so who plans to TTC this year?

[dulcemariamar]

No. Like I just cant imagine. And if I ever have any doubt, I just open the MOTN thread. Best BC  ever.

[ssmjlm]

You need an option for Never

[carolinagirl831]

Feb 14, 2014 10:59:41 GMT -5 ssmjlm said:

You need an option for Never

haha I just figured NO WAY JOSE covered that one..

[rt2008]

DH wants to start again this fall. I'm 'eh' on it right now, but will hopefully warm up to the idea by then. The only thing holding me back is actually being pregnant again.

DD is 7 months right now.

[satsuma]

Feb 14, 2014 8:14:50 GMT -5 TamiTaylor said:

I'm loling at HOSE.

I was starting to wonder if it was like "walla", "moran" and "jealousE", but I had never seen it before, lol. To answer the question, if we do TTC this year, it will be much, much closer to the end of the year. We have frozen embryos and we still haven't had the talk on how long we want to try on our own before doing a FET. 

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Feb 14, 2014 11:48:30 GMT -5 littlespitfire said:

Feb 14, 2014 0:21:03 GMT -5 @roseyposey said:

Nope, nope, nope.

I have a few friends who had babies the same time as me and they've either already had #2, are pregnant or are ttc.

The thought of it scares the living shit out of me. I'm no where near ready to consider it, although the debate of whether or not to have a second, how we'll pay for another in daycare while still maintaining our lifestyle, and basic logistics of another kid, etc is something I think about every day

Change "every day" to "once a week" and that's me. I don't want to say never, but I don't feel a strong pull towards another kid. But, then again, I didn't feel a strong pull towards the first, it was an intellectual decision. The older AJ gets, the more fun she is, so I'm hesitant to go back to the baby stage. However, she does have fun with other kids, so that would be cute.

BUT, our lives are in flux so much these days that it's not the right time and likely won't be for a while. Maybe we'll get out of the rat race of this area and suddenly I'll feel less constricted and it'll seem like a great idea. But also, I really want my stomach back. I worry that it's irreparable with 1, so 2 sounds like I'd be guaranteeing it would look like shit forever. Ab work does NADA for saggy skin.

I totally agree with this. I honestly think that if I hadn't been able to get pregnant, I would've been ok with it. Obviously, I'm super happy and in love with DD, and wouldn't trade her for the world, but I never had that "omg I NEED to be a mom!" feeling that so many other people do. Maybe I would've if I was older, but I'm not sure.

Honestly, DH would be completely happy to be OAD. The thing is, I don't picture DD as an only when I think about what life will be like in 20-30 years. But, I also can't picture having another baby any time soon either.

Its a total mind-fuck. Tina Fey's "bossypants" has a great chapter on her debate to have another baby, and it was pretty much exactly the way I feel about it, too.

[carolinagirl831]

Feb 14, 2014 8:14:50 GMT -5 TamiTaylor said:

I'm loling at HOSE.

HAHA oops! i can't figure out how to edit it! 3 days off for a snow day and my brain is gone!

JOSE

[Marmee]

No, just no. This kid is trying to kill me.

[stategirl08]

Currently TTC! Cycle 5, will now if it worked next week.

[leonard131]

Not ever ever ever ever  freaking happening.   I know it is shock to you all

Standing with  pennypenny.  Contemplating permenant measures as my OB has informed menapause is much further off then I thought.

[leonard131]

Feb 14, 2014 12:18:25 GMT -5 littlespitfire said:

Feb 14, 2014 12:00:17 GMT -5 @roseyposey said:

I totally agree with this. I honestly think that if I hadn't been able to get pregnant, I would've been ok with it. Obviously, I'm super happy and in love with DD, and wouldn't trade her for the world, but I never had that "omg I NEED to be a mom!" feeling that so many other people do. Maybe I would've if I was older, but I'm not sure.

 

Twinsies!  

I'm going to read that book.  

@roseyposey and littlespitfire

Pretty much me word for word except I always knew if there was one that would be it.  I do have a question and I don't mean to be confrontational but is having another child just becuase you "think" your child needs a sibling the best way to think about it?. I hear this so often and I can't help but think you don't even know if they would get along. There are so many siblings out there that don't even talk to each other let alone are friends.

[waterchurch]

DS is 21 months. I feel like trying is a little too definite for us, since I'm not charting or testing for ovulation. We're just having unprotected sex as often as we can manage. :-)

[Stingyshark]

Never again. Ever.

[Deleted]

Feb 14, 2014 13:33:59 GMT -5 leonard131 said:

Feb 14, 2014 12:18:25 GMT -5 littlespitfire said:

Twinsies!  

I'm going to read that book.  

@roseyposey and littlespitfire

Pretty much me word for word except I always knew if there was one that would be it.  I do have a question and I don't mean to be confrontational but is having another child just becuase you "think" your child needs a sibling the best way to think about it?. I hear this so often and I can't help but think you don't even know if they would get along. There are so many siblings out there that don't even talk to each other let alone are friends.

