The Duggars' 7 tips for keeping your marriage sexy

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Just in time for Valentine's day   I find this so weird:  "They abstain when Michelle has her period, and also after childbirth: 80 days before sex if it's a girl, 40 days after a boy."


www.today.com/moms/duggars-7-tips-keeping-your-marriage-sexy-even-after-lot-2D12106530

[egishere]

  so weird!

[Kore]

I want to rag on them, but that isn't bad advice

My marriage would be in a better place if we followed it.

[otowngirl]

I have to say, those are super cute pictures of them. Michelle especially!

[Willis Jackson]

I know that when I think "sexy marriage", I think of these two.

[womet]

Feb 13, 2014 13:34:40 GMT -5 pocoyo said:

Just in time for Valentine's day   I find this so weird:  "They abstain when Michelle has her period, and also after childbirth: 80 days before sex if it's a girl, 40 days after a boy."


www.today.com/moms/duggars-7-tips-keeping-your-marriage-sexy-even-after-lot-2D12106530

Okay, I get abstaining when she's on her period. But why is there a difference in the time they abstain following childbirth for girls and boys? How is birthing a boy different from birthing a girl? 

[zoidberg]

Feb 13, 2014 13:46:53 GMT -5 womet said:

Feb 13, 2014 13:34:40 GMT -5 pocoyo said:

Just in time for Valentine's day   I find this so weird:  "They abstain when Michelle has her period, and also after childbirth: 80 days before sex if it's a girl, 40 days after a boy."


www.today.com/moms/duggars-7-tips-keeping-your-marriage-sexy-even-after-lot-2D12106530

Okay, I get abstaining when she's on her period. But why is there a difference in the time they abstain following childbirth for girls and boys? How is birthing a boy different from birthing a girl? 

Girls are dirty and inferior.

[ESF]

I gagged all the way through.

I am just grateful that none of their advice involves the word "oral" or there would be vomit on my floor right now.

[womet]

Feb 13, 2014 13:48:21 GMT -5 zoidberg said:

Feb 13, 2014 13:46:53 GMT -5 womet said:

Okay, I get abstaining when she's on her period. But why is there a difference in the time they abstain following childbirth for girls and boys? How is birthing a boy different from birthing a girl? 

Girls are dirty and inferior.

Oh yeah, I forgot about that. 

[eddy]

My god that woman has not aged a bit.

IDK some of the advice is good stuff. Not the weird days after having a boy or girl stuff though.

[y4m]

I mean…it seems like it works for them.

[Deleted]

I can't hate on that article. I don't even like the Duggars and I felt like that advice was pretty good.

[whitemerlot]

I agree that some of the advice is actually good. I'm really impressed that they get out for a date night once a week. We struggle to get out every other month.

[dexteroni]

Ditto everyone - much of it is sound advice (except for the 40 day / 80 day thing, wtf). I think a lot of women would be MUCH more willing to put out more if their husbands remembered that attention and affection go a long way.

[monsterz]

Feb 13, 2014 13:46:53 GMT -5 womet said:

Feb 13, 2014 13:34:40 GMT -5 pocoyo said:

Just in time for Valentine's day   I find this so weird:  "They abstain when Michelle has her period, and also after childbirth: 80 days before sex if it's a girl, 40 days after a boy."


www.today.com/moms/duggars-7-tips-keeping-your-marriage-sexy-even-after-lot-2D12106530

Okay, I get abstaining when she's on her period. But why is there a difference in the time they abstain following childbirth for girls and boys? How is birthing a boy different from birthing a girl? 

I was wondering the same thing and then read the article "The timeline for abstinence after childbirth is loosely based on Old Testament traditions, but is more about what works for their marriage than about observing religious law, the Duggars say"

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Feb 13, 2014 14:21:37 GMT -5 whitemerlot said:

I agree that some of the advice is actually good. I'm really impressed that they get out for a date night once a week. We struggle to get out every other month.

We struggle with that as well but if you think about it they do have like 14 babysitters at home that allow them to go and do what they want.

[phunluvin82]

Feb 13, 2014 14:21:37 GMT -5 whitemerlot said:

I agree that some of the advice is actually good. I'm really impressed that they get out for a date night once a week. We struggle to get out every other month.

To be fair though, it's probably not that hard to get out for a few hours when you have a plethora of older kids at home that are used to a taking on a lot of responsibility and doing a lot of parenting.

What I want to know is, did they get out for a date every week back when they had, say 5 under 5.  Or hell, 8 under 8, or pick any of the years where they had LOTS of kids that were all still too young to stay by themselves?  THAT would be impressive.

