I feel confused

[amberlyrose]

I was feeling all "I love my life!" and so grateful for everything I have. Tonight has been great, DH and I had tons of laughs, and my pups are being perfect.

Then I saw on FB my cousin ask who left gifts on her porch and our aunt said she did. Cue me bursting into tears. I miss my family, and if I live here, I won't get random aunt loves me gifts on my doorstep or coffee with my grandparents.

But I love my life here. It's so hard to see life going on without me back home.

[8675309]

On the flip side My brother lives in FL and I'm very careful about how much I share in regards to what my parents do for my kids on FB. He doesn't have any kids yet but I'm very aware that he might be a little homesick.

Sometimes ya just want a diaper drop. I've been fortunate to receive it. I'm sorry you're missing your family!

[amberlyrose]

It's just so hard because none of my family has ever moved away from home, so I kinda feel like the oddball. Thankfully, out of the 4 of us that were born together, 3 of us finally moved, though I've been gone the longest. The other 2 moved within the last year.

I really should call them up and see if we have the same feelings.

[polka]

I'm sorry

[bania]

(((Hugs))) I miss mine too.

[Booze Raccoon]

I've lived away from home and felt homesick a lot. Now we live back home again and my family drives my crazy. Now I think of that distance fondly. You can't win.


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[lilac05]

I'm sorry. I've been there, too. Now that my sister is planning her wedding, she and my mom are doing all kinds of fun stuff that I wish I could do. (Doesn't help that I don't like where we live now.)

I can never decide which is worse...seeing what is going on and feeling like I'm missing out, or owing that stuff is going on, but no one is telling me because they don't want me to be sad.

Sucks either way. Moving away from family has been one of the best and most challenging things I've done.

[isabel]

I understand. DH's whole family lives in another state. We tried moving there and hated it, but I still get sad sometimes about not seeing them more often. It's hard to have such conflicting feelings.

[amberlyrose]

Mar 1, 2014 12:00:08 GMT -5 Booze Raccoon said:

I've lived away from home and felt homesick a lot. Now we live back home again and my family drives my crazy. Now I think of that distance fondly. You can't win.


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Oh, I know I'd go crazy! Ha. They are in a small town and I'm living in downtown of a city.
My cousin that posted is 3 months younger than me, so seeing her take photos of her kids with my grandparents just reminds that we're living two completely different lives. I wonder if I chose right in those moments.

[jssymom14]

I know this feeling esp today! It's suppose to be bitterly cold and snowing all weekend so I can't travel 2.5 hrs to a cousin's baby shower and a niece's 2nd birthday party. My two sisters and brother, with their families all live in the small town we grew up and use my parents for babysitting and meals free all the time.

[Booze Raccoon]

Mar 1, 2014 12:51:23 GMT -5 amberlyrose said:

Mar 1, 2014 12:00:08 GMT -5 Booze Raccoon said:

I've lived away from home and felt homesick a lot. Now we live back home again and my family drives my crazy. Now I think of that distance fondly. You can't win.


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Oh, I know I'd go crazy! Ha. They are in a small town and I'm living in downtown of a city.
My cousin that posted is 3 months younger than me, so seeing her take photos of her kids with my grandparents just reminds that we're living two completely different lives. I wonder if I chose right in those moments.

I know how that feels.  You probably did make the right decision but there will always be pangs of things you feel you are missing out on.  I guess the key is not to focus on them and try to focus on the amazing things you get as a result of where you live now.

[Deleted]

I feel like that a lot too. I like where I live, but I'm here more because of circumstance than true desire and it sucks missing out on stuff.

I just try to remember that my day to day life wouldn't be much different if I lived near my family - we wouldn't see each other/do stuff together most days of the year, so I have to be in a place that is right for me on a daily basis.

[redwino]

I know exactly how you feel. I'm one of the few in my family to move away and some days it so hard. I say regularly that I don't know how we'll raise kids without family nearby but then I remind myself that people do it everyday and we'll be fine. I often feel like I'm missing out on all the little things like random dinners and kids sporting events. It the little things that get to me the most.
But when we talk about moving closer to my family, it makes me sad to leave behind the friendships and makeshift family we've created here. It's like there is no winning.

[alzi]

You can get care packages! Those are fun too!

[sparkythelawyer]

If you were in DC this weekend we could keep you way too busy to be homesick, that's all I'm sayin...