I think my grandma has lost the plot

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I feel sad about her being 3,500 miles away in England and our visits being very limited. My grandad died 3.5 years ago and things have gone downhill very fast. Today my mother calls me and says that she had being trying to call my Uncle and Aunt (who live around the corner from her) and was having terrible trouble getting through and kept hearing voices. Well, it turns out she was trying to dial the number on her remote control and was switching her radio on. She was completely oblivious to this. She has also not washed her hair or body since the end of December. She kicks out day carers that try to help her and refuses to go anywhere. It's not a money issue at all, she is completely independently wealthy. It's just I don't know what to do from so far away. There are far more crazy stories, but I digress. Anyone want to commiserate with me?

[lilac05]

I'm sorry she is going through that...and you, too. It's so hard to watch our loved ones' bodies and minds start to fail them. It's especially hard when they are so far away, and you can't be there to help.

[demelza]

Not washed her hair or body in months.....?? that is really bad and calls for serious intervention on somebodys part.

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Mar 3, 2014 17:00:29 GMT -5 demelza said:

Not washed her hair or body in months.....?? that is really bad and calls for serious intervention on somebodys part.

She wipes herself down with a washcloth and that's about the extent of it. My mother wants to take me on an intervention trip in the spring

[lilac05]

Can it really wait until later in the spring? I would worry that she couldn't call for help, if needed. Is there an Elder Services/Social Worker number you could call to have a professional talk to her? Sometimes professionals can get farther than family members.