"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
You know, if he was really trying to be "mutual" about this, he would have talked to you (or texted you as the case may be), and the TWO OF YOU would have agreed upon a neutral place to store the rings.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Yes, he is going to fight dirty. Insanely dirty. Get the lawyer involved, and direct all correspondences through the lawyer.
However. These texts are not proof of theft. Don't bother the police filing a police report. Theft requires a certain mental state and the texts prove the opposite. Time for the nest lynch mob to settle down. He's guilty of being an asswipe, not theft.
Yes, he is going to fight dirty. Insanely dirty. Get the lawyer involved, and direct all correspondences through the lawyer.
However. These texts are not proof of theft. Don't bother the police filing a police report. Theft requires a certain mental state and the texts prove the opposite. Time for the nest lynch mob to settle done. He's guilty of being an asswipe, not theft.
Post by montereybride on Feb 27, 2014 20:54:13 GMT -5
OMG HE'S PUTTING THEM BACK
/MB faints
I know, I know, I should have stopped texting him. I'm hardheaded. And Italian.
I told him that the local police department considers them my property and I told him to bring them back tonight or that I would be forced to file a stolen property report. I also told him that I have removed nothing from our home and have taken nothing of his and that I do not want to be vindictive either but that I do want my property back. I told him I would prefer to not involve the police and would like this to remain amicable with him retaining possession of his belongings and me retaining possession of mine.
He responded that he would put them back immediately and that he wanted to remain cordial with me and not become mean or vindictive. He said they would be put back right away.
I have to agree. There's being supportive and then there's working someone into a frenzy. Let's talk about what an asswipe he is while also keeping a level head.
Yes, he is going to fight dirty. Insanely dirty. Get the lawyer involved, and direct all correspondences through the lawyer.
However. These texts are not proof of theft. Don't bother the police filing a police report. Theft requires a certain mental state and the texts prove the opposite. Time for the nest lynch mob to settle done. He's guilty of being an asswipe, not theft.
You have no idea who I am but I think at least 25% of the reason I kept coming back to the nest/gbcn was to finally see you away from this shitpig and happy. Jesus christ he is a special brand of manipulative.
Fields, I have spoken off the record with friends on the police force. The rings are mine, he has to give them back or face legal action.
I'm going to talk to him tonight for the first time in two and a half weeks. I'm going to tell him I want them back and see what happens. I'm seething. The later it gets, the more pissed off I get.
He's a dumbass for leaving his read receipts on. I have screen shots of him reading the iMessages.
It would NEVER have occurred to me to take ANYTHING of his.
Oh, they are 100% yours. My caution in terms of how you proceed is based on the fact that this is now full on emotional warfare and pulling the trigger on a police report may spook him into doing even more stupid shit. He is lashing out because he knows he is not in control and is searching for anyway to get some over you.
Definitly talk to him and if he is geared up for a fight, then you know it's time to play ball hard core.
I had a similar situation with my XH. I hadn't worn my rings in years (pregnancy and the weight gain afterwards and they didn't fit anymore). My rings are soldered together and I kept them in my nightstand and one day I went to get them out and they were gone. I tore the bedroom apart looking for them and even asked him if he had them. He said he didn't, but I knew he was lying. I believe, to this day, that he took them and gave them to his parents to hold on to.
I called my attorney, told him my suspicions, and he told me to call the insurance company and file a claim, and to call the police and file a report. When I told XH this he said we should go through the bedroom together, not right then but the next night. Why the next night you ask? Because they weren't in the house, this is why I think his parents had them. My thought is that he had to wait for his mom to bring them back the next day.
The next night he looks under the nightstand, then under his dresser, then lo and behold he found them under my dreaser. I know for sure they weren't there before because my mom helped me tear apart the room and she felt around under there and just a few days before the dog had peed near there and I cleaned up under that part of the dresser. We would have found them either time if they were under there.
I'm glad I got them back, and I'm glad you got yours back. They are rightfully yours. If I were you I'd move them to a safe spot that he's not aware of.
That's bullshit about him trying to protect assets that are both of yours. Total bullshit. I hate dealing with shit like that from ex's for no reason other than to make your blood boil.
Fuck. What an ass. The same thing happened to me. He took my engagement and wedding rings and the other sapphire and diamond ring he had given me.
I honestly didn't push much during the divorce because I just wanted shit done. I did insist on getting both mine and his wedding bands back because I paid for them.
Anywho, I agree that this will get ugly. Have an attorney on your side to fight for you. Damn, when I got divorced we has nothing and he fought over a George Foreman grill and an elliptical. Asshole.
BUT. This is my standard divorce advice. This sucks. A lot. Right now. Maybe for another year. After that, you're golden. It sucks right now, but in the whole scheme of your life, this is a blip. You can come out on the other end much happier, and you will.
I think this is a case of hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. Hire a lawyer asap so someone else can deal with him if he does decide to play dirty and act like a vindictive bastard.
Mine took both sets of mine that I was saving for the girls. Since the original set was not given to me on a holiday LA law says he gets those back. The new ones were given to me on Christmas making them returnable to me. I told him to keep them all and give them to the girls when they are grown.
Mine took both sets of mine that I was saving for the girls. Since the original set was not given to me on a holiday LA law says he gets those back. The new ones were given to me on Christmas making them returnable to me. I told him to keep them all and give them to the girls when they are grown.
Note to self: If I ever get engaged in LA, would Labor Day count?