My best friend knew from the beginning since I'd had a m/c that she also knew about. I told my family at 12 weeks, cautioning them not to get too excited because we were waiting on M21 results. We told a few friends last week and I told my supervisors at work the other day. SO still hasn't told his parents but needs to soon. I'd prefer to wait on Facebook but I also want to try to get day care recs from people in the area so I think we'll go ahead and do a FB announcement once his parents know. I'm also 38 so I get you on the worry about increased risk.
We told immediate family at Thanksgiving when I was 5w6d, and my BFF the next day. I told my close coworkers after our first u/s at around 8.5 weeks, we started telling close friends around 10 weeks, and told my bosses and made it FB public after our NT scan at 13.5 weeks.
We told our parents after confirmed IUP, I told a couple of colleagues I'm close with shortly thereafter. A few of our close friends also know by now (I'm 9 weeks). I am quite upset that I had to out myself to my bosses this morning - but I just couldn't face going into this client meeting feeling like I was going to be sick. Not to mention how unprofessional it would have been to keep gagging through a meeting. They were thrilled, but I have the nasty feeling it might affect my salary review next week. FML.
Post by bernergirl on Jan 24, 2014 16:34:01 GMT -5
I'm 12w3d now. We told our parents and our sisters at Christmas/8 weeks, which was after we saw the heartbeat. BF told his grandmother about the same time. Other than that, I have only told 2 people, who know how to keep their mouth shut, and I told my HR rep last week so I could start figuring out the maternity leave/budget stuff. I am telling my boss on Tuesday, which coincides with a scheduled meeting to discuss goals for this fiscal year so the timing is good. Everything went well at our 12w appointment yesterday so we are going to start telling people over the next few weeks.
Post by andthentherewere10 on Jan 24, 2014 19:26:52 GMT -5
What a great question centralsquare. I took it to mean to pg symptoms rather than m/c symptoms but I guess it is open for interpretation until the full article can be read (I don't have access to it).
What a great question centralsquare. I took it to mean to pg symptoms rather than m/c symptoms but I guess it is open for interpretation until the full article can be read (I don't have access to it).
If it means no pg symptoms, it sure doesn't apply to me, since I'm burping and exhausted already! Crazy, btw. Has no clue it would start so early.
Post by chickadee77 on Jan 25, 2014 8:20:21 GMT -5
We've had two losses (missed m/c discovered around 13.5 weeks, TFMR around the same time) so I only told my sister (who told her H) when I was around 8 weeks and had seen the hb. Told my brother and my best friend and his partner around 12 weeks. Recently told boss and MIL, around 16-17 weeks. Am waiting to tell my dad in person in a couple of weeks as a surprise, so I'll be about 21 weeks then, I think.
But the ladies on GettingP knew the day after my BFP, I think, lol!
Told my hairdresser at 5w - that's almost like telling a priest, right?
After that there was a long wait. I told my BFF somewhere around 10-11w. Then other friends at 11w. Both sets of parents found out at 12w (which was Christmas Day). We shared on FB at 14w, after the NT scan.
we told no one until about 7 weeks. then we had to fess up to two sets of couple friends because we were doing a day of drinking together and it would have been so suspect for me to not even taste anything.
after our first appt (7.5 weeks) we told our sisters.
at 9 weeks we told our parents and grandparents when we were home for christmas. we asked them to keep it to themselves until the NT scan.
at 13 weeks/after the NT scan we let our parents spread the word to extended family.
at 14 weeks (yesterday!) we told our bosses then posted an announcement pic on fbook.
we would have waited until after the NT scan for everyone unless christmas hadn't fallen right in the middle of the first tri. i know all the stats about miscarriage rates improving at 10 weeks and all that jazz but our thoughts were there still could be some chromosomal issues that show up at the NT scan so we wanted to wait for those results before letting 'the world' know.
Post by hokiegirl82 on Jan 25, 2014 12:31:05 GMT -5
I told my parents and the interwebz right away at 3w3d, told the partner I work for a couple of weeks later because I was worried he might wonder why I was acting so tired and off at work, told my brother, SIL, the other attorney I work for and a close work friend after our first u/s at 8 weeks, and mostly everyone else including FB around 14 weeks.
H told his parents around 13 weeks since we were worried about his dad blabbing.
Your friends were bummed they found out so late? It's not like they don't have six more months to be happy for you. I find that a little weird.
Just a few mentioned they wished they knew earlier. I found it hard to deal with when deciding who to tell and not tell. I also felt bad for lying to some of my very very close friends for what felt like a very long time (I found out at 4 weeks). They are totally fine with when I decided to tell them, but none of them have been pregnant before so I think it was hard for them to understand because 12 weeks seems like a long time to be keeping a secret. I admit before I knew about TTC and pregnancy that while I understood why people waited to tell it did really feel like a long time.
With my son we told everyone, including Facebook within 4 days of finding out.
With my second BFP we told my parents and IL's about a week after finding out (+-5 weeks) and then gradually told some close friends and some of the PTA moms, and some church people that I volunteer with. Also told my son's teacher at 13 weeks because we had told my son and we were moving that week so big changes in his life. Had my NT scan the next day and discovered the baby had stopped growing and there was no heartbeat, even though I was still having pregnancy symptoms.
This time I told my mom 3 days after finding out because I needed the support after I started bleeding. I have told 2 church leaders in confidence and some internet friends. My sisters know because the one read a message on my mom's phone so I told the other one too. No one else knows. I have my first scan in the next 2 days and I am actually really scared. I think a friend of mine suspects it, but I know she won't ask.
I have decided this time that if my pregnancy is viable then I announce it on my previous pregnancy's due date. I will 15-16 weeks then.