I'm just going to go mute from now on

[Odonata]

This is kinda like a spin off on the "comments" thread.  I know if you don't want them don't say anything but sometimes it can't be helped.

Two people at work know I'm pregnant.  Today was the first day that exhaustion and MS really really got to me where I couldn't hide how shitty I felt.  I puked after lunch and wanted to face plant into a desk somewhere and snooze.  

BUT, I don't go around complaining about any of it (unless I'm on here, but that's what I use this space for!) and for the most part I try to hide how I feel.  Today, while I didn't complain, it was obvious I felt like shit because I wasn't my usual hyper talkative self.  I just could not fake it today.

So coworker (who knows I'm pregnant) who was in the office with me during a mutual free period asked me how to set up a printer from her computer.  I said "hold on, let me see" but you could tell in my voice I was tired and not well. 

Co worker:  are you OK?  

Me:  Yeah, I'm good, so what's with the printer?

Co worker:  No, you really sound horrible.  Are things OK?

Me:  Well, to be honest I'm really sick right now and exhausted.  It's been a rough day...

Co worker:  WELL, YOU BETTER GET USE TO IT!  It doesn't get any easier!  Gotta keep working! Gotta get use to it......etc. etc.

Me:  Well, YOU ASKED how I felt.  

Am I just overly sensitive or should I have been totally pissed that she asked how I felt and then made me feel like I was being a total martyr going "oh whoa is me!" ?  I mean if I tried to call out a pregnant lady on not feeling well and she admitted it, I would respond with "gee, that sucks.  I'm sorry.  I hope it passes soon" or something like that. 

Later that day the second person who knows asked me the same question because I'm obviously looking a little green around the gills and (stupidly) I answered "just a little sick but I'm OK" and I got the same response : YOU'D BETTER GET USE TO IT!

I just want to answer back "fuck off, then don't ask!"

[IndiaInk]

That's such a rude and unhelpful response. I mean, it's just unkind to say to someone who doesn't feel well. Can you imagine if someone said, "I have a really bad cold and I don't feel well" and the response was, "Get used to it! You'll have a lot of colds in your life. Buck up!" That would be so rude. How do people not understand that?

I have so much sympathy for any pregnancy complaints now. I've had an easy pregnancy and I STILL think it's not for the faint-of-heart. Just being so tired sucks, let alone being sore or sick.

I'm so sorry you aren't feeling well. Your coworkers suck. I hope you feel better soon.

[Odonata]

Feb 26, 2014 17:09:59 GMT -5 IndiaInk said:

That's such a rude and unhelpful response. I mean, it's just unkind to say to someone who doesn't feel well. Can you imagine if someone said, "I have a really bad cold and I don't feel well" and the response was, "Get used to it! You'll have a lot of colds in your life. Buck up!" That would be so rude. How do people not understand that?

I have so much sympathy for any pregnancy complaints now. I've had an easy pregnancy and I STILL think it's not for the faint-of-heart. Just being so tired sucks, let alone being sore or sick.

I'm so sorry you aren't feeling well. Your coworkers suck. I hope you feel better soon.

I guess just because pregnancy is "natural" and I "wanted it" I don't deserve sympathy. BUT I wasn't even asking for any!  I know I have to deal with it so I don't complain to people, but shit, if you ask how I'm feeling because I look like shit why kick me when I'm down?

It's like a bait and switch!  

I'm showing concern about your well being....never mind!  Fuck you!  you admitted to feeling like crap and I don't care!

[picksthemusic]

Feb 26, 2014 17:09:59 GMT -5 IndiaInk said:

That's such a rude and unhelpful response. I mean, it's just unkind to say to someone who doesn't feel well. Can you imagine if someone said, "I have a really bad cold and I don't feel well" and the response was, "Get used to it! You'll have a lot of colds in your life. Buck up!" That would be so rude. How do people not understand that?

I have so much sympathy for any pregnancy complaints now. I've had an easy pregnancy and I STILL think it's not for the faint-of-heart. Just being so tired sucks, let alone being sore or sick.

I'm so sorry you aren't feeling well. Your coworkers suck. I hope you feel better soon.

All of this. As fellow pregnant women, they should be supporting you, not admonishing you. Especially if they asked. Want me to throat punch them for you?

[katiek]

It seriously sounds like the first person was intentionally setting you up for that. Why else would they push the issue just to say that?! People suck. I hope you feel better soon!

[mrspost08]

I had the same exact convo with someone at work. She started to tell me its bc im preg. Yes, thats some of it but I'm having an MS attack right now too. Things are twice as bad. One thing I can handle but 2-3 its very rough. My body isnt handling things well right now either with the lack of thyroid. Three majoe things are kicking my ass.

[lo]

Going mute from now on sounds like a good idea.

[MrsDarcy]

Yeah, they suck.

[scribellesam]

That is sucky. And dumb! For the vast majority, morning sickness will be gone by 14 weeks. Exhaustion is much easier to handle when you're not pukey! Those women were lame. The Suffering Olympics bug the hell out of me.

[ringstrue]

They're assholes.

But I do think you should go home if you puke at work, even if you know its just MS. Don't feel you have to work through that rough a time. ::hugs::

[shelbyann]

Ugh. I feel like this is a ruder, more assholeish version of my old favorite (not) comment: "just you wait!"

Sorry you're dealing with people who have no manners. I would be pissed off too.

[marie3246]

People are so rude. I don't understand what makes them think these things are ok to say.

[anna7602]

They are lame. You don't have to get used to it. Puking sucks, but there is an end to it.