S/O Do you like your ILs?

[ESF]

Yes. i joke about them, but really, they are very nice people who have always been very kind to me. Their quirks aren't any more difficult than the quirks associated with my family. My MIL has some rather interesting political opinions, but she expresses no opinion on the volume of alcohol I consume while she watches Sean Hannity, so we get along fine.

[orangeblossom]

I like my FIL and SMIL, and will voluntarily call SMIL, which is in stark contrast to MIL as note in my post below. I want to go and visit FIL and SMIL.

MIL is a nice enough person, but I feel like she's a bit of an opportunist, and until DH set her straight, expected DH to support her lifestyle. Ugh, no. I'm all for helping family, but not for using.

I like my SILs, and get along well with them.

[tripleshot]

I don't really have a strong opinion one way or the other. They're not mean people, but I don't really like either of them. We have nothing in common other than DH and never have anything to talk about.

[Kore]

Mine are amazing. I love them to death. They're the most generous, caring people I know.

[josieposy]

Yeah we get along pretty well.

[ChillyMcFreeze]

I voted "I like MIl but not FIL," but I don't exactly dislike FIL. I don't like that he treats H like the inferior son (because he wasn't an athlete), and he's a raging alcoholic, which is painful for H to deal with since his mom has been in recovery for so many years. But he's pleasant enough in person. If I had to spend more than an hour every few months with him, I might feel differently.

I like MIL even though she drives me a little bit crazy.

[Velar Fricative]

Yes, very much so. I really lucked out. And I get along great with his four siblings and spouses too (well, SIL's wife sucks but still, I consider myself lucky).

[Deleted]

I wouldn't choose any of them as friends, but they are all fine. SMIL and FIL can be a handful sometimes. MIL is pretty much the nicest lady ever, we just don't have a ton in common.

[rugbywife]

I love my whole IL family. I have 2 brothers and DH has 2 sisters so now I feel like I have the sisters I always wanted. I love his parents - they are very different than mine but I love them. I genuinely like spending time with all of them. Next weekend is a long weekend here and typically we go up to our cottage…I am not going because it is very pregnancy friendly (need to snowshoe/ski in for almost 1km, no indoor toilet - and I pee a lot) - DH is going and I am so jealous that I missing out on our family tradition.

I love my own family but DH's family is SO low stress. It is wonderful.

[NitaX]

I don't know my FIL as my H has no memory of ever meeting him. So, my In-Laws consist of my forever drunk MIL and my 3 SIL and 1 BIL. The whole lot of them are six beers short of a six pack. How my H became the only sane one is beyond me. I don't dislike them all, but the annoy me. I don't spend enough time with them to say I dislike them.

One of my SIL I call "Pandora" because whenever she calls my H, it is because of some Next Level Foolishness done by another family member. This means we have to step in and perform grown-up meditation because of another person's stupidity. So we just don't deal with them because well - Ain't Nobody Got Time For That.

[LoveTrains]

Feb 9, 2014 21:37:45 GMT -5 Kore said:

Mine are amazing. I love them to death. They're the most generous, caring people I know.

Ditto this.

[tef]

I love mine. We spend a good deal of time with them now and even though my FIL is very liberal ( i am more libertarian), we get along great. He likes to talk politics, especially about education as he is a former principal,so tat is why I mention it. My sil and 2 bills are both great. They have their quirks, but who doesn't. and they LOOOOOOVE LT. It is their only grandchild so he has them wrapped quite well

[Dumbledork]

I voted that I like FIL not MIL, but FIL passed within our first year of marriage. He thought we were way too young and tried to convince DH to call the whole thing off just minutes before the ceremony, but he was nice enough to me. He and DH had a complicated past though so we only really saw him here and there.

MIL, I really dislike MIL. Very nearly hate. DH feels almost the same towards her.

[redheadbaker]

FI's mom and her husband: a don't outright dislike his mom. She's flaky. She smokes. She insisted that we feed DS rice cereal at 2 weeks despite us telling her that the recommendation had changed. When FI told her that DS was still sleeping in the PnP in our room at 2 months old, she said we HAD to get him in his own room ASAP or he'd be co-dependent forever. She buys dogs (and now birds) left and right (from bad sources) and doesn't neuter the dogs. She asks FI for dog training advice (he was studying to be a behaviorist) and doesn't follow it. She bitches that we never call her, yet she never calls us. I outright despise her husband.

