NPCER: Does your MIL call just to talk?

[orangeblossom]

Does your MIL call you just to talk to you? Do you call your MIL just to talk.

Lately, my MIL has taken to calling me weekly to see how the week went. She normally reserves this for DH, and quite frankly, I prefer it that way.

We are not good on the phone, and I really have no desire to speak to her on the phone outside of requisite calls, like birthdays, sending condolences, finalizing plans, etc.

I tried calling he somewhat regularly when we got married, but that was just bad and forced as her calling me, and stopped.

Anyway, how often do you talk to your MIL?

[simplyinpenguin]

I talk to my MIL about twice a year, despite her living 15 minutes away. It's nice.

[StrawberryBlondie]

She calls me if she has a specific question about something. Usually she just texts.

[orangeblossom]

Feb 9, 2014 16:51:44 GMT -5 StrawberryBlondie said:

She calls me if she has a specific question about something. Usually she just texts.

See texts, I can deal with.

I wonder if I started testing her and initiating contact that way, she'd back off on the calling.

[gpw]

Good GOD no. I would....I don't even know. No. Just NO.

[foundmylazybum]

[eddy]

She tried early on. She is the worst to talk on the phone with.

I tend to not answer her calls.

[Cicero]

Good God no.

ETA: I should probably clarify that she doesn't have my number. If she did she'd be calling nonstop.

[orangeblossom]

Feb 9, 2014 16:57:55 GMT -5 eddy said:

She tried early on. She is the worst to talk on the phone with.

I tend to not answer her calls.

I feel bad not answering, especially when DH can see clear as day that it's MIL.

Perhaps, I should start not feeling bad.

[eddy]

Feb 9, 2014 17:00:21 GMT -5 orangeblossom said:

Feb 9, 2014 16:57:55 GMT -5 eddy said:

She tried early on. She is the worst to talk on the phone with.

I tend to not answer her calls.

I feel bad not answering, especially when DH can see clear as day that it's MIL.

Perhaps, I should start not feeling bad.

H know his mom is super annoying to talk too so I get a pass.

[orangeblossom]

Feb 9, 2014 17:03:07 GMT -5 eddy said:

Feb 9, 2014 17:00:21 GMT -5 orangeblossom said:

I feel bad not answering, especially when DH can see clear as day that it's MIL.

Perhaps, I should start not feeling bad.

H know his mom is super annoying to talk too so I get a pass.

Ah, that makes sense. Passes are lovely.

[miniroller]

No, but she totally expects me to... When we do chat (on the phone, we text prob 1-3x week), she works into every single conversation, 'Well it's a shame I haven't heard from you in awhile; keep in touch; don't hesitate to call/ come visit!'
I always answer whenever she calls me, but she constantly insists that she doesn't want to interrupt my life, basically putting all call responsibility on me. Grrr!!!
They live an hr away; we see them every 4-6 wks. However, BIL&SIL live 10 mins away, & they have the only grand baby. IL's come to town At Least once/week to see the kid, & they very rarely let us in on it. I was offended @ first; I've grown to be totally ok w/ it.

Um, sorry for taking an (obvs much needed!) IL dump in your thread!!

[orangeblossom]

Feb 9, 2014 17:06:54 GMT -5 miniroller said:

No, but she totally expects me to... When we do chat (on the phone, we text prob 1-3x week), she works into every single conversation, 'Well it's a shame I haven't heard from you in awhile; keep in touch; don't hesitate to call/ come visit!'
They live an hr away; we see them every 4-6 wks. However, BIL&SIL live 10 mins away, & they have the only grand baby. IL's come to town At Least once/week to see the kid, & they very rarely let us in on it. I was offended @ first; I've grown to be totally ok w/ it.

Um, sorry for taking an (obvs much needed!) IL dump in your thread!!

Dump away.

I would be annoyed with expectation of calling too.

[ringstrue]

No, lol. Lololololololol!!!!

Only time it bugs me is when I gotta send her/them (really just her cuz she's picky) presents and do the research, shopping/ ordering, shipping (includes a post office run most of the time) and DH gets the "thank you" on the phone. Then he says that I never ask to talk to her phone so what do I expect?? Like she couldn't ask to talk to me to say thanks!?!?!?!?

[ringstrue]

My FIL had this bad habit years ago calling my work to talk about travel/vacation plans that were like 6+ months away. I just stopped answering it when I saw his number.

