life is so odd

[studytime45]

Aww, Sue, it's not stupid. That sounds like a lot to handle. Is there something precipitating DS2's depression? I'm sorry he's not feeling well.

[milosh]

You have a lot going on right now, maybe you need to have a discussion with your H to get you both on the same page?

[lime]

That's a lot to have going on.

Can you do something that is relaxing today before you go back to work this week?

[UnderProtest]

It's the little piddly details that give the tone to the day. I completely understand where you are. I'm sorry that your husband is being a dick and that your son is struggling right now. Sounds like you could all use a vacation away from home right now.

[flex]

Mar 2, 2014 12:25:28 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Every day is like this. There are so many undercurrents/subtexts/underlayments/undertows. With dh, ds2, work, home, friend group. kids college. Oh, yeah, I'm doing the FAFSAs and financial aid and taxes to get done this week, so we can maximize the amount of financial aid we can get. College is going to be stupendously expensive this fall, the numbers are just dazzling.

This is my best friend, she's leaving for good, and it won't be long. Our group is broken into pieces, some angry at best friend, some siding with those taking advantage. it's terrible.

Grieving widows make really dumb decisions in that first year.  I hope the friends that are mad at her understand this.  : (

[venice2007]

Sorry you are dealing with so much. I pray things get better for you all. Hugs!!

[flex]

Your DH has issues that are simmering just under the surface. Any idea what they are?

[flex]

Mar 2, 2014 12:45:50 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Mar 2, 2014 12:42:23 GMT -5 flex said:

Your DH has issues that are simmering just under the surface. Any idea what they are?

He feels left out of the relationship with ds2 and me. It's partly true, partly not. He and ds1 are extremely close, and ds2 and I are really close, and now that ds1 is in college, he's feeling the odd man out. Which I get, entirely. 

I hope he gets over the left out feeling and stops being such a Groucho about it.

[flex]

Mar 2, 2014 12:47:14 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Mar 2, 2014 12:35:33 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

Have you and your husband tried counseling? It seems like things are often tense. I'm sorry lady. This too shall pass.

we need it. Some of it is the empty nesting that's happening, some of it is the strain of the money we're spending on college, some of it is us. 

The Empty Nest Syndrome is very common for causing strain on a marital relationship.  You spend all those years focusing on the kids, and then when they start branching out to start their own lives, the mom and dad are left with each other.  lol  That can be stressful at times when you don't have kids around.

[mrsukyankee]

@cse1960 - lots of hugs. The empty nesting thing can be really tough for men, particularly if they don't have a lot of guy friends. And honestly, they can't really talk about it to their friends anyway. I do hope you both get into counselling and that your ds2 starts to feel better.

[aussiecrush]

I wish I had wise words like you always do. All I can think of is to remind you to make time to take care of yourself in all of this, however one does that. Hugs.

[cleo29]

Ugh, that is all so rough. It is also hard and draining to be the support for a person who is depressed. Not that you would have it any other way, but it is still tough. I hope your son starts to get better. In my worst periods, I felt like i was trapped at the bottom of a well, able to see light but not sure how to get there and in the meantime it's like this monster has taken me over and I am in no way behaving like "me". It is both frustrating and exhausting.

I am also sorry about your group of friends.

[eb777888]

Suesue, I'm sorry. (((hugs))) I hope today is a better day.

[shoeless]

((hugs)) I wish I had good advice for you, but pp have covered everything I could have said, so I'll leave you with two of my favorite quotes for tough times:
"This to shall pass"
"She stood in the storm, and when the wind didn't blow her away, she adjusted her sails"

[wowhead]

Hugs. I hate it when everything feels like this.

I'll admit I'm being cheesy but this always helps me.

[jodinia]

(hugs) sue sue.

[themoneytree]

I've had a blah morning too. Play the 'happy' song full volume and sing along. Almost impossible not to smile. : )