Wedding Invite Question

[jaycee]

What in the world is "smart attire"?

We got a wedding invite from DH's coworker today.  Actually, I shouldn't say "WE got an invite" as it was only addressed to him.  No "and guest" or "and family."  Whatever.  On the bottom it says "smart attire appreciated."

And also: do you think they really don't mean for him to bring a guest.  Who invites a 35 year old man to a wedding and doesn't allow him to bring a date along.

[wambam]

On a cruise ship, smart casual means no shorts or jeans, not cut off tshirts, etc.

[MWOS]

iClothing

[pantsparty]

Dress like an equation?

[ECB]

Mar 6, 2014 14:56:32 GMT -5 jaycee said:

And also: do you think they really don't mean for him to bring a guest.  Who invites a 35 year old man to a wedding and doesn't allow him to bring a date along.

They may think that because they are inviting all (or at least a group) of CWs, that the CWs will all hang out together.  No need to invite spouses....

I've seen this come up before and people try to do this to cut their guest list.  So yes, I think they may really mean "no guest".

[ZoeHart]

Is it a CW he is close with? If he doesn't want to go without you then you don't have to worry about decoding the dress code

[janegold]

I wouldn't assume that he is invited with a guest or family; I think it's okay to ask, though. (I do think it is generally rude not to invite an adult to a wedding without a guest, though.)

Also, I would think that smart attire means no jeans, flip flops, etc. Which shouldn't really need to be specified, but I guess you never know...

[jaycee]

Mar 6, 2014 15:01:21 GMT -5 ZoeHart said:

Is it a CW he is close with? If he doesn't want to go without you then you don't have to worry about decoding the dress code

I've never even heard him mention this coworker before.

I'm also irrationally irritated because they didn't include a stamp on the return rsvp card.  That is so ridiculous that I even noticed, but I'm already annoyed that I didn't get invited.

Yeah, I think I should suggest we do something fun that night instead.  If we're getting a babysitter, I don't want to go to some lame wedding anyway.

[zitiqueen]

Mar 6, 2014 14:56:32 GMT -5 jaycee said:

What in the world is "smart attire"?

We got a wedding invite from DH's coworker today.  Actually, I shouldn't say "WE got an invite" as it was only addressed to him.  No "and guest" or "and family."  Whatever.  On the bottom it says "smart attire appreciated."

And also: do you think they really don't mean for him to bring a guest.  Who invites a 35 year old man to a wedding and doesn't allow him to bring a date along.

Wow. Not inviting spouses/SOs and telling grown-ass adults how to dress. Tacky from start to finish.

He's going to decline, right?

[jaycee]

Mar 6, 2014 15:02:57 GMT -5 janegold said:

I wouldn't assume that he is invited with a guest or family; I think it's okay to ask, though. (I do think it is generally rude not to invite an adult to a wedding without a guest, though.)

Also, I would think that smart attire means no jeans, flip flops, etc. Which shouldn't really need to be specified, but I guess you never know...

No kidding!

[jaycee]

Mar 6, 2014 15:04:07 GMT -5 zitiqueen said:

Mar 6, 2014 14:56:32 GMT -5 jaycee said:

What in the world is "smart attire"?

We got a wedding invite from DH's coworker today.  Actually, I shouldn't say "WE got an invite" as it was only addressed to him.  No "and guest" or "and family."  Whatever.  On the bottom it says "smart attire appreciated."

And also: do you think they really don't mean for him to bring a guest.  Who invites a 35 year old man to a wedding and doesn't allow him to bring a date along.

Wow. Not inviting spouses/SOs and telling grown-ass adults how to dress. Tacky from start to finish.

He's going to decline, right?

I can probably talk him into going or skipping it.

[Deleted]

How odd. I have no idea.