S/O TTC

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I'm curious, have many people gotten pregnant after 6 months of trying without some sort of medical intervention? I talked to my OB at my annual, but she wouldn't even look at my charts or anything. She just said that if I'm still not pregnant in a year's time, that we can talk about it. I know we are getting the right timing, just not getting pregnant yet. I want a realistic idea in my head of this whole process on if it is common to get pregnant in the second part of a year trying or if the chances are low. Does that make sense at all? Thanks ladies!

[fusion]

J took 7 months of hardcore trying. A was 3 and D was 4. I think it is within the realm of possibility. By your charts do you have anything you are concerned with?

[sandj82110]

We started trying last January. Got a positive test the beginning of June but miscarried at 5.5 weeks. I then got a bfp on sept 1st. Not exactly what you were asking though I realize. It was a frustrating few months seeing that bfn month after month. I hope you get your bfp soon!

[AndyCohen]

I wasn't charting, but we were having sex every other day and it took 6 months with A.

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Mar 5, 2014 20:31:13 GMT -5 fusion said:

J took 7 months of hardcore trying. A was 3 and D was 4. I think it is within the realm of possibility. By your charts do you have anything you are concerned with?

Maybe, I have a slow rise in temp with ovulation and it drops a few days before I get my period usually, and I have a kinda short Luteal phase. I'm just not sure if there could possibly he a progesterone issue or something because of it all. I have upped my B complex even more this month, so I'm hoping that will keep helping.

[Regina Philange]

Love ya.

I cannot wait for your BFP. You deserve everything and more!

[devonpow]

Both my kids took about a year of TTC. No medical intervention. With Henry we started charting towards the end. With Elliot we were winging it. 

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Mar 5, 2014 20:37:36 GMT -5 Regina Philange said:

Love ya.

I cannot wait for your BFP. You deserve everything and more!

love you too

[Deleted]

It took me a full year after I had a miscarriage to get pregnant with A.

[fusion]

Mar 5, 2014 20:35:10 GMT -5 @huahualove said:

Mar 5, 2014 20:31:13 GMT -5 fusion said:

J took 7 months of hardcore trying. A was 3 and D was 4. I think it is within the realm of possibility. By your charts do you have anything you are concerned with?

Maybe, I have a slow rise in temp with ovulation and it drops a few days before I get my period usually, and I have a kinda short Luteal phase. I'm just not sure if there could possibly he a progesterone issue or something because of it all. I have upped my B complex even more this month, so I'm hoping that will keep helping.

changes in nutrition can take 2-3 months to help with fertility, so I wouldn't give up hope yet. I hope it happens soon! 

[kkfeb04]

It takes the average couple a year to conceive.

[tuck]

Mar 5, 2014 20:34:34 GMT -5 AndyCohen said:

I wasn't charting, but we were having sex every other day and it took 6 months with A.

This, but with Sadie.

[breezy8407]

I think it's pretty typical for 6+ months.

It took much less for us.

[formerlyllizzyb]

@smellycat how long did it take you the first time?

6-12 months *is* normal, but I understand your concern. Took us 15 months with medical intervention to get G, but I have horrible endometriosis.

[katfco]

Eight months of determined trying for Caleb.

[creamsiclechica]

I know it's discouraging, honey, but kkfeb04 is right. It seems like everyone gets pregnant right away or struggles with infertility, but it's not always one or the other. On average it takes 6 to 12 months to get pregnant normally. And even though you weaned, you did nurse W for a long time, (which is great!), but it can prolong a return to a normal cycle and ovulation. Don't give up hope. I know you will get pregnant. It had to hurt that your doctor was dismissive, but I think they're just used to saying "we'll talk after a year," and that comes off as cold and unhelpful. I'm sorry if it upset you. Hugs, big ones! If you need to vent or be upset about it, there's so many people here who understand.

[claralou]

(heart)

[rileym2010]

Mar 5, 2014 20:37:36 GMT -5 Regina Philange said:

Love ya.

I cannot wait for your BFP. You deserve everything and more!