[NitaX]

Lord no. My MIL drunk texts and calls my H which means she leaves voicemails sayimg hurtful shit to my H. She doesn't even have my #.

[curbsideprophet]

No. Although the ILs will call for my birthday. If I answer when they call I will chat for a bit then give the phone to DH. Usually it is FIL making the initial call

[tacokick]

I don't talk to mine unless I see her in person. So a few times a year. I'm good with that!

[kkfeb04]

I call my MIL Herpes, so that should answer your question on how often I talk to the vile woman.

*She's not vile because she has cold sores, she's vile in the fact that she thought it was perfectly fine to kiss both of my children on the lips while she had an outbreak of 5 cold sores...but but but they weren't oozing at that moment. We had a strained relationship prior to that happening and well there's no relationship anymore.

She did expect when DS was born that I needed to call her every few days with updates. She has refused to call when I'm home since 2011.

[ChillyMcFreeze]

She used to, but not anymore. It was out of the blue that she started calling my cell phone to chat, and then she stopped a few months later. I always tried to be pleasant, but we just don't have any of the same interests. Maybe she thinks I'm boring.

[gpw]

I am still just...I just don't even understand the question, lol!  



I don't even think she would think to call me at all let alone to just talk.  It's not that we don't get along..we're fine, but I think we're also both fine with how much we see/talk to each other..a few times a year.

[cville]

Yes and yes, because she's nice and sane. But I don't do it all that often because I hate talking on the phone. And lately not as much because she has decided she needs to comment on every.single.picture I post on facebook, so I'm feeling plenty connected (read: smothered).

[orangeblossom]

Feb 9, 2014 17:27:18 GMT -5 @bunnybean said:

No, not really. We usually text if we are communicating. H is like a capital I introvert and has trained his family to text. I am not phone averse for the most part, but it's nice not to have a ton of awkward pauses.

Yes, bunny, That's it. I'm not phoned averse, but the awkward silences make the call almost painful.

The conversation literally is:

MIL: how's it everything. How was your week?
Me: Good.
MIL: How's the dog?
Me: He's good.
Me: How's everybody down there?
MIL: Good
Awkward Silence
MIL: Okay, bye, love you.
Me. Bye.

[cairo]

I talk to MIL once a week. Usually MIL, FIL, H, and I will all be on the phone together. I also talk to MIL on occasion during the week when I travel for work.

I should add that I adore my MIL.

[Nonny]

No, my MIL is deaf (with a cochlear implant) and the tone of my voice doesn't register over the phone in the way she can really hear me. I can hold a very short conversation with her over the phone, but I also don't want to, so I just screen her calls and don't pick up when she calls our home phone unless my H is around to take it over immediately.

[orangeblossom]

Feb 9, 2014 17:33:04 GMT -5 kkfeb04 said:

I call my MIL Herpes, so that should answer your question on how often I talk to the vile woman.

*She's not vile because she has cold sores, she's vile in the fact that she thought it was perfectly fine to kiss both of my children on the lips while she had an outbreak of 5 cold sores...but but but they weren't oozing at that moment. We had a strained relationship prior to that happening and well there's no relationship anymore.

She did expect when DS was born that I needed to call her every few days with updates. She has refused to call when I'm home since 2011.

Yikes. I would have been hot with her kissing the kids with active sores.

I don't have kids, but I could totally see MIL expecting the se kind of every few days update calls.

[rugbywife]

Only when she has a specific reason. Same with 'step-mother'…(I prefer to call her 'dad's new wife' since I don't like referring to her as my mother in any form since I was almost 30 when they got together).

I don't have the same relationship with them as I did with my mom.

[orangeblossom]

gpw I love your gif.

Yeah, I don't know why she's started doing it all of a sudden, but I'm really not feeling it. That may make me a witch, but it's how I feel.

I also feel like she'd like me to call her mom, but that is never going to happen. She signs things "Love Mom", and I admit it kind of irks me. I try not to call her anything, but when I do, it's her first name.

[dangerousd]

I don't think mine has ever called me once.. She's text me a hand full of times.. She's not my biggest fan.

[redheadbaker]

Like two or three times a year. At DS' birthday, and whichever holiday (Thanksgiving or Christmas) we spend with them.

I like it that way.