FI's dad and his wife: His dad is nice enough, but makes me uncomfortable (not in a creepy way). He's loud. He plays a LOT of practical jokes (voodoo's creeper selfie post sounds like something he'd do). He's ... disinterested in his kids. We see them maybe once, twice a year. I do like his wife, though.

[eclaires]

I'm very close to my husband's siblings and their spouses. My BIL's wife is one of my favorite people. My Mil and FIL can really bug the shit out of me and I definitely have some (very valid) complaints about them, but they aren't bad people and they do genuinely care about us and the kids a lot. They are the type of people who will drop everything if their kids need something (but will be weird and dramatic about visiting and traveling to us - so odd) and I appreciate that about them. In that respect, they are what I want to be as a parent of adult kids. My FIL in particular is a wonderful example of a parent (esp considering his generation and the fact my MIL was a sahm).

I also found our relationship improved once I had Jackson. It was like my MIL and I could appreciate each other in a new way. I saw how good she was to Jackson and saw how much she cared and it helped me see her in a new light. I can't speak for her but I do think she respects me as a mother.

[Deleted]

my FIL died about 2 years before I met DH, so I never knew him. 99% of the time I like MIL. She is a good person with a good heart.

[mie]

My H's dad passed away before we started dating. I generally like my MIL.

[osulori]

I loved my MIL. She was a little crazy and had her faults but she was a good person and was going to be a great grandma...J and I miss her every single day (she passed away almost a year ago).

I like FIL well enough, but we're not close. He and J aren't particularly close either. No real reason, it's just how they are. He's thrilled to be a grandpa again (STBXSMIL's kids all have kids but AJ is his first bio grandchild) and lives 20 mins away but we don't see him often-I think the last time was on Christmas?

[laurenpetro]

Very, very much. My MIL is crazy but I love her.

[mskitkat]

BiL and SiL are great. I love them. The best thing I can say about MiL and FiL is that I know for a fact that if required to choose between his family of origin and me, DH will choose me without hesitation.

[pt716]

I like my in-laws. Poor DH has some difficult in-laws though.

[earlgreyhot]

They are good people and great grandparents to my DS. They are the light of their lives.

That said I don't like them personally. MIL just grates on my nerves and FIL is just awkward and unhappy.

[erbear]

Mine are pretty great. Granted, my husband and I have been friends since we were 6 and dating since we were 15, so I know them on a very different level, but yeah. I love them. And they would do anything for us. My MIL is the preferred babysitter of my kids, and they adore her and she helps us so much. She does some things that annoy the piss out of me, but she's not trying to be annoying.

FIL passed away last year and I'm still devastated, as though I lost someone in my own family

[sushi]

Mine are excellent people.

My mil died a few years ago. She invited me to take care of her when she wouldn't allow my h or bil in the room. I will forever love her for the lesson she imparted which was fuck [your mother]. She really was great.

My fil is equally great. We joke that if h and I ever split the sheets his dad would take me, and my parents would take h.

[simplyinpenguin]

I'm alright with them. They haven't done anything to offend me personally, but I really, really despise them for the way they raised their son, and by that, I mean the barest minimal a parent is required to provide for a child: clothing, food, shelter, schooling. They were also very emotionally distant and almost neglectful to him.

[redraider523]

I like mine for the most part. They are nice people, but they are conservative and religious and I'm neither.

[Nonny]

I liked my FIL quite a bit before he passed away. My MIL is a nice enough person, but we have so little in common that if I wasn't married to her son there is absolutely no chance we'd ever be friends. I'd describe our relationship as cordial. My sisters-in-law are great, although how much time I can spend around them varies greatly, depending on my current level of tolerance for their various quirks.

[Jermys]

My MIL is awesome and I adore her. She's taught me more about being a good parent in the last twelve years than I learned in the many years before that. My FIL is also great, but can be slightly crabby, which at first I thought meant he didn't like me. I was wrong LOL

[mouse]

I like mine. Which is good because things have gone south with my own family (alcoholism and denial are a great combo) and sometimes it's nice to have an elder to go to when I need to figure out this adulthood gig. That said, they can be irritating to spend much time with. A friendly but somewhat distant relationship is fine.

[pescalita]

Feb 9, 2014 21:35:23 GMT -5 ESF said:

Yes. i joke about them, but really, they are very nice people who have always been very kind to me. Their quirks aren't any more difficult than the quirks associated with my family. My MIL has some rather interesting political opinions, but she expresses no opinion on the volume of alcohol I consume while she watches Sean Hannity, so we get along fine.

Pretty much exactly this down to the alcohol and Sean Hannity.

They're great grandparents too.