This, hugs

[Deleted]

I thought that the statistic was that the average couple conceives with one a year, not that it takes a year. With William it was 4 cycles, but once I started tempting, we realized I was ovulating a lot later than we expected and then I got pregnant with 2 months of charting. My LP was short then though also. It's actually a lot longer now, 12 days. Last 2 months I spotted on the 12th day though, full blown period on 13dpo. So it isn't like my LP is that short any more.

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Mar 5, 2014 21:44:22 GMT -5 creamsiclechica said:

I know it's discouraging, honey, but kkfeb04 is right. It seems like everyone gets pregnant right away or struggles with infertility, but it's not always one or the other. On average it takes 6 to 12 months to get pregnant normally. And even though you weaned, you did nurse W for a long time, (which is great!), but it can prolong a return to a normal cycle and ovulation. Don't give up hope. I know you will get pregnant. It had to hurt that your doctor was dismissive, but I think they're just used to saying "we'll talk after a year," and that comes off as cold and unhelpful. I'm sorry if it upset you. Hugs, big ones! If you need to vent or be upset about it, there's so many people here who understand.

my OB did say that since he nursed until mid July and we started ttc in sept, that my cycle still could have been weird even thought it seemed normal to me. Blah. I suck at waiting! Can you tell?

[LiveLoveLearn]

Mar 5, 2014 21:44:22 GMT -5 creamsiclechica said:

I know it's discouraging, honey, but kkfeb04 is right. It seems like everyone gets pregnant right away or struggles with infertility, but it's not always one or the other. On average it takes 6 to 12 months to get pregnant normally. And even though you weaned, you did nurse W for a long time, (which is great!), but it can prolong a return to a normal cycle and ovulation. Don't give up hope. I know you will get pregnant. It had to hurt that your doctor was dismissive, but I think they're just used to saying "we'll talk after a year," and that comes off as cold and unhelpful. I'm sorry if it upset you. Hugs, big ones! If you need to vent or be upset about it, there's so many people here who understand.

I agree with all of this. It is so discouraging but the wait a year I believe is normal. It took us 8 months to get pregnant the first time ( which ended in mc) than another 5 after that to get pregnant with A. It took me a while to get my period back to normal after weaning and ended up doing one round of progesterone to get my cycle back and than get pregnant this time. I hope it happens for you soon!

[lolaburns]

I just want to say (((hugs))) and I think of you often. Love ya, A.

[devotchka]

We were lucky and got pregnant on the 2nd cycle, but a friend of mine tried for about 9 months for her 1st w/o any medical intervention before she got pregnant. About 6 months w/ her 2nd.

[spaghetticat]

While I agree that the issue may have something to do with your body regulating, I don't agree that it takes the average couple a year to conceive. That would mean for half of them it takes more and I know around here, they recommend you see a specialist at a year if you have not conceived on your own. It's different if you are AMA but I am almost positive you are relatively young, right?

I'm sorry you are frustrated. Ttc messes with you so much. I hope you get pregnant ASAP and if not, you and your dr figure something out that works for you. Hugs.

[lolaburns]

At my annual last year, I brought up we were going to try to conceive again. I am considered advanced maternal age and I was still told that it may take a year, or in my case, up to two because I might ovulate less. I was told to come in at the year mark if still not pregnant, though.

A, have you tried one of those fertility monitoring things? Would that maybe help you pinpoint better? I'm not really sure how they work....

[joyhart02]

My cousin and her fiancé have been trying for about 8 months now and have not had any luck. I think her doc told her at a year and they will start looking at medical interventions.

She just sent out wedding invitations for their Mexico wedding in November so I am unsure of what her current plans are ttcwise.

[jaime183]

Have you considered acupuncture to help with the short phase? I didn't use it then but I know people who did

[Deleted]

Thanks everyone! I've used ovulation predictor kits but I don't have anymore left and I really don't need them since I track my cervical mucus, cervical positioning, and temp, I've been able to figure out when I ovulate really well. I read taking charge of your fertility and used that info for avoiding to get pregnant, then switched it to ttc. I wouldn't mind doing acupuncture, I've done it before for other things and liked it. This issue is that it's hard for me to get away since dh works so much and we don't have a babysitter.

[biblionerd]

3 yrs for Linus.