[dexteroni]

Feb 13, 2014 14:26:47 GMT -5 pocoyo said:

Feb 13, 2014 14:21:37 GMT -5 whitemerlot said:

I agree that some of the advice is actually good. I'm really impressed that they get out for a date night once a week. We struggle to get out every other month.

We struggle with that as well but if you think about it they do have like 14 babysitters at home that allow them to go and do what they want.

Yep. I wonder what Michelle Duggar's response to something like this would have been when they had like 5 kids all under age 6. But then I guess there were probably fellow church ladies available. What's 5 more kids for a couple hours? 

[lasagnasshole]

Feb 13, 2014 14:35:01 GMT -5 @champagna said:

Feb 13, 2014 14:26:47 GMT -5 pocoyo said:

We struggle with that as well but if you think about it they do have like 14 babysitters at home that allow them to go and do what they want.

This article made me start daydreaming of the day when my oldest could watch her siblings while MH and I go out to dinner. I wonder when that will happen? When she's 13/14? I can't even imagine the day that they will actually listen to her and do what she says. lol

I think this depends on the kids. I think my mom started leaving my brother in charge around 11 or 12. BUT I was a very responsible kid - as in, I taught my older brother to make a grilled cheese sandwich and how to iron his clothes, LOL. And it was seen as a SUPER DUPER OMG HUGE DEAL that we didn't have a babysitter. So we generally made sure the house didn't fall apart while mom was gone because if we screwed it up, we'd be back to babysitters. 

OTOH, some kids can barely be trusted at 18! 

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Seeing Duggars and sexy in the same sentence makes me want to throw up.

[havarti]

Feb 13, 2014 14:40:12 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

Feb 13, 2014 14:35:01 GMT -5 @champagna said:

This article made me start daydreaming of the day when my oldest could watch her siblings while MH and I go out to dinner. I wonder when that will happen? When she's 13/14? I can't even imagine the day that they will actually listen to her and do what she says. lol

I think this depends on the kids. I think my mom started leaving my brother in charge around 11 or 12. BUT I was a very responsible kid - as in, I taught my older brother to make a grilled cheese sandwich and how to iron his clothes, LOL. And it was seen as a SUPER DUPER OMG HUGE DEAL that we didn't have a babysitter. So we generally made sure the house didn't fall apart while mom was gone because if we screwed it up, we'd be back to babysitters. 

OTOH, some kids can barely be trusted at 18! 

My parents used to pay us a quarter each to babysit ourselves!  A WHOLE QUARTER!!!

You used to be able to buy 25 gumballs with that kind of dough.

[winnied]

I'm not going to knock them. I like the vast majority of that advice so I'm not going to flip out over the girls/boys abstaining difference. It's not my hill to die on, folks.

[Willis Jackson]

I loved when my oldest brother babysat me because he let me wear a swim suit in the bath tub. He would sit on the (closed) toilet with a whistle and pretend to be a lifeguard.

My second oldest brother, however, gave me a cup of apple cider vinegar and told me it was apple juice. Asshole.

[spanikopita]

Feb 13, 2014 13:37:53 GMT -5 Kore said:

I want to rag on them, but that isn't bad advice

My marriage would be in a better place if we followed it.

My thoughts exactly

[imojoebunny]

Makes sense to me, minus the 40/80 thing. Mutual respect is kind of the common theme, and taking the time to show you love the person by being with them and communicating. I am sure it isn't always easy and doesn't always work out like that, but it is much better than some of the magazine advice I have read,

[cjeanette]

I typically despise them but the pictures of them from the 80s are pretty cute.

Other than the abstaining after kids rule none of this seems too odd.

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[chikastuff]

Feb 13, 2014 13:34:40 GMT -5 pocoyo said:

Just in time for Valentine's day   I find this so weird:  "They abstain when Michelle has her period, and also after childbirth: 80 days before sex if it's a girl, 40 days after a boy."


www.today.com/moms/duggars-7-tips-keeping-your-marriage-sexy-even-after-lot-2D12106530

The worlds unsexiest couple giving sex advice....


*gag*

[Marmee]

Ha! Who knew I had so much in common with them. We do basically the same things (minus the 80 days after my girls, we only do the 6wks) and have been happily married 95% of the past 11yrs. My DD1 can't wait until she's old enough to babysit her sisters...and we're excited about that too. Right now we're lucky to have an eager to babysit grandparent a mile away.