Convos like this make me want to BF until age 5

[undecidedowl]

CW: Well since you aren't BFing anymore...
Me: Actually, I still am.
CW: Oh, I thought you would have had him on whole milk by now.
Me: He drinks it at daycare.
CW: Oh, so are you just going to nurse until 2 then?
Me: DS already turned two.
CW: Oh..um..so just until 3 then?
Me: I don't really have a plan.
CW: Well just not until 4 or 5 though.

Gosh, I can't imagine why she cares what I do with my boobs.

[DarcyLongfellow]

LOL.

People are really funny about extended breast feeding. Every time I mention how long I nursed DD1 (almost 3 years, although usually I just say "I weaned when she was 2") I feel like I'm doing my bit to normalize it :-)

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Everyone assumes DS is weaned (because of the baby) and he's totally not. I'm really over what anyone thinks. He'd be fine weaned, but I don't want to deal with tantrums morning and night for a week. We'll get there.

[undecidedowl]

@applesauce after the convo I tried so hard to remember why she even brought it up but I can't remember! Then again, she is the same person who asked when DS was 9 months if I had gotten him on cow's milk yet so that I could quit BFing. She was so proud she had fully transitioned her daughter by 11 months.

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That's so silly. Why would she care indeed! Good for you for not caving or lying. I'm glad you stuck up for you and DS.

[anna7602]

DD actually asked me the other day if she can nurse again when my milk comes in for the baby. I have zero desire to nurse a 5.5 year old, but I'm sure it would raise many eyebrows if she decided to have a conversation like this with me in public.

[stealthmom]

If we hadn't had a forced separation at 20 mos. I swear I'd still be nursibg ds1.

[Ashley&Scott]

People are weird & nosy. I'm pretty sure my coworker thinks I weaned since I don't pump anymore. I guarantee her jaw would hit the floor if she knew, but then she would also ask questions like your coworker. When I stopped pumping she asked me if I got the pill that would make my milk stop. I just said no.

[MadamePresident]

Yeah, my FIL once said something about me weaning Nods at 1 and I said just because she has a birthday doesn't mean she needs to wean. My mom said something about me weaning before the baby was born so I don't have "nursing wars". I said I'm in no hurry to wean and I'd like to nurse her until at least 2.

I really don't get why people think kids magically change when they turn one? I think people should be able to BF for whatever time frame works for them and their child.

[bronxgirl]

Just tell your CW'er that you absolutely vow to stop by the time he starts college.

[Deleted]

You know, it really surprises me but where I work now, it seems like 2 years is the goal for most. It's great knowing that's out there.

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Feb 15, 2014 0:10:04 GMT -5 @ojo said:

Feb 14, 2014 23:19:55 GMT -5 MadamePresident said:

Yeah, my FIL once said something about me weaning Nods at 1 and I said just because she has a birthday doesn't mean she needs to wean. My mom said something about me weaning before the baby was born so I don't have "nursing wars". I said I'm in no hurry to wean and I'd like to nurse her until at least 2.

I really don't get why people think kids magically change when they turn one? I think people should be able to BF for whatever time frame works for them and their child.

As a mother of two nursing toddlers, I'm curious to know what she thinks a nursing war is.

The worst that's happened in 19 months of tandem nursing so far is that A stuck his fingers in B's mouth while he was teething and B chomped down. Usually they poke each others eyes and ears, but never to the point of hurting each other. Most days they actually rub each others backs or run their fingers through each others hair. And let me tell you, when they were only a few weeks old and their eyes locked like they finally realized that was another baby nursing next to them, the feeling was indescribable. Tandem nursing is awesome. Exhausting, but awesome. Plus, you know how hungry you are nursing one baby? Imagine that times two. You get to eat everything you want for a while.

This is incredible.

[djc315]

@ojo I love hearing your twin nursing stories!

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No nursing wars in this house, either. Really, having a baby hasn't impacted my nursing relationship with DS. I've only nursed them at the same time a few times, as I don't really like how it feels. DS is usually content to wait his turn, and now he's down to just morning and night so his turn usually comes when DD is sleeping. I am kind of surprised at how ready to wean him I am, as I will still be nursing DD anyway. My feelings seem pretty independent of that - it's just getting to be time for DS to be done.

I was really surprised that seeing the baby nurse didn't bother DS, nor did it prompt him to nurse all the time. He's more surprised now that I'm offering DD food, as he thinks babies only eat "boo".

[MadamePresident]

Feb 15, 2014 0:10:04 GMT -5 @ojo said:

Feb 14, 2014 23:19:55 GMT -5 MadamePresident said:

Yeah, my FIL once said something about me weaning Nods at 1 and I said just because she has a birthday doesn't mean she needs to wean. My mom said something about me weaning before the baby was born so I don't have "nursing wars". I said I'm in no hurry to wean and I'd like to nurse her until at least 2.

I really don't get why people think kids magically change when they turn one? I think people should be able to BF for whatever time frame works for them and their child.

As a mother of two nursing toddlers, I'm curious to know what she thinks a nursing war is.

The worst that's happened in 19 months of tandem nursing so far is that A stuck his fingers in B's mouth while he was teething and B chomped down. Usually they poke each others eyes and ears, but never to the point of hurting each other. Most days they actually rub each others backs or run their fingers through each others hair. And let me tell you, when they were only a few weeks old and their eyes locked like they finally realized that was another baby nursing next to them, the feeling was indescribable. Tandem nursing is awesome. Exhausting, but awesome. Plus, you know how hungry you are nursing one baby? Imagine that times two. You get to eat everything you want for a while.

I think her thought was my older daughter would be jealous? But I'm sure she is going to go through a jealous period regardless of if I am nursing. That's so sweet of your twins. I've always thought it would be really awesome to have a bond like that with someone.

The calorie impact is actually something I'm slightly worried about. I'm one of those genetically blessed people who lose the pregnancy weight really fast. After nursing for a few months I weighed 10 lbs less than when I got pregnant. I eat a ton and I especially LOVE cookies and ice cream. I have no idea how I will eat enough to feed two kids.

[tcu2003]

Feb 15, 2014 2:02:59 GMT -5 @lauralynne said:

I only just weaned - at 29 months. It was actually my DH who came up with a zinger in response to people making snide comments about nursing a toddler (my least favorite was the advice that "you should stop when they can ask for it with words!" Um, no. That was super early for us...)

My dh's response was "we will wean him when he's 7" and then sit back and watch to jaw drop...
It was especially funny when he said it to his mom (who mentioned weaning by 6 weeks because she said I needed to add Karo syrup to his bottle...no joke)

LOL. I like to tell people I'm sure he'll be done before he heads to college.