (ml, cep and mm) so we aren't back to back. No offense to s&b for example but they are a smaller board. So go big board, small, big repeat. Then it won't feel like we are front loading her.
Can everyone check with their boards and check in here if you'd like to participate? Maybe have a rep that could remind everyone when the month comes and post mailing info?
I'll edit as we go, but is this okay tentatively? Let me know if any of this needs to be changed because I'm just making this up.
Feb - CEP March - ML April - MM May - Pets FB (redheadbaker) June - H&F July - MMM (me if no one from there cares otherwise) Aug - S&B
What about splitting up the big boards (ml, cep and mm) so we aren't back to back. No offense to s&b for example but they are a smaller board. So go big board, small, big repeat. Then it won't feel like we are front loading her.
This is a great idea. CEP, ML, H&F, MM and MMM would probably be in. Any others - is the Pets board active enough? Did she know a lot of people on S&B or the decorating board? Can anyone coordinate with other forums she was on- I feel like I saw someone mentioning a Tapped Out forum - I've no idea what that is.
I'll post a link to this thread in the Facebook group, as well. There are posters from all different forums in there (the Cloth Diapering Bump board, etc.)
Post by Raggedeannie on Jan 18, 2014 17:55:35 GMT -5
@acaawesome I see you've switched H&F to May - great idea as @vtcupcake and others are putting together a run on May 4 (the day Pixy registered for her first half).
My local board did something like this for me when my mom died. It was amazing.
I am on the local board with Lauren and I am sure that our local board (a few members post here) would be more than willing to send something. I know I would.
My local board did something like this for me when my mom died. It was amazing.
I am on the local board with Lauren and I am sure that our local board (a few members post here) would be more than willing to send something. I know I would.
I was about to say this too. I'll double check but I'm sure NNJ is in.
Lurker here: has anyone set up a fund to collect $ for a floral arrangement for the funeral? I know it wouldn't last long (since flowers die) but I think it's be nice for her & her family to see all the support she has from all around the country (possibly globe?) and to know we are all here for her.
Someone just suggested that this might just make her sad and make it difficult to move on. What do you guys that know Pixy well think? I know it's hard to say never having been through it.
We can absolutely call this thing off if it would just make things worse.
Post by redheadbaker on Jan 18, 2014 18:53:34 GMT -5
As someone who has had a late pregnancy loss, I will say: you never forget that you've had a loss. It's not like she's going to forget, and each monthly box will be a reminder.
People seem to be afraid to say anything to you, for fear of "bringing it up and making your remember." But, it's always there. It's been over six months, and it still warms my heart when people ask how I'm doing.
Someone just suggested that this might just make her sad and make it difficult to move on. What do you guys that know Pixy well think? I know it's hard to say never having been through it.
We can absolutely call this thing off if it would just make things worse.
I don't think there's any "moving on" from losing a child. My sense is she would appreciate it, though we can wait a bit for the dust to settle and I'd be happy to ask her.
The Bump Cloth Diapering board would like a month please.
Thanks for your input. If you get the sense later on that this would not be a good idea, please say so.
I don't think there's any "moving on" from losing a child. My sense is she would appreciate it, though we can wait a bit for the dust to settle and I'd be happy to ask her.
The Bump Cloth Diapering board would like a month please.
Thanks for your input. If you get the sense later on that this would not be a good idea, please say so.
I know everyone grieves/thinks differently, but my sister passed at age 4 and one of my parents' biggest fears is/was that she would be forgotten about. I can't imagine a day will go by they don't think about zb and grieve already. It will be nice for them to know that others are remembering her also.