well I fended off the MIL

[wysiwyg]

Cut the bitch off right at the starting gate.

Seriously though, sorry your MIL is crazy Suesue.

[Deleted]

Slick move Mrs. Sue Sue.

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Shut. It. DOWN. Nice job my friend. Skillz. You got 'em.

[livinitup]

Fir your sake, I hope she gets a hobby soon.

[missyny]

Love it! Well played.

[litebright]

Mar 8, 2014 10:53:50 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Mar 8, 2014 10:50:41 GMT -5 livinitup said:

Fir your sake, I hope she gets a hobby soon.

I have often encouraged her. We've gotten  her needlework kits,  certificates for art classes of various kinds, offered to pay for any class she wanted to take, bought her scrapbooking things, anything she's ever remotely expressed an interest in we've sprung for. 

And, nothing. She doesn't read, doesn't go out, nothing .

I think her hobby is tormenting people. And if that's what gets you your jollies, you're never going to get the same satisfaction out of sewing or crafting or things that don't involve messing with other people's emotions. 

I loathe this woman and I've never even met her, lol. It's kind of awful to know that people like that are out in the world, just sitting around plotting for the next chance to make the people around them miserable. 

[Odonata]

Oh man I feel ya. MIL called H and I to her house a few weeks ago because they had to talk to us. We thought someone was terminally I'll or something.

Turns out they just wanted to say how horrible we are as kids because we never stop by uninvited. They said we cut them out and don't behave like family. I got up and walked out.

You knew there are always in-law jokes but who knew we would ever be living one?

[bonquiqui]

[blackcat]

Mar 8, 2014 11:16:45 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Mar 8, 2014 11:09:41 GMT -5 Que? said:

It's so fucked up. The thing with his grandma gutted my H. He was so close to her, and loved her so much. He would have dropped EVERYTHING, with my full support, to stop what they did to her in her last months. He thinks she died feeling like he didn't care, and he'll never forgive himself for that. Meanwhile, this bitch is sitting in her giant house, alone, or cruising through Europe with her dupe of a husband, rubbing her witch hands together.

I've tried to explain to my H that she has been telling anyone who would listen for years what terrible children she had, and she orchestrated that whole situation for proof. She's a maniacal hose bag. His sister and brother both get it, but he just wants his parents in his life and it's heartbreaking. I have so much respect for him though, and his ability to set limits. The only way she affects my life is this hurt I feel for him, but she doesn't get any of my energy or good will.

this is why my MIL does this stuff. Incredibly manipulative; she makes herself into a supposed victim. And then pretends later that she never did that, so why are we mad? or, if faced with proof, she'll say well you have to forgive me,  I didn't mean it that way, or that's all in the past, you have to let that go. lol HAH. 
the only way to win is not to play. 

I'm in the same exact boat. We haven't seen MIL since last June, she and DH exchanged an email last August, but he was still unable to get through to her, so enough was enough, and the relationship has been non-existant ever since. The tension between DH and I has just about completely gone away, it's been great. I should have removed them (FIL backs her 100%) from my life years ago.

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Mar 8, 2014 15:15:11 GMT -5 litebright said:

Mar 8, 2014 10:53:50 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

I have often encouraged her. We've gotten  her needlework kits,  certificates for art classes of various kinds, offered to pay for any class she wanted to take, bought her scrapbooking things, anything she's ever remotely expressed an interest in we've sprung for. 

And, nothing. She doesn't read, doesn't go out, nothing .

I think her hobby is tormenting people. And if that's what gets you your jollies, you're never going to get the same satisfaction out of sewing or crafting or things that don't involve messing with other people's emotions. 

I loathe this woman and I've never even met her, lol. It's kind of awful to know that people like that are out in the world, just sitting around plotting for the next chance to make the people around them miserable. 

That is a hallmark of sociopaths. And per the "Confessions of a Sociopath" article I read in Psychology Today, 1 in 25 people are sociopaths.

That is totally terrifying.