Would you date/marry someone....

[MrsAxilla]

Totally depends on the crime. Drug possession? Yes. Domestic abuse? No.

[isabel]

Sure. But it would very much depend on the crime and the circumstances surrounding it.

Also, I don't generally hang with people with criminal records, so I'm guessing I wouldn't know this about said person before going on a date and him telling me. I don't know if I would seriously consider dating someone with a record if I knew ahead of time. Too much time to form judgments without really knowing the person.

[speckledfrog]

This is an incredibly broad question. Who wouldn't answer "depends"

[sugarbear]

I feel like this isn't a black and white question. Someone who stole some bread when he was 19? Absolutely. Someone who beat the shit out of his girlfriend when he was 32? Nope.

[spitforspat]

I mean, Public intoxication is a misdemeanor. There's too much gray in this question.

[Deleted]

No.

[melindafelinda]

Would you date someone who killed...something? Could be a spider, could be a pair of 46 yr old German twins. You take your chances and answer this poll!

[melindafelinda]

Feb 18, 2014 23:15:21 GMT -5 kooshball said:

Feb 18, 2014 23:11:15 GMT -5 melindafelinda said:

Would you date someone who killed...something? Could be a spider, could be a pair of 46 yr old German twins. You take your chances and answer this poll!

And yet only 9 minutes in and a bunch of no's already.

Dumb people answer dumb questions all of the time. 

[CheshireGrin]

Feb 18, 2014 23:11:15 GMT -5 melindafelinda said:

Would you date someone who killed...something? Could be a spider, could be a pair of 46 yr old German twins. You take your chances and answer this poll!

Yeah, but the twins totally had it coming.

[adhdfashion]

Depends on what they did and when.

[Deleted]

Well if public intoxication is a misdemeanor than I may need to change my answer. But I am such a square I think even that is scandalous.

[wise_rita]

My SO has been busted for public urination in 2 countries. Both AFTER we got together.

So...thug life?

[ralphlauren]

Feb 18, 2014 23:06:40 GMT -5 MrsAxilla said:

Totally depends on the crime. Drug possession? Yes. Domestic abuse? No.

Agreed

[Birdie]

Yes and I have - in college. Lots of public intoxes and marijuana possessions back then.

[Birdie]

The campus police at my college were very public intox happy. Many a student was arrested if they stumbled one too many times on their way home from the bars.

[lexxasaurus]

In the past I would have said yes. I've dated people who had quite extensive records. However due to them I would never be with someone who had any sort of violent crime on their record. I don't care if it was beating your girlfriend or a silly bar fight. Violence is violence in my eyes nowadays.

[Captain Serious]

Depends. In fact, I think there are some crimes, in some circumstances, that it may be honorable to commit and serve the time for. The law is not always right.

[mrsjuleshs]

Yes but it depends. I got 2 minor in possession charges and neither time was I even in actual possession of the alcohol. 1 it was in my car locked up when i was 17 and the 22 year old had my keys and wasn't there but we were all sitting outside of a friends apartment waiting for him to get home after work. The cops waited till the 22 year old got back and made him give me the keys to get it out of my car. The 2nd time we were down at the beach and the people we were with had set a beer on the tail gate of my truck and I was laying in the bed catching some rays and the cops assumed it was my beer. Besides that my ex got me into a world of trouble even though I and my girl friends had nothing to do with it. Guilty by association. Dd knows all of it and understands that even if you haven't done anything wrong, if the people who you are hanging out with fuck up, you will be going down with them. It killed me that I had to tell Dh about all of the stupid shit my former friends did that has followed me because I was dumb enough to be friends with the idiots.

[laceylaplante]

As long as the crimes were not violent or sexual I wouldn't mind.

[kme]

We are all criminals but only some of us get caught.

I would agree it would depend on the crime. Nothing violent , sexual or blatant lack of humanity (e.g., stealing your g-mas identity and retirement fund).

But I have a criminal past. I was 18 and it was stupid.

[iamali]

Of course it's depends.

So few things in this world are strictly black and white.

[txgrandma]

Depends on his age when the crime occured, type of crime, etc.

But I would tend to say No.

[starburst604]

My H had a DUI/OUI before we met. Obviously I dated him anyway, but we are having a hell of a time getting life insurance on him between that and his past history of colitis.

[medicmommy]

At this point in time, no. I'm not allowed to have a history and the same is strongly suggested for our SO. It's a pretty black and white thing in their eyes; HOWEVER my coworker is dating someone that has done prison time for meth production. She's not in trouble for it, but they definitely aren't impressed.

In 2-3 years when I'm in another position, it would absolutely depend on the charge.

[wise_rita]

Feb 19, 2014 1:21:31 GMT -5 mrsjuleshs said:

I got 2 minor in possession charges and neither time was I even in actual possession of the alcohol.

There are few "crimes" I could care less about than a minor in possession.

Seriously, would anybody rule out dating a person because of a minor?!

[mssue]

Now? Definitely not, considering my line of work. In the past I was with someone for six years and he had been convicted of a felony. This did not make it easy for him to get a good job thus making it hard on our future together.

[chiclet]

My H has a felony record. He made mistakes when he was younger, it doesn't define who is now.

[Deleted]

Not every law is a good law.

Also, some laws should exist that don't exist.