I might DD this later, it's a lot of personal information.
My sister is 37 weeks pregnant is on hospital bed rest and will be induced Monday. She treats everyone in her life horribly. She was supposed to get married to her boyfriend today and did not invite anyone (fine, that's her choice). Her bf is still married and has an issue with lying, and now they are not able to get married (there's obviously more to the story than that, but that's the condensed version). I called to offer some support and she was such a B to me and did nothing but scream at me and complain about the VERY nice things the nurses were doing for her "wedding". I have no interest in having a relationship with her until she can speak to people with kindness and respect. Realistically, that may never happen.
I feel awful for the baby, but I'm not sure I want to visit her. She saw my son in the hospital, then texted maybe 2-3 times a couple months later, but other than that has not contacted me at all in more than 7 months. I go back and forth between thinking I should be the bigger person and go see them, and wanting to just wash my hands of the whole thing.
By the sounds of it I don't think being the bigger person will get you anywhere. She doesn't sound like she cares enough to have any family around so I'd maybe visit bring a small simple gift if anything at all and thats it.
Do you think you will regret not going? Do you want to meet your nephew?
I think it is perfectly acceptable to wash your hands of the whole thing if you would like, I just don't want you to regret not seeing the baby. I don't think being the bigger person will do anything as far as your sister goes...
Sounds quite a bit like my relationship with one of my sisters, I have gobe months without speaking to her in the past. Typically when she is in an unhealthy relationship. I have told her in the past that when she is ready to have a relationship to call me. It hasn't been easy but I always respond when she is ready. I have come to accept that things are always going to be emotional with her but she is my sister and I will always be there for her and my niece. The distance between us at times helps as difficult as it is.
You have to do what feels right, but try and leave an opening for the future.
Thank you, everyone! Her whole situation is so bad, and she could have so much support if she wasn't such a little shit all the time. I feel really bad for the baby and it's really frustrating to watch and not be able to do anything about it. I hope it never comes to having to call CPS but it's a definite possibility.
I will probably go see the baby if she's still in the hospital when I get home from a work trip on Wednesday. If they have both been discharged I will probably skip it. Sadly, I don't feel comfortable going to where they are living for a number of reasons. Maybe at some point in the future she will get her act together.