So you missed where I said I felt bad complaining, eh? Plus I never said he needed a strict nutritional regimen or schedule, just a little common sense. Besides, I'm venting. But thanks for trying to make me feel like a jerkwad.
My intention wasn't to make you feel like a jerk wad. Just that sometimes, I think that people (myself included) tend to expect too much from their family members. I get where you're coming from. I'm just thinking that family isn't the best child care option.
And FTR, you did say that he was "schedule driven."
Sorry you're having a rough night.
Yeah. He is schedule driven but I'm not so naive to think that his grandparents would stick to it to the T. I don't expect much from family, after all, they did watch him all weekend for free and that was great. I don't even know why I'm still addressing this.
All in all, it isn't a big deal. It's not like they let him run in traffic or asked the creepy dude with the windowless van watch him for a minute. It's just annoying and heartbreaking having an little guy who is so exhausted he doesn't even know what end is up.
Get this gate. It fits in the doorjamb (on the outside) so that if/when he gets out of his big boy bed (and opens the door), he is still safe in his room. My brother gave me the rec, and it works great.
Get this gate. It fits in the doorjamb (on the outside) so that if/when he gets out of his big boy bed (and opens the door), he is still safe in his room. My brother gave me the rec, and it works great.
Get this gate. It fits in the doorjamb (on the outside) so that if/when he gets out of his big boy bed (and opens the door), he is still safe in his room. My brother gave me the rec, and it works great.
Thanks! We have three of those gates, we just forgot to put one up. lol
Sorry if I came across as preachy! That's just my worst nightmare, having my kid wandering around our very tall townhouse, trying to go down the stairs in the dark. We didn't get rid of the crib until E was 32 months for this very reason. I was SO relieved when my brother told me about the gate.
And, sorry about the soda for your boy! That's ridiculous.
Thanks! We have three of those gates, we just forgot to put one up. lol
Sorry if I came across as preachy! That's just my worst nightmare, having my kid wandering around our very tall townhouse, trying to go down the stairs in the dark. We didn't get rid of the crib until E was 32 months for this very reason. I was SO relieved when my brother told me about the gate.
And, sorry about the soda for your boy! That's ridiculous.
Lol M is still on her crib and hasn't tried to climb out yet....so I'm hoping to leave her in there for a few more years. She's small, so she could prob fit in there until she is 7 or so.
G is a hoss but he sleeps sideways with his legs up anyway so he might as well be half his size.
So you missed where I said I felt bad complaining, eh? Plus I never said he needed a strict nutritional regimen or schedule, just a little common sense. Besides, I'm venting. But thanks for trying to make me feel like a jerkwad.
My intention wasn't to make you feel like a jerk wad. Just that sometimes, I think that people (myself included) tend to expect too much from their family members. I get where you're coming from. I'm just thinking that family isn't the best child care option.
And FTR, you did say that he was "schedule driven."Â
Sorry you're having a rough night.Â
Oh FFS. Yes no family for overnight childcare. A random paid stranger is a much better bet. I can't roll my eyes hard enough at this post.
So you missed where I said I felt bad complaining, eh? Plus I never said he needed a strict nutritional regimen or schedule, just a little common sense. Besides, I'm venting. But thanks for trying to make me feel like a jerkwad.
My intention wasn't to make you feel like a jerk wad. Just that sometimes, I think that people (myself included) tend to expect too much from their family members. I get where you're coming from. I'm just thinking that family isn't the best child care option.
And FTR, you did say that he was "schedule driven."Â
Sorry you're having a rough night.Â
Expecting too much is my mom taking my kids to swim lessons, doing school drop offs and pick ups, etc. NOT not putting them to bed on time and giving them soda. someone doing something for free doesn't give them a pass for acting clueless.
OP, if you generally like your inlaws, talk to them! I'd have a hard time trusting their judgement, but if she's apologetic maybe next time she'd follow explicit instructions. She can't fix what she doesn't know is broken.
She did apologize... Sort of. Like I said, it isn't a big deal in the long run it just makes for a tough night tonight and probably tomorrow. I'll talk to his teacher tomorrow morning and ask her to let him nap a little longer too. No one will be permanently scarred from this situation.
Also, DD is always out of whack when she comes home from my parents or in-laws and they follow bedtime and no soda rules. Being away from home over stimulates her no matter what.
I would be angry, too. I'm pretty breezy about J's schedule when he stays with my ILs, but soda and an 11pm bedtime would have me seeing red. I'm also in the camp where I'd say something to them. You're not asking them to stick to a rigid food or sleep schedule - you just want them to use a little common sense. I don't think that is out of line.
I would be upset too. My MIL is always giving my kids big glasses of chocolate milk because they need the "potassium." DD gets growing pains during the night, so MIL thinks giving her chocolate milk all day long will help. Both my kids are whiny when they come home from her house.
My Gran had the potassium idea also but she gave us potassium through natural and healthy foods, specifically a banana with breakfast every day.
Ugh, I would be so pissed at the soda. I would be mad about bedtime too, but DS is notoriously hard to put down when he is not with us, so I could maybe let that slide. Honestly soda? He would not be going there alone anymore.
I would be really pissed at both of those, but in my experience, late bedtimes and food free for alls are par for the course when dealing with grandparents. I also think the pop is a generational thing. My mom was insistent when DS was 1, that he was thirsty and 'needed' sips of my Dr Pepper. No and no. I think sometimes they just don't get it. Given that this was more of an inconvenience to you and not necessarily a safety issue, I would address it with them, but I don't think I would make it end all unsupervised visitations.
My mom doesn't understand why we don't give ds soda either. Apparently at his age I drank soda all the time and I'm still alive. NBD. I've been obese since I was in first grade. But its all good.
I would be pissed. My ILs always put M to bed 2+ hours after her usual time when they watch her, even after I have asked them not to. They watched her Friday night and didn't out her down until almost 10 (she goes down at 7:30) and then MIL acted baffled when she wouldn't nap the next day and was whiney and clingy. It drives me crazy.
I'm sorry you had a rough night. At least G is cute! Silver lining?
We must have the same MIL! Although she would never feed them mcdonalds she would not hesitate to give them chocolate at night and let them stay up as late as they want. That is why they are no longer allowed to stay over MIL's house until they are older.