Awkward Situation...Ugh. Poll

[poopedydoop]

*poof*

[Deleted]

I can't decide. No to anonymous.

I don't know that she can get it taken down, so I hesitate to get involved or point it out.

[yourmother]

I would actually call and tell her directly.

[poopedydoop]

Yeah. I am leaning on pretending I never saw it and cloroxing it out of my brain.

[Deleted]

I would tell.

[Deleted]

If there's no way to resolve it or fix it, it would seem hurtful and unproductive to make her aware of it.

[W.T.Faulkner]

I would tell her. It would be very difficult to say and hear, but she deserves to know. If it were me, I would need to know immediately and would be really grateful to the person who told me.

[valetgirl]

If it was me, I would absolutely want to know. But I would probably be incredibly embarrassed to know that family and friends saw it, so I would appreciate an anonymous heads up. But then I would constantly wonder who gave me the heads up. I'm torn between anonymous and frank disclosure.

[TrickyBob]

I would absolutely tell her. This is something that presumably people will find if they Google her, including potential employers. She also has the right to know that her photos/photos of her are online like this.

[Deleted]

I would tell. I would want to know.

[poopedydoop]

Ugh. We are not super close these days, this is going to be so difficult.

[ElizabethBennet]

Another one saying you should let her know. I would want to know.

[lilac05]

I would call or send her a message immediately. I probably wouldn't provide the link until she asked. She may already be aware of it, and I wouldn't want her to be reminded yet again that MORE people have seen it.

I think I would be **slightly** less mortified in her shoes if someone told me that it was on a specific site, but I had to find it myself.

[dramallama]

Let her know. If you don't tell her more people will continue to see it. If you tell her, hopefully she can shut that shit down.

[flutterfly]

I would tell her immediately as well.

[poopedydoop]

So, a private FB message like, "hey this is awkward, but I would want to know. There is some bad stuff written about you on ****.com." ?

[isabel]

Mar 1, 2014 12:35:44 GMT -5 poopedydoop said:

So, a private FB message like, "hey this is awkward, but I would want to know. There is some bad stuff written about you on ****.com." ?

I think something written would be better than a phone call, so this is probably good. No way would I want to have to verbally respond to news like that. So embarrassing!

[lilac05]

Mar 1, 2014 12:35:44 GMT -5 poopedydoop said:

So, a private FB message like, "hey this is awkward, but I would want to know. There is some bad stuff written about you on ****.com." ?

That's probably exactly what I would do.  I may say "questionable" or "pictures/information that you may not want floating around online."