Post by cuddlyevil on Feb 20, 2014 10:05:29 GMT -5
Hugs puddles. You can do this, I promise!
Today is a quiet but busy day at work. And I am in a good mood because I got yet another sign that I made the right decision about leaving stbx. I feel sorry for his current, almost girlfriend.
My boss and I had a bit of a run in this morning. She walked by my office and said her daily "what's wrong", to which I responded using someone on here's advice. I said- I'm an introvert, and that is ok! The only thing wrong is that now I expect that every morning I get interrogated on what's wrong. Please, please stop asking-- again, I am an introvert, and I really don't feel bad about that.
She said: well, maybe you should think about changing.
My boss and I had a bit of a run in this morning. She walked by my office and said her daily "what's wrong", to which I responded using someone on here's advice. I said- I'm an introvert, and that is ok! The only thing wrong is that now I expect that every morning I get interrogated on what's wrong. Please, please stop asking-- again, I am an introvert, and I really don't feel bad about that.
She said: well, maybe you should think about changing.
ok.
Because introverts can change by snapping their fingers.
My boss and I had a bit of a run in this morning. She walked by my office and said her daily "what's wrong", to which I responded using someone on here's advice. I said- I'm an introvert, and that is ok! The only thing wrong is that now I expect that every morning I get interrogated on what's wrong. Please, please stop asking-- again, I am an introvert, and I really don't feel bad about that.
She said: well, maybe you should think about changing.
ok.
Because introverts can change by snapping their fingers.
Yeah. I fought back tears of frustration, fought, fought...then let them go. I wanted to go out to my car so no one would see me, but then she would probably see me out the window, thus furthering the questioning of WHAT IS WROOOONG.
Grr. L is sick, so she's sleeping in today. Which is great, except fucking STBXH is laying here in bed snoring so I can't sleep. Because apparently if I'm not up, he didn't have to get up either.
There is a post on MM about somebody who judges people for vacationing to relax instead of traveling to see the world.
Ok. I get that a lot of people travel to see the world with young kids, but it isn't for me. Right now, when I have downtime, I want to relax. I am definitely excited to take seeing-the-world type trips with my kid(s) when they are older and we can share the experience more and can learn together about the places we visit....but I think judging people for taking vacations to relax and get away from the bustle is fucking ridiculous.
I saw that, too. I have done a lot of traveling in my life and I love it. But now that I have a kid, I truly convert the idea of an AI where I can lay on the beach doing nothing. I don't want to make any decisions or think any further than "what drink should I order next?"
Post by Ohhmm(bligo) on Feb 20, 2014 10:17:07 GMT -5
I keep seeing headlines about the Hot Pocket clusterfuck, but I keep reading it as them using 'deceased beef' and get really confused about what the problem is.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
Because introverts can change by snapping their fingers.
Yeah. I fought back tears of frustration, fought, fought...then let them go. I wanted to go out to my car so no one would see me, but then she would probably see me out the window, thus furthering the questioning of WHAT IS WROOOONG.
((Big big hugs)) I hate that feeling. Is there anyone at work you can talk to about rhis? Maybe politely tell her that you can't just change like that and that it takes time?
I had a boss that was like that. I was just quiet and focused on work and she would email me and ask if I needed to talk to someone. I told her every time it's just how I was. She never understood until I finally laid it out to her-- I told her I'm not chatty, I like to keep to myself, etc. She backed off eventually
Do you have time on the weekends to do any kind of meal prep for that stuff? When I take just like an hour on a Sunday to do that, it helps my weeks not be so chaotic.
Not really. It's not so much the food prep for it that takes time, it's the process of sitting her down, having her blow bubbles for a few minutes, then wash her face, then go through each individual food for a min. of 5 minutes to play with it, taste it, etc. It's just hard because at that time of the night, she's in no mood.
I guess I'll just do it on the weekends and work on her food jags during the week.
Yeah. I fought back tears of frustration, fought, fought...then let them go. I wanted to go out to my car so no one would see me, but then she would probably see me out the window, thus furthering the questioning of WHAT IS WROOOONG.
((Big big hugs)) I hate that feeling. Is there anyone at work you can talk to about rhis? Maybe politely tell her that you can't just change like that and that it takes time?
I had a boss that was like that. I was just quiet and focused on work and she would email me and ask if I needed to talk to someone. I told her every time it's just how I was. She never understood until I finally laid it out to her-- I told her I'm not chatty, I like to keep to myself, etc. She backed off eventually
Unfortunately, no. I'm the newcomer to a very small company (<10) and I'm a clear outcast here. Much younger than the others, and the only person who has been here for fewer than 7 years.
This is the third or fourth time I have laid it out to her, so I am reeeeally hoping she does the same thing your boss did and just backs off. Typically when she says what's wrong in the morning, I respond with: Why do you think something is wrong? - to put it back on her. This morning I guess I just wasn't feeling it.
Post by AHappierHour on Feb 20, 2014 10:33:21 GMT -5
I need to be productive today and do laundry and pack for this weekend. I should make a list of all the things I need to bring. I don't know if I should bring the RNP for the baby to sleep in or just co-sleep with him. I would like to only take things I absolutely need for the kids since they will only be with us for one day.