Putting on my flameproof suit...

Honestly? Kind of. And logically I know that there's no guarantee that they would be friends or even like each other, and giving my daughter a sibling because she "needs" a sibling isn't a good enough reason to do it. I think it mostly comes from my selfish desire to not be ditched completely if my daughter marries, and have large family gatherings. I only have one sibling (other than step-siblings, but they weren't around until my late-teens), but have a ton of cousins and it was so fun to have a large extended family. Also, God-forbid something terrible happens to my DD, I think I would be sad to not have another child. I know that's a horrible, awful way to think about it, but its a thought. Also, I think about if my DD has kids, they wouldn't have any aunts & uncles from our side.

On the flip side, if another child was born that had long-lasting medical issues, I would feel bad for changing my daughters life like that. I also think that as of right now, with out current salaries, etc, we could give DD everything she wants, travel, etc, comfortably, whereas if we added another child, daycare expenses would take up everything else (maybe not, but it seems that way). But, should I really let a few years of paying double daycare dictate the rest of my life?

My best friend is an only, and she tells me all the time to have one more, that she always wished for a sibling. She at least had cousins similarly aged, so they were her siblings growing up, but obviously it wasn't quite the same. My dd wont have any cousins for a long time, other than "honorary" cousins from my best friends.

Basically, I'm clearly not ready to make the decision whether or not to have another baby, so I really just need to stop thinking about it, and wait a few years. And I realize I said "I" throughout this entire post, and nothing about "we" as in my husband's opinion. I think DH is scared of what another baby would do to our lifestyle. We'll be playing with DD and she's taking all of our attention and he'll be like "how could we handle another baby right now?" Stuff like that. Also, one of my bff's oldest son is a handful, and I honestly think he's afraid we'll have a boy and he'll be the same way. DD is so easy, and always has been, he doesn't want to tempt fate. But, I LOVED being pregnant, and would be sad if I wasn't ever pregnant again. I know, I'm crazy.

Sorry for the word vomit in here. I don't think I even explained my thoughts clearly, but I cant really think about the subject clearly, either. lol.

[sjh722]

DD is 11 months. We would like 2.5-3 years between kids, I think, so probably later this year. We'll see if I cave sooner once she starts nursing less and sleeping more, LOL.

[runblondie26]

We'd like to have a 3rd. I'm not sure how I'll handle having 2 so close in age. However, our DNA is getting old and janky, so we really should get moving by mid 2015.

[SallySparrow]

DD is five months. We plan on seriously discussing another child once she turns 1. Probably TTC at the very end of this year, beginning of next.

[mrssandro]

I can't get over that there are 38 currently knocked up people on this board. Wow.

[mpc]

We're going to start TTC in June, which would put exactly 2 years between them if we got lucky on the first try. If I were younger I might allow more time between them, but I'm 32 and want to leave the option of having more if we decide to do it.

[niq]

Feb 13, 2014 23:03:07 GMT -5 212 said:

H's begging is wearing me down. I can't listen to his whines for much longer. I maybe have six months of fight left in me.

EFF.



Eta: J is 18 months.

are we talking about H or J?

We're still in the "not even talking about it" phase. Crystal ball says "ask again in three months". Msniq doesn't want to be 3rd tri in the summer, so at most we would try for a few cycles and then stop until spring 2015. and see my hemming and hawing in the AAA thread from a few weeks ago.

[babyrn]

We hope to do a FET this fall/early winter

[geek96]

I feel like I just gave birth but we will be TTC in about 3 months. I don't think it will happen that fast since I still don't have a period but we'd like them close to 2 years apart.

[SpartanGirl]

Nope. We're done.

[pugz]

I think we are waiting til next year, although I will still probably get my mirena out at my yearly appointment and see if my period returns on its own. I doubt it will and we expect we'll need clomid again to get pregnant.

I don't really feel an urgency and since we are only planning on 2 kids I think we can take our time.

[karinothing]

Probably

ETA: I will add that it is funny I really go between really wanting another this moment and then being fine with it just happening eventually. I think I know I just don't want too big of an age gap. If we get pregnant sometime this year the kids will be 3.5 yrs apart plus. I am starting to think after that the age gap is more than I want. But daycare X w = poor karinothing.

[chickens987]

Not this year, probably next.

I was thinking this morning that I definitely won't be ready until DD has the patience to sit through a movie

[noodleskooze]

We would if we could afford it. Looking at our financial future, however, makes me think we might be forced into OAD.

[zarapipe]

Pregnant! Due in Sept.

[galaxy8227]

No way, getting back on the pill this month and DH is hopefully getting a vasectomy in the next few months. He had to go buy condoms for the first time in 9 years and he had one of those awkward moments with another guy in the isle deciding on what brand to buy--I wish I had seen it.

[lmb5109]

Hopefully next year, summer ideally. I want DD to be potty trained and in a bed before #2 comes. She's 14 months now, I'd like her to be 3 years and a few months when the next one is born.