He fucking took my rings - Update in OP

[montereybride]

I'm an idiot and had my wedding set in my jewelry armoire. My armoire is still in the master bedroom.

I went in there this morning to get a piece of jewelry out and my engagement ring and wedding band are gone.

I texted him and said "You took my engagement ring and wedding band out of my jewelry box. I would like them back."

He's read the text and has not responded. I am so fucking pissed off!! I'm pissed at myself. I'm pissed at him. I'm just fucking pissed.

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My rings have been returned to me. 

[demelza]

Ugh awful

[lilac05]

Ugh. Don't blame yourself. If it were me & my DH, it wouldn't have even crossed my mind that he would steal from me. I'm sure state laws are different, but I'm guessing your lawyer will guide you through this.

I know he's hurt...but that doesn't make theft OK.

[winelady]

I'm sorry.

[Deleted]

What an absolute asshole!

I'm so sorry.

[justkly]

He's going to get dirty. Make sure to protect yourself in every way possible and get out of there as soon as you can. Divorce is hard. Good luck.

[awick14]

I'd defiantly let your lawyer know. In would also move all other valuables somewhere save.

((Hugs)) divorce is hard and it sucks!

[Deleted]

My ex-H did that too

Remember when I said prepare yourself, because the worse is yet to come? This is what I meant. It will go on for several months. STEEL YOURSELF, I promise promise PROMISE it is worth it!

PM me anytime if you need support. I truly mean this.

[bania]

Ugh I hate him! Don't blame yourself (((hugs)))

[polka]

Ugh I'm sorry, Monterey.

[gretchenindisguise]

Definitely tell your lawyer. Those rings are yours, not his. He stole them and you get to have them, or the cost of them back.

[speckledfrog]

Oh man. Fuck him.

[mrsgoontz]

That is so low of him, I'm sorry 

[Deleted]

WTF?

No mercy. Time to fight hard.

[themoneytree]

The gloves are off.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this bullshit.

[cleo29]

Tell your lawyer. Not sure, but you could maybe call the cops, but i would talk to your attorney first. They are YOURS, not his to take.

And I do think he is going to fight nasty. I'm sorry

[Deleted]

Whatta prick. I am so sorry.

[flamingeaux]

More proof you're going to be so much better off without him.

[fezzik]

I agree, call your attorney.

[Jermys]

What a fucking penis face.

[WOT?*]

Call your attorney. Then file a police report. If he tries to pawn them then a police report is made and the pawn shop can't take them (we got H's work computer back two years later because it was on a police/stolen items report). If a pawn shop doesn't check the registry and gives him money, they're obligated to return them to the police/you and they lose the money; if they don't then at least he knows there is a police report and they'll be more difficult to get rid of. Keep an eye on Craiglist to see if he tries to sell them.

Rat bastard.  Keep your chin up, and protected.

Then aim for his nuts.

[Deleted]

Feb 27, 2014 18:05:52 GMT -5 WOT?* said:

Call your attorney. Then file a police report. If he tries to pawn them then a police report is made and the pawn shop can't take them (we got H's work computer back two years later because it was on a police/stolen items report). If a pawn shop doesn't check the registry and gives him money, they're obligated to return them to the police/you and they lose the money; if they don't then at least he knows there is a police report and they'll be more difficult to get rid of. Keep an eye on Craiglist to see if he tries to sell them.

Rat bastard.  Keep your chin up, and protected.

Then aim for his nuts.

I would advise NOT doing this.

He's not going to do anything with them.  Trust me. 

ETA:  But it's probably time to file MB   You do need to get a lawyer on retainer, even if you're not ready to serve him yet.  You can still get all the paperwork together and have it ready for when you are ready.

[WOT?*]

fields Why not? It's not joint property. It's her property. If he's not going to do anything about it, no harm no foul on the police report. If he does try to do something with it, then she gets them back. If he gives them back, she can rescind the police report. I know she's trying to keep it amicable, but he's not playing the friendly divorce game. He's aiming low.

My ex pawned mine, plus a few other of "my" things including my car. So personal prejudice and experience is where I'm coming from. I know others who have asshole exes as well. Taking her rings is the point where he's turned into the asshole ex. I don't know MB's ex or current situation well enough to say he won't do anything rash or extremely hurtful. Unfortunately, I knew mine would pull a stunt like pawning my rings. I don't know hers well enough to say the same.

And yes to getting a lawyer on retainer. It sounds like you need a good one.

MB, take the advice of the folks who know the situation better than anyone here. Talk to an attorney. (not me - lol.)

Good luck and I hope he gives them back to you without a fuss.

[montereybride]

Thanks, everyone.

Fields, I have spoken off the record with friends on the police force. The rings are mine, he has to give them back or face legal action.

I'm going to talk to him tonight for the first time in two and a half weeks. I'm going to tell him I want them back and see what happens. I'm seething. The later it gets, the more pissed off I get.

He's a dumbass for leaving his read receipts on. I have screen shots of him reading the iMessages.

It would NEVER have occurred to me to take ANYTHING of his.

[montereybride]

Feb 27, 2014 18:05:13 GMT -5 Jermys said:

What a fucking penis face.

This almost made me pee my pants. I snorted several times and then almost choked to death.

I love you, jermys!

[underwaterrhymes]

I'm sorry.

[WOT?*]

You'll notice that was the first thing I said to do. Call an attorney is always the first rule. The second in this case, at least where I'm sitting, would be to file the police report. If she doesn't get them back, I'd file a report and damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead. I'd be just that pissed. No turning back from stealing my wedding rings.

This was the main reason it took three years for me to file for divorce. After the car stunt, I refused to divorce until the house was sold and I got my money from the sale. I didn't trust him to be fair in the divorce - ever. That was my leverage.

But like I said, I'm kind of tainted by personal prejudice. I hope he gives the rings back and gets his head out of his nether regions.

[flex]

Feb 27, 2014 18:28:43 GMT -5 montereybride said:

Thanks, everyone.

Fields, I have spoken off the record with friends on the police force. The rings are mine, he has to give them back or face legal action.

I'm going to talk to him tonight for the first time in two and a half weeks. I'm going to tell him I want them back and see what happens. I'm seething. The later it gets, the more pissed off I get.

He's a dumbass for leaving his read receipts on. I have screen shots of him reading the iMessages.

It would NEVER have occurred to me to take ANYTHING of his.

I think that he took the rings so you will HAVE to talk to him.  He's just spoiling for a fight.

[WOT?*]

flex - when did you change your avatar pic to bacon-tongue? I love it.

And you're absolutely right on the rings. Doesn't make him any less of a rat bastard.

Bacon.

[cville]

What a jackass. Get them back. Fight hard.