For the very first time since I graduated in ought six, my school called me for a donation. This happened last night and some college kid was like, would you like to make a donation of $300 to the College of Liberal Arts and Sciences. I did the only appropriate thing and started to laugh. When I stopped laughing and said no, she had the nerve to ask me why I wouldn't make a donation. I told her it's because I was stupid enough to major in Liberal Arts and Sciences and I didn't HAVE $300.
We got this as a gift for Christmas, and it's embarrassing how fast we blew through it.
We now have 21 bottles of wine. I don't like my reserve going below 4 bottles... I think we're good for a little while
This could never happen in our household. We desperately try to have bottle of wine or booze around, but we always drink them. It is like they taunt me sitting on the counter or something.
We now have 21 bottles of wine. I don't like my reserve going below 4 bottles... I think we're good for a little while
This could never happen in our household. We desperately try to have bottle of wine or booze around, but we always drink them. It is like they taunt me sitting on the counter or something.
The good wines I'll save for drinking with H and I'll buy some Yellowtail or something to drink when I'm drinking alone. Our recycling is mostly wine bottles, cat food cans, and coke zero. It's embarrassing what the neighbors must think!
My boss and I had a bit of a run in this morning. She walked by my office and said her daily "what's wrong", to which I responded using someone on here's advice. I said- I'm an introvert, and that is ok! The only thing wrong is that now I expect that every morning I get interrogated on what's wrong. Please, please stop asking-- again, I am an introvert, and I really don't feel bad about that.
She said: well, maybe you should think about changing.
ok.
I know you are an introvert. But what exactly is it that your boss wants, that you are not providing, that would ease this issue?
I don't know. I've tried to be chipper for her when she walks by and it is so uncomfortable for me. One day when I did that she said- WOW! YOU'RE ACTUALLY HAPPY TODAY!!!
I'm not a miserable person. I AM a happy person. I am a morning person. I'm just not a "GOOD MORNING!!!!" person.
I've gotten comments like this all of my life. "Smile!" "Having fun yet?" "You look tired."
ETA: I said hi to a different coworker yesterday morning as she passed my office and she backed up and asked what was wrong and I said "nothing" and she said- oh, are you just moody today? Are you sick?
No, I just said hi. You walked by my office and said nothing. I said hi to be nice.
There is something I'm doing wrong. But I'm just going deeper and deeper into this hole.
For the very first time since I graduated in ought six, my school called me for a donation. This happened last night and some college kid was like, would you like to make a donation of $300 to the College of Liberal Arts and Sciences. I did the only appropriate thing and started to laugh. When I stopped laughing and said no, she had the nerve to ask me why I wouldn't make a donation. I told her it's because I was stupid enough to major in Liberal Arts and Sciences and I didn't HAVE $300.
I'm hoping they don't call back.
They will.
When I told the callers that I would be paying off my loans for 30 years, and they could try me then....they were like, oh.
For the very first time since I graduated in ought six, my school called me for a donation. This happened last night and some college kid was like, would you like to make a donation of $300 to the College of Liberal Arts and Sciences. I did the only appropriate thing and started to laugh. When I stopped laughing and said no, she had the nerve to ask me why I wouldn't make a donation. I told her it's because I was stupid enough to major in Liberal Arts and Sciences and I didn't HAVE $300.
I'm hoping they don't call back.
They will.
When I told the callers that I would be paying off my loans for 30 years, and they could try me then....they were like, oh.
And then called the next week.
Why did they wait so long to start hitting me up for money? I figured after 8 years I was in the clear
DS had a pedi appointment yesterday. I don't know what it is about the pedi that makes me so defensive. She's happy with his verbal abilities and his mobility but concerned about his weight. He's been 98% and up across the board for his whole life. At 15 months, I guess it's supposed to taper off. She showed me the growth chart and the curve starts flattening out but his weight was still shooting up so she wants us to make some changes. The changes aren't unreasonable but dammit, I want you to tell me I'm a perfect mom and my kid is perfect.
Also we are almost done with season 3 of Sons of Anarchy and I would like to apply to be Jax Teller's old lady. Please tell me where to sign up.
What kind of changes do you have to make? I am worried that this is what is going to be happening to us in a couple of months.
Lol that you shouldn't have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable at work.
But this isn't really an issue with how she performs her job. I don't know, a boss insisting that you act happy all the time seems kind of ridiculous, and when she did act happy, her boss still commented. Seriously, not everyone feels the need to broadcast their feelings to the world, and that's ok. Why should she have to change?
For real though, can you not do it every night and maybe just every other? And then actually skip the bathing? (Not kidding about that one)
LOL, Laz, yeah, they don't get baths every night. More like 3 to 4 times a week depending on how messy they are. The problem is, Emily is freaking messy! And Emily is now chill enough that she will take a bath with Natalie which is making things easier.
I'm just overwhelmed right now and I feel like I'm not doing enough for the feeding group stuff. Although she did kick ass at the session last night.
Baby steps, right?
Can you get a neighborhood teen to come over and hang out with the baby and feed her dinner, so you can focus on the feeding group stuff?